It's like he doesnt even care!

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  • sconns21
    sconns21 Posts: 92 Member
    It may be that he also wants to lose weight so when he sees you doing well he subconsciously wants to see you fail so he will feel better about himself. It may also be that he enjoys his food and he enjoys having your lives revolve around it. I know a lot of men get annoyed when they have to eat diet spreads and skim milk because they prefer the tastier option and don't worry about their weight.

    I would be annoyed though that he knows you're dieting but is still offering you food. On the flip side however you need to get used to sitting with other people who are chomping down on chocolates etc because it will happen everywhere you go. People at work and friends will offer you sweet treats all of the time.

    Good luck

    x
  • hparke
    hparke Posts: 28 Member
    punch him in the mouth!!! LOL Just kidding but that s not fair to you!! Its hard enough as it is without enablers...Stay strong:wink:

    No its ok, punch him in the mouth. My husband fills the house with junk and says "Well if you dont want to eat that stuff just dont eat it ..."
    I really feel like hes doing it on purpose. hes not a sweets eater. he doesnt care much for candy, chocolate, cookies, pop, etc. that was my thing. so he knows that i know that these things are just going to sit in there until i eat them. or thats what he assumes anyways. the chips hell eat. but the cookies and stuff, ill probably give away at my first possible chance. out of sight doesnt always work for me. if i know they are in there, its always on my mind. ive already gone to the kitchen 2x to get "just one" cookie. but stopped myself (both times) and just walked away. but its hard

    Good job for resisting both times! I know it's very hard to do that. Could also be that he doesn't want to be left behind when you're succeeding to change your life for the better and the "what-if " scenarios come into play like you leaving later on or something like that ( idk, just saying).

    I don't know about your situation, but I know for me I've tried before many times to lose weight and failed, so he could think it's just a matter of time before you cave in again. Tell him you feel it seems he's unsupportive and trying to deliberately sabotage you. He may not even realize that it comes accross that way and ask him what his intention is when he does those things. Then tell him your're serious this time and you need all the support you can get, especially from him and that he can come along on the journey or get left behind (find better ways to say it though).

    The separate cabinet thing is a good idea also...or have him leave all that stuff in the garage.

    Keep resisting and fighting the good fight and we're all here to support you and help you out!
  • lesleyk26
    lesleyk26 Posts: 14 Member
    hes teasting you babes as my partner does it too he comes home with a pizza and cheesy chips and always asks if i want some but with us both saying no will prove you are strong enough to do that keep up the good work babes were all proud of you
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  • kwardklinck
    kwardklinck Posts: 1,601
    Bless your heart. I don't know why they do this. Maybe they're afraid of change. Maybe they worry we'll mess with their food. When I started a year ago my hubby was always asking me if I wanted a bite of his frozen pizza or if I wanted icecream. He bought me a huge heath bar (my favorite) to give to me with an anniversary card. I sent him to Braum's for milk and he comes back with peanut butter cookies with chocolate chips in them. I just had to really use my willpower here. I can't get mad at him because this is my lifestyle change, not his. He stopped offering bad food when he realized I was serious. He worried for a little while that I was going to go "too far" and either injure myself or get too skinny. When he realized I was eating all the time (but healthy food) and that I had more energy and strength than I ever had, he got onboard. He does enjoy the benefits of a smaller, more fit, and much happier wife.
  • bbb84
    bbb84 Posts: 418 Member
    You are not alone.... and i feel like i am having the same conversation over and over again. Ugh...I call him a "sabotour (bc i didnt know a word for someone who tries to sabotague)" give him the mean mug and go eat a piece of fruit. It's soo hard. Maybe these ladies are right, maybe we are being tested.....who knows? I know that we can do this!!! Stay strong and trust in your MFP peeps for support.
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