Being hit, when you are already down!

I can't give you any advice, but I'm really sorry....I'll be praying for you. I can't imagine how you are hurting right now. Thinking of you!

((((((((((((((((((((big hug)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Honey you are not alone here. I feel for you because I went threw the same thing 9 months ago. It will get better, you will get angry, sad, mad, hurt, angry. My heart hurts just reading your post! Feel free to add me as a friend if you would like to chat more.

Do NOT feel stupid! This is what this community is about. My now ex husband did the same thing. We were officially divorced on the third of this month.
Feel free to friend me or PM me if you want to talk. I've been in the boat that you're in right now.
*hugs*

Yuur not stupid ! Your venting! And that is a reasonable thing to do! It will after all affect your state of mind and hence your weight! You didn't say whether or not you were divorcing but I suggest you take a time out and give yourself and your spouse time to evaluate the situation. If you decide that you need to be on your own then... you will find the support you need. Nothing is ever taken away without something else showing up to replace it.
Hang in there!
Marylee

Life's journey's sometimes seem to take a path we never intended to go down, however, one day there will be a time when you look back and thank God you went. Everything in life happens for a reason. We may not understand today why or how, and beg everyday for an explanation, but just understand it was ment to be. Confused and angry is healthy.. don't get blinded. Continue to focus on yourself and children (no matter how old they are), and let selfish people walk away. One day they may realize their mistake and learn from it. In the mean time, take care of yourself, LOVE yourself, and continue to lean on anyone who will listen (even if its a friend on MFP).. there will always be someone who takes the time to listen. Good luck.. and everyone here is here for YOU.

Honey you are in the right place. Feel free to friend me I feel for you (btdt). My ONLY words of advice ... don't let this sabotage you right now. Keep your chin up, ((((lots of hugs))).

first of all, I'm so sorry that you are going through this and nothing I or anyone else will say will help make it better except to let you know that you are not alone. you may never meet any of us or even know our real names, but the one thing I have discovered about MFP is that we really, truly care for and about each other.
some people can't handle any sort of change in the status quo and perhaps your husband is one--regardless, I hope you don't blame yourself and think that your decision to make yourself important gave your husband the right to cheat--there is no excuse or justification for that.
I imagine that the anger will come, but right now give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel--there's no right or wrong way to feel, no right or wrong order that the feelings come. it is heartbreaking.
Can you contact a couselor? A pastor or priest? Someone on the outside that can help you sort out your feelings and help keep you focused on yourself and pushing through. You don't have to do this alone. Whatever you do, don't give up!!!
I wish you peace and comfort and strength.

don't feel stupid. You have every reason to feel devastated and to grab onto whatever help you can right now. Take one day at a time. Concentrate on breathing and putting one foot in front of the other. Even if you don't feel like it - go through the motions of your day to day routine. And continue to reach out for support wherever it is available. My heart goes out to you. Hang in there. elli

So sorry for your pain...dont know the situation details but you WILL survive. My marriage ended because of infidelity but my mom stayed with my dad after he cheated and said the marriage was better after they worked through it. Reach out if you need support.

Same with my parents, my parents are much closer after they actually got a divorce due to cheating and now they are closer then ever and actually moved back in together. I dont wish this on anyone, but sometimes negative things come to become positive. My parents were married nearly 25yrs when this happened.

i was married and had a similar thing..except it wasn't 20 yrs and 2 children..i felt so alone since i had no family near me i had to make a new social network and start over...it was a low point...you are going to have a rough time for some time but it will get better...and you just need to realize this is his shortcoming...you post anytime you need to and know we are all here supporting each other

First off, you are never alone. unfortunately, there are alot of people out in this community that have been thru
something like this and can offer you support. My advice....just remember that this is because of who HE is
not because of who YOU are. Unfortunately, you and your children have been hurt by his actions.
my other advice..... when you are alone, pretend that a pillow or if you are out for a walk in a park (pretend that a tree) !is
your husband. yell and scream at that object....get it all out of your system. it will make you feel some what relieved.
Try hard not to let this derail your plans to better yourself physcially....your children will need a healthy mother!
Good luck and dont give up.

Don't feel stupid by any means....I wish I had the courage you had to put your post on here....I had something happen in my life this weekend that has turned my life upside down...an I don't know how to deal with my emotions right now....but we are all here for each other...not just for our weight but our lives. Feel free to add me as a friend if you want or message if you need someone to vent/talk to.