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Okay as the title says,I do need help.Just like what others on mfp has told me,I do need help.And yeah basically I just spent the past hour sobbing in front of my parents as they told me they were worried as I look extremely emaciated and they've discovered my love/hate relationship with food.Well,first things first,I don't puke after eating and I don't overcompensate by exercising IF I do binge.My heaviest weight was 60kg but I've remained around 53-55kg for most of my life.My target weight was 48-49 but currently I'm about 42-43kg.WHICH IS BAD.My diet now mainly comprises whole unprocessed food and I try to stay away from refined carbs and Heavily processed foods as much as possible,it actually helps with bloating and such as I've experienced bloating while eating last time and my diet mostly revolved around bread and lots of refined carbs.I do not eat fast food or desserts like cake last time cause I've never liked them and I still don't.I was surprised with my weight dropping from 44 last week to 42 yesterday so I actually binged at midnight and totaled up to 1700-1800cal in the hopes of seeing the scale go up the next day.I binged on lots of biscuits and crackers and one ice cream stick.However,I felt extremely nauseated and the next morning I had diarrhea,plus,my stomach still feels so uncomfortable now so I can't really eat much.And the scale did not go up this morning,I'm still 42kg.My parents are bringing me to consult our family nutritionist so I could talk to him about my relationship with food,and he said he would be examining my pulse rate tmr.Oh well,should I really tell him everything in detail like how and why I cut off all processed food and I rather eat some apple&yogurt instead of grabbing a packet of crackers like I used to do?i really do not know what to expect for tomorrow 
Man,I wanna gain weight but I DO NOT want to gain weight eating processed food like noodles,vermicelli,bread and crackers.I rather gorge on a huge chunk of chicken breast instead of eating a bowl of noodles.
Man,I wanna gain weight but I DO NOT want to gain weight eating processed food like noodles,vermicelli,bread and crackers.I rather gorge on a huge chunk of chicken breast instead of eating a bowl of noodles. 0
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Listen to your parents and seek help from a medical professional.0
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You need help from a registered dietitian who can work through your relationship with food.
Your apparent fear of eating processed food is in itself a form of disordered eating. This is something to work through with a professional.0 -
Firstly well done for seeking guidance.
You need to do it your way and not be judged otherwise you won't take guidance again. Attempt to make a plan with the specialist and together work towards a goal. Please don't get stressed or it'll make you feel worse and could make the situation get out of control.
I cannot understand how you feel as this is your situation but I like others on this site can listen.
Take care0 -
whether you're bingeing on carrots or cookies, it is the bingeing behaviour that you need help with. That being said, your relationship with food in general doesnt sound all that healthy so its great that you're speaking to someone about it.
I know that people have different ideas of 'clean' food, but how is a yoghurt not a 'processed' food but bread is?0 -
I would also advice seeking some professional help. If you need some additional information on that, please use the link below:
http://myfitnesspal.desk.com/customer/portal/articles/1575987-eating-disorder-resources
I would also question your line of what is processed and what is not. Also, there is nothing wrong with eating bread, fast food or whatever. Its all converted into energy and eating a fast food will not make you unhealthy. Heath is more than what you eat, its what you eat, what you do for exercise, genetics and overall lifestyle.0 -
whether you're bingeing on carrots or cookies, it is the bingeing behaviour that you need help with. That being said, your relationship with food in general doesnt sound all that healthy so its great that you're speaking to someone about it.
I know that people have different ideas of 'clean' food, but how is a yoghurt not a 'processed' food but bread is?
No no I rarely binge.Like it prolly happens once in a blue moon when I feel like it.And I usually don't feel guilty after the binge tho.I just happen to binge yesterday because I wanted to see if I would gain weight but apparently I didn't so yeah0 -
I would also advice seeking some professional help. If you need some additional information on that, please use the link below:
http://myfitnesspal.desk.com/customer/portal/articles/1575987-eating-disorder-resources
I would also question your line of what is processed and what is not. Also, there is nothing wrong with eating bread, fast food or whatever. Its all converted into energy and eating a fast food will not make you unhealthy. Heath is more than what you eat, its what you eat, what you do for exercise, genetics and overall lifestyle.
