Something that bugs me

I congratulate everyone on a loss or being under their calorie goal for two reasons:

1. If I can't SEE their diary, I don't know if they are eating healthy or not, but I want to encourage them to try, to keep at it.

2. There are a few folks that are way under their calories for various reasons that I KNOW ABOUT. Whether they have made an announcement to friends or I heard through email or msg on here, I know they are going through some medical or health issues and are not able to eat well. In that case, I want to encourage them to stick with it and not just give up.

I agree with Katbaran, some people are going through different things personal, medical or emotional/mental and just have a hard time getting all the calories in and GREAT for them for logging and even checking in. I know it bugs you, I get that way too, but if you don't know what's going on in their personal life you really shouldn't judge them. I feel this is not a judgement site it is a support site. That's why I joined. I try to be kind because you don't know what someone has just been through or is going through and what you say could really derail them and they are just trying to do their best and this might be the only source of support that they have! My practice is, if I look at their diary and "I" think their food choices are not wise then I just don't comment unless I can find something positive in it, like they drank lots of water or exercise was good.
Remember this MAY be their only means of support for their weight loss journey and encouragement and good advice is what they need from all of us

Julie

Learning to eat healthy, is a full time job. I have never watched my calorie intake. Never watched what labels said. Have no idea how much of what I should actually be eating.

I almost always fall under 1200 calories a day. However when I first started I was at 600-700 calories a day, and I probably have been about there for a couple of decades no lie. Sometimes over sometimes under but I would guess around that everyday for 25 years. I rarely ate breakfast, or lunch...Just dinner.

Now I am making an effort to eat 3 meals a day, even if its drinking a slim fast. Its a whole hella lot of food for my system. I had no idea honestly the impact I was making on my body. Change comes but it takes time....I did not create these habits over night and they wont go away over night.

Yesterday I took my daughter to the doctors, then to get bloodwork, the library. Came home did some intense gardening for 3 1/2hrs and forgot to eat all day. Yep 5pm rolled around and nothing but water had passed my lips. Talk about panic mode. I had done so well the last couple of weeks...

I felt so bad, like how the heck am I supposed to take care of everyone else, if I dont take care of me...I beat myself up for an hour or so then figured today was a new day, and moved on.

I guess what I am saying is that people say WTG to me all the time on my food diary, even though I am under calories most days. It keeps me motivated to try harder, learn more ect. Dont give up on people just because they might be under. There could be real reasons why they are

I wish everyone great sucess on there journey! For me this is no longer a "diet" but a full complete lifestyle change! :flowerforyou:

I'm always under M-F but usually over S-S, it doesn't seem to affect my goals as I'm losing about 1-2 pounds a week. I wouldn't want to be under all 7 days as I would fear my body going into starvation mode; but I feel that any achievement should be acknowledged with positive support and if you really feel there is a problem and you know them well enough to say something you might say "great job but watch out for going too low on calories as you could undo all your hard work."