My kidney doctor decided all thats wrong with me is that I'm

Take a look at your quote again in your signature and tell yourself you will try and try and try doing this the right way. Restricting your cals is only going to slow down your metabolism and 300/day is really unhealthy. You should also get a second opinion on the blood pressure medication because one high reading does not justify medication. There is what we call "white coat syndrome" which is when a person goes into the doctor's office for some reason, the blood pressure shoots up. Take control of your health and your medical problems. You always have the right to a second third or fourth opinion

Don't worry girl. I know doctors can be harsh sometimes. I feel like sometimes they just have no filter.
Anyway, considering what you have to lose, you actually MAY be a candidate for a short (I mean 2 weeks or less) VLC (very low calorie) program. BUT, and I can't stress this enough, this is ONLY to be done under the direct supervision of a doctor or dietician, and while on it, you need to make sure you take sufficient suppliments so you don't lose your vitamins, minerals, and nutrients. I would speak to a gastrointestinologist about it, they can give you a better idea of how this works, and how it effects your food metabolism. I'm no doctor, so this is just an educated opinion, and I'm not saying you HAVE to do this in order to see results (you don't), but in your case, it might actually be OK to think about doing if done correctly.

Best luck to you lady, we're all here if you need us.

my nutritionist would never approve of that...she won't even let me do low carb...she says that it increases obsessive thoughts and stuff...

And she may be right, that's the thing, it's a personal choice. But with a lot of extra weight to lose, it's not usually any where near as dangerous as it would be for someone with say 20 lbs to lose. I'll see if I can dig up the New England Journal of Medicine article I found on it (Yes I read NEJOM, and no, I'm not a doctor). For now, here is one from WebMD that talks about VLC programs.

http://www.webmd.com/diet/low-calorie-diets

Ok--I had more to lose than you when I started--140 pounds or exactly half my weight at that time.

Now, one thing I don't see in your post (did I overlook it?) was any mention of exercise.

Are you exercising as well as watching your calories?

Also, don't worry about BP meds if it's recommended. Go on for now if needed. It might help--it usually contains a duretic that can help with water retention.

I didn't go on an extreme low cal--diet when I started in April. I started at 1000-1200 calories a day, with my doc's ok. Since then, I've upped it to 1300-1400 a day as I keep plateauing and need the extra calories to support my exercise.

If you don't understand the doctor's report, then ASK! Demand answers--it's your right!

Don't give up--you can lose the weight. I've been heavy all my life but am determined now to finally get and stay healthy. You can do it, too!

Ok--I had more to lose than you when I started--140 pounds or exactly half my weight at that time.

Now, one thing I don't see in your post (did I overlook it?) was any mention of exercise.

Are you exercising as well as watching your calories?

Also, don't worry about BP meds if it's recommended. Go on for now if needed. It might help--it usually contains a duretic that can help with water retention.

I didn't go on an extreme low cal--diet when I started in April. I started at 1000-1200 calories a day, with my doc's ok. Since then, I've upped it to 1300-1400 a day as I keep plateauing and need the extra calories to support my exercise.

If you don't understand the doctor's report, then ASK! Demand answers--it's your right!

Don't give up--you can lose the weight. I've been heavy all my life but am determined now to finally get and stay healthy. You can do it, too!

I can't really exercise much...I have severe chronic pain...and asthma...so it's very difficult...just like keeping my apartment clean...is a lot of exercise for me and very painful. I clean for about 20-30 minutes a day...and then short walks to like check the mail or take the garbage out...which take 5-7 minutes or so to do...and includes going up and down lots of stairs...

I was put on BP medication once like 3 years ago and I passed out twice in a week...and the nurse at the day treatment program I was attending took my BP and it was dangerously low...and they called my doctor and she took me off it. I still pass out sometimes..once or twice a month on average...and I get dizzy when I stand up too fast.

Wouldn't taking a diuretic make me get more UTIs?

I'm really sorry to hear about your trip to the doctor. It is silly for him to try to put you on BP meds after just one high reading, and I know it's upsetting to hear that your weight is causing health problems, but it's important not to take that stuff personally. Unless he actually said 'You're a cow,' he didn't want to hurt your feelings, he is just sharing with you his medical opinion. Doctor's can't tell little white lies or try to sugar coat things, and many of them do use doctor speak, because (in my experience) it seems easier to explain some bodily functions in medical terms rather than layman's terms; I'm *not* saying it's fair, just that the doctor probably doesn't have to people skills to TRY to explain things in a way he knows everyone can understand.