Umm honestly to me,I cut off bread,cookies,crackers,biscuits,noodles and those that fall into the refined carbs category.I do eat crackers sometimes while studying but I stay to about 2-3 only.0 -
whether you're bingeing on carrots or cookies, it is the bingeing behaviour that you need help with. That being said, your relationship with food in general doesnt sound all that healthy so its great that you're speaking to someone about it.
I know that people have different ideas of 'clean' food, but how is a yoghurt not a 'processed' food but bread is?
No no I rarely binge.Like it prolly happens once in a blue moon when I feel like it.And I usually don't feel guilty after the binge tho.I just happen to binge yesterday because I wanted to see if I would gain weight but apparently I didn't so yeah
looking at your posting hisroty you seem to have a disordered relationship with food, so speaking to a professional would be a really good idea, especially if you want to gain some weight and become more healthy.0 -
I would also advice seeking some professional help. If you need some additional information on that, please use the link below:
http://myfitnesspal.desk.com/customer/portal/articles/1575987-eating-disorder-resources
I would also question your line of what is processed and what is not. Also, there is nothing wrong with eating bread, fast food or whatever. Its all converted into energy and eating a fast food will not make you unhealthy. Heath is more than what you eat, its what you eat, what you do for exercise, genetics and overall lifestyle.
Umm honestly to me,I cut off bread,cookies,crackers,biscuits,noodles and those that fall into the refined carbs category.I do eat crackers sometimes while studying but I stay to about 2-3 only.
His point was that you don't need to restrict anything to lose weight. You could eat 1200 calories worth of those foods only and still lose weight. It wouldn't be healthy, of course, without fat and protein, but it can be done.
Anyway, I agree with the other posters that you should meet with a professional about your loss.0 -
Sweetheart you realise you have a problem well done on that as that first step is tough now go seek medical help and I would step away from MFP until you are in a better place I really hope you get well soon0
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I would also advice seeking some professional help. If you need some additional information on that, please use the link below:
http://myfitnesspal.desk.com/customer/portal/articles/1575987-eating-disorder-resources
I would also question your line of what is processed and what is not. Also, there is nothing wrong with eating bread, fast food or whatever. Its all converted into energy and eating a fast food will not make you unhealthy. Heath is more than what you eat, its what you eat, what you do for exercise, genetics and overall lifestyle.
Umm honestly to me,I cut off bread,cookies,crackers,biscuits,noodles and those that fall into the refined carbs category.I do eat crackers sometimes while studying but I stay to about 2-3 only.
His point was that you don't need to restrict anything to lose weight. You could eat 1200 calories worth of those foods only and still lose weight. It wouldn't be healthy, of course, without fat and protein, but it can be done.
Anyway, I agree with the other posters that you should meet with a professional about your loss.
Oh yes I do know that.I actually depended on energy bars at the first stage of my diet but then slowly I found out how unhealthy these bars were,I stopped them and switched to a whole foods diet and couldn't stop losing weight until like now...0 -
whether you're bingeing on carrots or cookies, it is the bingeing behaviour that you need help with. That being said, your relationship with food in general doesnt sound all that healthy so its great that you're speaking to someone about it.
I know that people have different ideas of 'clean' food, but how is a yoghurt not a 'processed' food but bread is?
No no I rarely binge.Like it prolly happens once in a blue moon when I feel like it.And I usually don't feel guilty after the binge tho.I just happen to binge yesterday because I wanted to see if I would gain weight but apparently I didn't so yeah
looking at your posting hisroty you seem to have a disordered relationship with food, so speaking to a professional would be a really good idea, especially if you want to gain some weight and become more healthy.
