No support at home

He is just not ready yet, he is not ready to make changes for himself, and he is not ready for you to make changes. You can't let it keep you from doing what you want to do. He will be on board when he sees you being so successful.

Read this post, it might be the reason. http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/172858-finally-figured-out-why-hubby-hasn-t-supported-all-of-my-eff

Keep up the hard work !!! You are doing great ;}

You're doing great!! We're your supporters! ((hugs))

Maybe he is just scared that if you lose weight you will look great and will want to leave him for someone else. Idk, men are strange. My man makes fun of the food I eat, but says I am doin good. But he also says I don't need to go to the gym and sometimes makes a big deal about it. Oh well. Men suck!

I don't know what taking the Mick is, but it sounds like a jerk thing to do. Especially since he does it while you're exercising.

In his defense tho, most people don't notice you're losing weight until your 20 pounds down. If it was me, I would at least pretend to notice a difference or give you a "looking good!" every now & then. But all people are different.

And you really can't expect him to eat healthy just because you want to eat healthy. It's unfair for you to force YOUR diet on him. Admittedly, it would be nice if he did decide to eat healthier. But I'm not gonna give up meat just because my fiancé decides she wants to be a vegan and I don't expect her to give up wine or cocktails because I decided to stop drinking.

Either way, you need to talk to him and tell him how serious you are about losing weight and wanting to succeed (express this isnt a fad diet, you're trying to make this a lifestyle) and it would be nice if he gave you some support. And when you do, give him like 5 or 6 examples of supportive things he can do. We men are slow sometimes, so you have to spell out exactly what it is you want. Don't expect us to fill in the blanks. Once he gets the ball rolling with these 5 or 6 things, he'll start thinking up his own ways to be supportive.

There is a possibility that he is not supportive because that this is just a short run thing for you and that you will fall off the wagon soon.

The first thing is that you are responsible for your own happiness. Do not let him (or anyone else) be the excuse for you not to succeed. The truth is that you alone will either succeed or fail -- Although his support would be nice. Make some weight loss tickers and put them on the wall in various rooms of the house. Put one in the kitchen, den, bedroom, bathroom etc. Keep them up to date.

As far as hubby not eating right, that is on you too. While you can't control what he eats away from home, you can control what food is in your house.

Stop buying bad food.
Clear bad food out of your houses. Don't wait for it to be eaten -- Just get rid of it.
Make a meal calendar and post it in the kitchen. Weight loss does not have to be tasteless or painful if you plan properly.

I've been buying the Lean Cuisine Dinners in the bag. It is well portioned for a couple and it is cheap and easy. Prepare these with his favorite vegetable (adding some bulk to the meal) and you have a good meal.

Thanks for your replies... i think hes just wrapped up in his own lil world that nothing else really matters (or gets noticed!)

Just a normal bloke then !

There will come a point when your navel-gazer looks at you in absolute wonder and won't have a clue how you did what you did.

What we're doing (the weight loss thing) is beyond most people's ability to even imagine. Just wait when 13 pounds turns into 30 and you start getting compliments everywhere you go.

Last night I came home with my first pair of size 12 jeans and they were totally baggy in the hips of all places (I was born for skinny jeans). He told me they looked great and that I didn't need to wear them so tight. It's funny because they look like Canadian Mountie pants!

First I want to tell you you're doing great! 13 lbs in 2 weeks is AWESOME!! Second, have you tried talking to your hubby and letting him know that his jokes bother you and that a little support would be great? Worst case is you've got all of us here 24/7 for support and kind words! My hubby isn't into exercising or working out much with me, but he does throw in the compliments every once in awhile. Look at it as making you stronger and that you can and are doing this for yourself, no matter how difficult it may be.

Keep up the good work!!!

I agree I get no support from my family they tell I am going over with my diet I get better support from a friend

I don't know what taking the Mick is, but it sounds like a jerk thing to do. Especially since he does it while you're exercising.

In his defense tho, most people don't notice you're losing weight until your 20 pounds down. If it was me, I would at least pretend to notice a difference or give you a "looking good!" every now & then. But all people are different.

And you really can't expect him to eat healthy just because you want to eat healthy. It's unfair for you to force YOUR diet on him. Admittedly, it would be nice if he did decide to eat healthier. But I'm not gonna give up meat just because my fiancé decides she wants to be a vegan and I don't expect her to give up wine or cocktails because I decided to stop drinking.

Either way, you need to talk to him and tell him how serious you are about losing weight and wanting to succeed (express this isnt a fad diet, you're trying to make this a lifestyle) and it would be nice if he gave you some support. And when you do, give him like 5 or 6 examples of supportive things he can do. We men are slow sometimes, so you have to spell out exactly what it is you want. Don't expect us to fill in the blanks. Once he gets the ball rolling with these 5 or 6 things, he'll start thinking up his own ways to be supportive.

Very well put!! I agree 100% and we are all here for support!!