Can you afford a physical therapist/personal trainer (one who specializes in special populations)? That would help you get some exercise in, which would increase your metabolism and probably reduce your pain as well. Those with chronic pain or similar conditions can only do a few minutes of exercise at a time, so don't think that you're doing anything wrong. It just might help to have someone there to give you a structured plan and give you support.

Do you take any cranberry juice/extract? That has been linked to a reduction in UTI/bladder infections because it may reduce the chance of bacteria clinging to the walls of the bladder. I had a kidney infection once and it was awwwfulllll:sick: ...I had no symptoms of anything until it hit my kidney, so after that I took a lot of cranberry extract and still take it regularly.

Ok--I had more to lose than you when I started--140 pounds or exactly half my weight at that time.

Now, one thing I don't see in your post (did I overlook it?) was any mention of exercise.

Are you exercising as well as watching your calories?

Also, don't worry about BP meds if it's recommended. Go on for now if needed. It might help--it usually contains a duretic that can help with water retention.

I didn't go on an extreme low cal--diet when I started in April. I started at 1000-1200 calories a day, with my doc's ok. Since then, I've upped it to 1300-1400 a day as I keep plateauing and need the extra calories to support my exercise.

If you don't understand the doctor's report, then ASK! Demand answers--it's your right!

Don't give up--you can lose the weight. I've been heavy all my life but am determined now to finally get and stay healthy. You can do it, too!

I can't really exercise much...I have severe chronic pain...and asthma...so it's very difficult...just like keeping my apartment clean...is a lot of exercise for me and very painful. I clean for about 20-30 minutes a day...and then short walks to like check the mail or take the garbage out...which take 5-7 minutes or so to do...and includes going up and down lots of stairs...

I was put on BP medication once like 3 years ago and I passed out twice in a week...and the nurse at the day treatment program I was attending took my BP and it was dangerously low...and they called my doctor and she took me off it. I still pass out sometimes..once or twice a month on average...and I get dizzy when I stand up too fast.

Wouldn't taking a diuretic make me get more UTIs?

I'm really sorry to hear about your trip to the doctor. It is silly for him to try to put you on BP meds after just one high reading, and I know it's upsetting to hear that your weight is causing health problems, but it's important not to take that stuff personally. Unless he actually said 'You're a cow,' he didn't want to hurt your feelings, he is just sharing with you his medical opinion. Doctor's can't tell little white lies or try to sugar coat things, and many of them do use doctor speak, because (in my experience) it seems easier to explain some bodily functions in medical terms rather than layman's terms; I'm *not* saying it's fair, just that the doctor probably doesn't have to people skills to TRY to explain things in a way he knows everyone can understand.

Can you afford a physical therapist/personal trainer (one who specializes in special populations)? That would help you get some exercise in, which would increase your metabolism and probably reduce your pain as well. Those with chronic pain or similar conditions can only do a few minutes of exercise at a time, so don't think that you're doing anything wrong. It just might help to have someone there to give you a structured plan and give you support.

Do you take any cranberry juice/extract? That has been linked to a reduction in UTI/bladder infections because it may reduce the chance of bacteria clinging to the walls of the bladder. I had a kidney infection once and it was awwwfulllll:sick: ...I had no symptoms of anything until it hit my kidney, so after that I took a lot of cranberry extract and still take it regularly.

I have no way to get to physical therapy...my dad takes me to doctors appointments and I already have too many appointments and he yells and complains at me a lot. I have to pay him $40 a month to take me to appointments...and I only get $660 a month in SSI to pay my bills and for food and all. I was in physical therapy like 4-5 years ago though for my knee after I first dislocated it.

I take cranberry pills but they don't really help much. I won't drink the juice though...too many calories. :embarassed:

Oh ya, the juice is rubbish, mostly sugar which can actually cause more problems. Well, just make sure you're drinking a lot of water. I'd wait on the diuretic until you can ask a doctor. :flowerforyou:

There are personal trainers who make visits to peoples' homes; my previous MMA teacher actually did that because she worked with special populations, mostly the elderly (special pop. just means people who aren't the average 18-40 year old, basically...so elderly, kids, and those with any medical condition). It's somewhat expensive, but you may be able to save up for one monthly visit where they can work with you and give you recommendations on what to do for the rest of the month. They'd probably give you something like 5 minutes of speedwalking (based on the activities you can currently do) 3 times a week, and adding a minute every week. Then if you can handle any resistance at all, they may have you use something like 1/2 lb weight for a few exercises once a week. It's a very gradual incline, but it prevents extra pain and often will decrease your pain. I am just making educated guesses here based on what's used for fibromyalgia, but I think it would be worth looking into.