By the way,do you think it's a good idea to exercise while upping my calorie intake?Because when I gain weight,I wanna look more toned at the same time and not be fat and flabby and having a tough time pushing through my workouts because I feel heavier.0 -
Oh yes I do know that.I actually depended on energy bars at the first stage of my diet but then slowly I found out how unhealthy these bars were,I stopped them and switched to a whole foods diet and couldn't stop losing weight until like now...
the reason you are still losing weight is due to the amount, or lack, of food you're eating, not whether its 'processed' or 'whole' food.0 -
From someone who has been in your situation I'd suggest you get help before it goes any further, believe me the sooner you get on top of things the better, you could waste years of your life like I did. My advice is to look at what's going on in your life, relationships etc. As one of my ED specialists once said, eating disorders are not about food. Basically unbalanced thoughts and feelings relating to food are a symptom of another problem.0
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I would also advice seeking some professional help. If you need some additional information on that, please use the link below:
http://myfitnesspal.desk.com/customer/portal/articles/1575987-eating-disorder-resources
I would also question your line of what is processed and what is not. Also, there is nothing wrong with eating bread, fast food or whatever. Its all converted into energy and eating a fast food will not make you unhealthy. Heath is more than what you eat, its what you eat, what you do for exercise, genetics and overall lifestyle.
Umm honestly to me,I cut off bread,cookies,crackers,biscuits,noodles and those that fall into the refined carbs category.I do eat crackers sometimes while studying but I stay to about 2-3 only.
His point was that you don't need to restrict anything to lose weight. You could eat 1200 calories worth of those foods only and still lose weight. It wouldn't be healthy, of course, without fat and protein, but it can be done.
Anyway, I agree with the other posters that you should meet with a professional about your loss.
Oh yes I do know that.I actually depended on energy bars at the first stage of my diet but then slowly I found out how unhealthy these bars were,I stopped them and switched to a whole foods diet and couldn't stop losing weight until like now...
No one food is inherently healthy or unhealthy. That is a misconception you have. Bread, protein bars, rice, noodles, almond milk, dairy, etc... can be a part of a healthy diet. Your health is way more than what you eat.0 -
The diarrhea after binging is to be expected, just like the constipation that you get when you lie around starving. If this is an ongoing thing, I'm surprised you never experienced it before. That uncomfortable feeling in your abdomen is food. You're used to that "light" feeling you get when there is nothing in you and and the food takes it away. Other people - healthy people - feel like that all the time and don't notice it.
It's awesome that you aren't vomiting up the purges. You should be proud of yourself. Excellent work there. Good for you! That purging will damage more than your teeth. Don't ever, ever start that.
Eating healthy food is good for you and there is no reason you cannot live a healthy life eating healthy food. Lots of healthy people do it. Lots of doctors do it. You need not be underweight to do that. YOU CAN MAINTAIN A HEALTHY LIFE, EATING HEALTHY FOOD. (If I knew how to make that bigger and bolded, I would.) You do not have to live your life eating crap like Oreos and McDonalds and such. It isn't necessary!! Don't avoid seeking recovery because someone says you need to change what you eat.
For gaining weight, it'll be a hell of a lot easier if you eat some white rice, peanut butter sandwiches, etc. but once you are at a healthy weight, you can maintain it eating healthy food. Vegetarian sites are full of help with that. Your doctor will be only too happy to help you stay healthy while eating healthy food.
Ask your parents if you can get a therapist WHO SPECIALIZES in eating disorders. Whether you have one or not, they can help. And make sure this whole thing is overseen by your doctor.
You can do it all; just don't try to do it all at once. Just take it step by step. Doctor and therapist. That's all you need to do right now. Get those things checked off and then just do what they tell you. They'll walk you through it.
You'll do fine.
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It sounds like there is a problem that you need to address. But it also sounds like you are close to a very healthy diet.
Nothing wrong with preferring non processed organic foods. But at the same time don't Starve yourself if that sort of food is not available.
