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"3000" cals!? It would be nice if we can take a glimpse at your food diary? ]

Honey, why are you eating 3000 calories?

And one thing I've learned about men..it doesn't matter what size you are. A loser is a loser. A cheater is a cheater. Look at celebrities who have all the money and so called "happiness" in the world- except where it counts.

There's no shame in asking for help. And there's no shame in being selfish and doing this for YOURSELF. You're in the right place. Read, ask questions, join challenges and start today :flowerforyou:

And- you need to plan your food, not planning ahead in your case is planning to fail. What do you like to eat?

I find that logging here helps me to be more accountable. If you have a bad eating day just move forward. You WILL make better choices next time. You came to the right place for support. This site has been such a help for me! I'll add you as a friend...if you ever need encouragement just shoot me a message! You will get to where you want to be!

This is probably going to sound silly cause I'm sure you already know this but take a look at what kind of food you are keeping around the house. Get rid of anything unhealthy or that you shouldn't have. Keep healthy snacks. Even if you still have children at home, just make it an example for them what they should also snack on. You say that you lost 26-27 lbs so far. I know that when I get to a number that ends by a 0, its always the hardest. It seems to get forever to get under it and I get discouraged but hang in there. Maybe choose food that are healthy, low in calories and is bulkier (takes more room in your stomach to make you feel fuller. And how much exercise do you do? Cause to eat 3,000 calories, you have to work out quite a bit to burn that. Of course, these are all just suggestions hoping that something will click and work out for you. Sometimes we just hit a plateau but keep working on it and it will give in soon. Its good that you don't give up and keep working at it. Wish you all the best.

Where are you in your cycle? Take that into consideration along with any other possible hormonal changes and workout routines. If you've burnt an excessive amount over the last few days, you may be making some of that up. And mostly, stay on track generally. We all screw up sometimes. We're human - as one of my MFP friends so profoundly pointed out recently. :-)

OK, take a breath, girl!

First, what you need is consistency in your diet. Eat 6 small meals a day, and eat on a schedule. Breakfast, make sure you get protein - yogurt, egg whites, maybe a little cheese. Add a piece of fruit. Have some almonds or carrot and celery sticks as a morning snack. Can you pack your lunches? If so, try cooking up a pan of chicken or turkey breasts ahead of time. Use Mrs. Dash seasonings to cut the sodium. Pack about 4 oz (around half a breast), get some frozen mixed veggies and steam them up, about 2 cups. Add fruit. Voila! Lunch!

Get some bagged salad if you're pressed for time (busy mom!) and throw a couple handfuls of that together with chopped cucumber and maybe some avocado. Add a little light dressing, oil and vinegar, lemon juice, or whatever you like - you can eat TONS of salad for next to no calories, and it gives you nutrients and fiber, plus it fills you up. Crackers and hummus or fruit are great afternoon snacks. Again, try to get protein - it keeps you full longer. Evening snacks can be Skinny Cow ice cream, lo-cal pudding cups or whatever you crave - just get the lighter version.

I cook in advance on Sundays - chicken breasts, crock pot meals, etc. - and live off it during the week. Search the recipe section here for lots of quick and nutritious meals both you and your kids will enjoy. Take it one small step at a time and just try to work the changes in one by one. Add some exercise when you can - a walk or a gym visit if you have time. There are great workout videos available for under $10 - all you need is some floor space!

You can do this! Give yourself some credit for what you've accomplished so far! Give yourself a little breathing room, and don't try to do everything at once - too much pressure. Good luck! :flowerforyou:

I hear what you are saying, and I too love to eat. Logging your food, and keeping a diary will help, and so will exercise. Might I suggest that you try a plan that outlines what to eat, how much and when. I am using the Flat Belly Diet, and what I notice is that when I really follow what and how much is suggested to eat and when (they recommend following a 1600 calorie intake, with 4 400 calorie meals per day, no more than 4 hours apart), AND keep up with the water, I feel satisfied and am not "craving" something I "should not" have. The FBD has you eating one "MUFA" per meal, mind you it is a restricted amount, so you really have to be willing to weigh and measure, like 1/4 cup of sunflower seeds, or one segment of a good, dark chocolate bar, with each meal. A MUFA is Mono-unsaturated Fatty Acid, and they list five: 1, Monounsaturated oil such as olive oil, 2. Olives 3. Avocado 4. Nuts and 5. Dark Chocolate.

When you can allow yourself to have a measured amount of what you love to eat, you will feel hopefully satisfied. At least that is how I am feeling. I am trying to lose weight for me because I do not like what I see in the mirror these days. Plus I have two weddings this year and I want to look good for the photos (LOL). There is a psychology involved in trying to drop those LBs. I think having a "coach" look over what you are eating will definitely help. Chin up. If you make up your mind, I am sure you will succeed, but definitely do it for YOU! And don't forget that the weight, to stay off, should come off slowly! I want that quick fix, but it isn't going to happen. Carpe Diem!!

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