Husbands: The good and the bad hehe

The good: he's mostly supportive of my new lifestyle, and doesn't bring home junk food to "surprise" me anymore. Also, he asks before getting fast food to make sure I can get something in my calorie budget, and if I can't, he won't get it.

The bad: he keeps saying that he wants to lose weight, but refuses to make a plan to do it. I personally don't care if he loses weight from an aesthetic standpoint. I would like him to get healthy, but I love him the way he is. But it's irritating how randomly one day he'll complain about the way I've prepared dinner (if something's fried) or he'll just not eat for most of a day, or he'll complain about how fat he is, yet he won't do anything about it. Urg.

The Good, he supports my lifestyle and me going to the gym when I need to.

The Bad, He won't JOIN ME! I really could use him either at the gym when he can, or eat like i do.. When i have cereal and fruit, he has icecream and fruit.. come on.. help me out.

The good: The divorce will be final in 60 days. He's still fat, since he gave up after two months of MFP (ha!). :laugh:

The bad: He has criticized everything I've ever done. I've never been able to live up to his standards, weight or otherwise. :grumble:

Bring on April! :drinker:

The good he works constantly to keep my family supported. He supports me in all of my adventures. He is funny. He loves me and the kids. He has never cheated. Hes a great dad. He gives me whatever I want when I want it. He never questions my decisions.

The bad he doesnt see me as fat. He doesnt see me as skinny. I dont think my "sex" appeal ever bothers him. He is never ever jealous Every now and again I would like him to be sounds nuts right?

The good; well, he's my fiance and we're getting married in Gretna Green later this year - woohoo!

He's very supportive of my losing weight - but I'm left in no doubt that he loves me no matter what I weigh.
He's willing to try new things to eat, and we've made some great discoveries - he loves salad if it has a hot dressing for instance, and really enjoys seared haloumi.
He always tells me look good.
He admires all the right bits about my new body - the hip bones, the tight buns, the shapely arms.

The bad: we're both still overly fond of cheese and alcohol :-(

I am extremely blessed to have an amazing husband who is taking this journey with me!
He pushes and motivates me to get up and workout with him when all i want to do is sit on the couch and order pizza.
He has never once made me feel terrible about myself for gaining 140 lbs.
He has been more open to eating fruits and veggies and trying new foods. which is a huge thing for him. He's worse than a child sometimes! lol
and thanks to MFP he has become more motivated and is actually tracking his own food.

As for the bad.....
the only thing I wish I could get him to do is help me with the cooking. It would be nice if for one day I didn't have to worry about planning and making 3 meals.
but I suppose if that's my only complaint I'm doing pretty good! lol

I don't have a husband, but I have a boyfriend and I'd like to share!

The good:

He has never once made me feel bad about being fat.
He tells me I'm beautiful even though I'm not!
He tells me he loves me just the way I am.
He told that if being overweight wasn't unhealthy, I could look like this the rest of my life and he'd be happy.
He always gives me encouragement like "You can go it" kind of words.

The bad:

When we're out together, we tend to eat non-healthy food.
We don't really have time to work out together because we don't live together.

The good: he's mostly supportive of my new lifestyle, and doesn't bring home junk food to "surprise" me anymore. Also, he asks before getting fast food to make sure I can get something in my calorie budget, and if I can't, he won't get it.

The bad: he keeps saying that he wants to lose weight, but refuses to make a plan to do it. I personally don't care if he loses weight from an aesthetic standpoint. I would like him to get healthy, but I love him the way he is. But it's irritating how randomly one day he'll complain about the way I've prepared dinner (if something's fried) or he'll just not eat for most of a day, or he'll complain about how fat he is, yet he won't do anything about it. Urg.

I think you are talking about my husband here!
Good: Totally supportive of my weight loss even if he thinks I am obsessive (he is used to it I am OC anyway) He is thoughtful of what I will and wont eat, Thankfully he doesnt care much for fried foods.... he makes a killer bean soup... I just have to train him not to put ham in it. He pretty much loves everything I cook and tells the last at home child, one day you will miss this cooking.
Bad: He is terrible about chipping in with housework... part of it is my OC behavior, when I want it done it has to be done now attitude.. part of it is it just isnt that important. He works fulltime and has his own business as well... and takes care of the finances and outdoor work (accept mowing the lawn (I like to do that) He does not respond to nagging well..

Love this thread, Em!

Here's my take:

the good: he tells me I'm beautiful all the time; he works his *@s off for me & the kids; he is (mostly) supportive of my ventures; he's funny; he's constantly growing; he is reaching for his own dreams; he is very spiritual; he has never cheated on me

the bad: he is diabetic, which is a HUGE part of our lives; he is a junk food eater; he is gone 75% of the time now (because of work); he does not cook; he is very spotty about workouts;

Although I am male and therefore, not the target audience, I'd like to weigh in on this topic anyway...

The Good: I am extremely fortunate. My wife is a runner and runs half-marathons. She is even considering doing a triathlon with me even though she hates swimming and claims to be horrible at it. She is very supportive, we eat very healthy and respect each other's training schedules.

The Bad: Since we both have to train and we have a 15-month-old son, we don't spend as much time together as we used to. But, we cherish the time we do have and since we'll both be in great shape, we'll have many, many years together.

Also, for those of you who have husbands/boyfriends who are non-supportive or are supportive but bring home junk food, y'all need to help them understand how hard they are making it for you. We all love our wives/girlfriends. Those of us who are married stood in front of God and our friends and family and promised to honor and cherish our wives. What they are doing is neither. Tell them if they want to bring home the junk food, just buy one thing at a time and eat it in the car before they see you. If your husband/boyfriend truly supports and respects what you are trying to accomplish, he'll listen.

The good:
He's my biggest fan, totally supportive of my training and absolutely wonderfully supportive about my weight loss. Because of his job we often only see each other on weekends, and he always makes a point to notice when I've lost weight and tells me he's proud of me. He's a naturally clean eater and doesn't buy any rubbish that would jeopardise my efforts. He loves my cooking and he's a naturally active person and we understand each other's training etc. He's a fiendishly fast triathlete and doing his 6th Ironman in August, but he never ever made my efforts seem less worthy in any way.

The bad:
He can eat like someone with hollow legs and will still always be 10% body fat. LOL

The good is that my husband says he's supportive of my weight loss. He has started to join me in exercising, which I love.

The bad is that we have a different idea of what supportive is. It's not eating cream filled donuts, chips, ice cream, and candy bars in front of my face.

I'm determined to lose this weight no matter what he puts in front of me. No more excuses.