If you set your goal weight higher than your current weight and set the goal to gain 1 pound per week instead of lose, MFP will calculate a higher amount of calories for the day so you can do that. Then when you get to that weight, just reset you goals to maintain your current weight.
You can most certainly gain weight on healthy foods. Just eat more of them.
You can also work out and still gain weight. Athletes do it all the time. They eat more to compensate for the calories burned in a workout.
So while you are getting back to a healthy weight (gaining) you should eat your daily calories plus eat the calories you burned.
You should feel full most of the time.
It seems like you lean toward a paleo sort of diet. I have friends who have a strictly paleo diet and do well with it. I am able to stay on a paleo diet for about 70% of the time and I do tend to feel better at those times.Might be something you want to research.
The main thing is to focus on your health, and maintaining a healthy weight for your body. MFP is an excellent tool to help you do that.0 -
If you prefer to stay away from highly processed carbs, you could still eat whole grains, like brown rice, whole grain bread, whole wheat noodles....i avoid most highly processed carbs like that myself, but i eat brown rice, quinoa, whole wheat bread, etc.
See your doctor, but you could also try calorie-dense foods like peanut butter, which falls into the category of food you seem to be following. Olive oil and butter are good sources of calories as well.
Good luck.0 -
Eating healthy food is good for you and there is no reason you cannot live a healthy life eating healthy food. Lots of healthy people do it. Lots of doctors do it. You need not be underweight to do that. YOU CAN MAINTAIN A HEALTHY LIFE, EATING HEALTHY FOOD. (If I knew how to make that bigger and bolded, I would.) You do not have to live your life eating crap like Oreos and McDonalds and such. It isn't necessary!! Don't avoid seeking recovery because someone says you need to change what you eat.
For gaining weight, it'll be a hell of a lot easier if you eat some white rice, peanut butter sandwiches, etc. but once you are at a healthy weight, you can maintain it eating healthy food. Vegetarian sites are full of help with that. Your doctor will be only too happy to help you stay healthy while eating healthy food.
Your advice and also the one below yours is truly a mood lifter!:) I went to see my family nutritionist this morning,he wasn't really stressing on anything particular in my diet,except for the fact that I eat oatmeal twice a day for breakfast and dinner.He said to cut down on oatmeal and have it only for breakfast,apart from that I need more carbs for the mean time to gain a bit of weight and more protein as I'm severely lacking on protein.Other than that,my diet is perfectly fine since I'm very healthy.Also,I told him I experienced bloating eating biscuits and such and he evaluated other symptoms and told me that I'm gluten sensitive,which makes TOTAL SENSE.Haha I have speculated that I'm a bit gluten sensitive but I wasn't sure myself.Of course I can still have my occasional 1-2 biscuits but not more than that.My nutritionist was mostly just talking to me about how I need more variety in life,socialize abit more,and try not to take things too hard and be too "over-disciplined".He said there's a lot of trials and error in life and I should always try and discover & incorporate new things in life,don't be afraid to experience new things.Just relax.HAHA!I did feel a whole lot better and I'm starting to eat more lean protein and complex carbs like brown rice and quinoa.He also said he didn't want to see me gain weight rapidly nor do I need to gain a lot of weight.Since I'm about 43kg and 5"6,he said I only need another 5kg or so.And adjust my diet accordingly,if it falls below 48,eat a lil more,if it happens to go over 50,eat a lil less to get back to 48.He just left me to adjust my own diet because my situation isn't that so serious,and he believes I can and will do it myself,which I ABSOLUTELY WILL.Im planning to take it slowly tho,increasing 100cal every week.Im currently eating about 800-850,so I planned my new diet to start from 1000cal a day.And we'll see how it goes from there.0 -
That sounds like a good plan. I saw in the MFP goal settings that you can make a goal of gaining .a half pound per week (about 2 tenths of a kg.)
Using that goal setting tool will help you get your calories in line without putting on a huge amount of weight suddenly.0
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