Not feeling very beautiful today :/

You are beautiful!! And there are men out there who love us for who we are, through thick and thin (my husband!). Just keep your chin up- you can do this!!

Ohhhh we all have days like this! You're doing the right thing for yourself... so try not to beat yourself up. I used to date people that were soooo blatantly awful for myself because I didn't think I deserved better. Once I started to learn to love myself, the right person came along. Maybe as you start to learn to love yourself (and yes, that may be as you lose weight), you will find someone... but my guess is that it won't be because you're skinnier... it will be because of the way you carry yourself when you love yourself more. That's how it was with me. :happy: Keep your chin up, and remember, the right person is worth the wait.

First; you are beautiful, doesn't matter that you've never had a date or any of that stuff. It doesn't mean anything in the long run.
Second, I've been in your shoes many times. Part of the reason I joined this site was because I'm tired of not getting dates, feeling like I'm not the pretty one and being a third wheel with my best friends (they're getting married next year).
I had several days like this last week, and so yesterday I went to the mall and got a make over. It was great! I feel much more confident just knowing a bit more about myself.
Buck up, I'm going to friend you, we can always use new friends.
I know things will look up slowly. Things will slowly improve. Promise!

Feeling beautiful has nothing to do with being beautiful, beauty is in the eye if the beholder. But if you feel confident you can be more attractive to others but also feel so much better in yourself. Your mood is gonna vary especially whilst changing your life, you are gonna have good days n bad days but you just gotta decide if you are worth it and dig deep to commit for you. The very best if luck from a plain Jane xxx

I met my fiance when I weighed 190 lbs. Since then, due to some mishaps with antidepressants, I've gone up to 262.5 lbs. He always loved me for who I was and never criticized me.

The guys who don't think you're good enough for them when you're overweight aren't good enough for you! I know it makes it harder to meet them, but I think of it as an advanced filtering system to weed out the superficial.

I can relate. I used to have days like that.

Everyone knows that "you are your own worst critic." Well, I'd venture to say it's about time you start being YOUR OWN BIGGEST FAN!

Men find a woman's "self-awareness" and "sense of attractiveness (for lack of a better word), VERY ATTRACTIVE. In other words, men like women who can work with what they've got. ;~)

Aww Lucy! YOU ARE GORGEOUS!!! In and out!!! And well..we all got those days, but you gotta shake it off! That roller coaster goes up...and then it goes down but it never changes who you are!!! You rock and you know it! To have come this far and accomplished so much!!! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! And just like all the other reviewers say, there IS men that love us the way we are and accepts us just how we are and supports and motivates us! Your prince is on his way Lucy! He just got lost along the way but patience he'll be there soon!!!!

Chin up pretty Lady!!!

I know where you are coming from totally. I was fat all through high school, and even though all my friends were chubby too, they all seemed to have no problem finding someone to be with, but never me. They started wondering if I even liked boys because I was never acting all gaga over them like they were, what was the point, none of these guys would want me. I didn't go on my first date until i was almost 19. Even then, I think the only reason we went out was because we had become best friends after I went away to University, and we were both lonely. Not really the best reason to start dating :P It lasted for a few years, but because of the way we started, mostly out of loneliness, wasn't the best way to start, things fell apart, and i was on my own again, and again, I was always the single one. And even though i never beat myself up over my size, the constant singleness always made me question if it was because of my weight. That was when i realized....the person I am supposed to be with will like me as I am, no matter what. So I stopped thinking about how it sucked to be single when all my friends weren't, and when I wasn't even looking or expecting something, I met the right guy.

Yes, some guys are looking for the perfect body on their woman, but I like to think there are a lot of other guys out there that look for the inner beauty, and the confidence that comes with it. If you can't look at yourself and like yourself, unfortunetly, others seem to feel that and can reciprocate. Which means...you need to understand that losing weight isn't just about being skinny, it's about liking yourself enough to get healthy!

I know, easier said than done, even in my upbeat state, I still have those days just like you, where I look in the mirror and go ug. Then I would focus on something about myself that I like, and only look at that. The fact that you made the effort to join MFP, and actually use it, well that says to me that you want to get healthy. So don't dwell on that other stuff, just dwell on the good stuff, pretty soon you will notice that you don't even look for the stuff you hate, but the stuff you like, and how every time you look, what you are doing to you body by eating healthy, makes that part look even better.

Skinny is not the be all end all a lot of people want to think it is, and get very dissapointed when nothing but the body size has changed. It's all about the mind. You can do it!

i'm almost near my goal weight and I still battle with these kind of days and that's probably because women are brought up to think they are never good enough, resulting in we are never quite satisfied. you hang in there, take it one day at a time and know that if you keep your eye on the prize that you will conquer whatever goal it is that you have. WHERE YOU FOCUS, YOU WILL LAND, so keep invisioning yourself exactly as you want to be and you will get there. i'm here to help you if there is anything i can do at all just say the word. love to have you friend me so i can keep you motivated with my daily health tips (that goes for anyone out there in MFP-land. Colleen from Seattle