Unsupportive Facebook friends

I don't share my MFP stuff on Facebook. Most of my "real life" friends know that I'm exercising and watching what I'm eating anyways and when I meet a big goal I mention it, but I don't update all of my exercise stuff or when I'm under on calories, etc.

I know how that is! I decided NOT to link mfp to fb because of people opinions! I get the same crap at work, I work in a kitchen at a school, and they laugh at me for not eating what they eat. I will have some fruit and veggies but I can't have what they have. So, I would do the same, don't let this get you down! You know what you need...take care!!! Melissa

I get the - how long are you going to stick with it this time Wendi? from my FB friends...... I want to say F/U!!

Sadly most of my FB friends are real life family and friends!!!!! JERKS!!

I know exactly what you mean! I have not even tried posting any of my goals on my Facebook because I know I will get mixed replies from my friends. They don't mean any harm but sometimes I just want to do things for myself without worrying about other people's opinions. BUt at the same time it doesn't hurt to have some motivation and support, and I've found that here with MFP. We're all going through the same process and using the same tool to get us to our goal. Sometimes people on the outside looking in just won't understand the details that we get excited about such as having extra calories or going below our calorie goal.
But i'm glad you MFP just as much as me, and once you reach that goal all your fb friends will be like ooooh so it did work out for you the way, your way. lol
good luck

I don't put mine up on Facebook because it seems that many of my friends want me to just stay the same as I have always been and even though I am still a "big" girl they think I am too skinny

I feel the same way when I lost 10 pounds I posted about it, I was so happy about it. I got back some mean comments or nothing, I was hurt. I just quit sharing on facebook, I don't need the negative. I was never overweigh just carried around about 20 extra pounds after having kids, so people are always telling me that I have unreal goals of loosing that weigh. I'm not just trying to loose the weigh but get healthy. I agree with people on here being supportive so this is now where I post.

Other then my two gym buddies I can't talk to any of my friends about weight loss or health. Even my gym friends aren't interested about anything on the nutritional side. I have my mom and sister on my MFP and thats all the outside support I get. I wouldn't even bother putting it on facebook,I only have about 15 lbs to lose and a lot of my friends are overweight or obese and get angry when I mention anything about myself losing weight.

I DO NOT update on facebook...I would say most of those people are in a different place than me. And, typically, like you said, they think that I am okay the way I am, that I am going to wither away with that few calories, that I am wasting my time.

MFP is for support with the facebook-like features...Now, I have made some pretty good "friends" on here, and may even meet a couple of them some day. I also am pretty selective on my MFP friends. I don't just friend anyone, and if I un-friend someone, it is not generally a personal thing. I am not trying to offend anyone, I just have different goals and ideals. I look for supportive people who do the same activities as me. I also only "friend" females in my general age range...that's just me.

Par for the course, I suppose.

Most peoe just don't get it. Whether they don't want you to succeed, or are playing keyboard commando, I don't know. I get the same thing. I eat my meals at specific times, usually before and after lunch during the work week. So few people see me eat. They ask if i am starving myself. But when I do eat, they comment how nice it would be if they could eat all they want and not put weight on... not having a clue how much time and energy i put into myself. I find it best to just let it slide.
But; when boating weather gets here, I'll be the one with out a shirt on.

i know if i start posting mfp stuff on face book, i'll get some randoms that i knew in high school saying, oh hun, you don't need to lose weight, but i don't think they realize that i've gained 10 pounds since we graduated and its a never ending spiral if i don't get it under control. I think once i get to my goal of loosing 40 pounds and there will be an obvious difference i might post a side by side picture of myself like people do here on mfp and so people can just congratulate me. i know there will be people who will want to see that or will get inspiration from it, so at that point i think its worth it to post on face book.
But for now, i don't think any of my face book friends will appreciate me posting every week that i've lost 2 pounds or whatever lol.

I agree. I have not put this on my FB yet and probably won't...at least untill I lose quite a bit. I have lots of friend who would be supportive but there are a lot of aquantises ( now you know my dirty little secret...i'm a horrible speller!) who just would not 'get' it. And lets face it we all have those 'friends' who would secretly like to see us fail. At least at this site we are ALL here to improve our fitness and health and with that is losing weight. So don't feel bad about not sharing this part of your life with your FB family!

Keep up the good work! And if I would have stopped and done something about my weight whe I gained that FIRST 10 lbs, I wouldn't need to lose 100 now!! So kudos to you for getting on top of it before it gets on top of you!!! Those young girls that are closest to me I always tell them "The best advice I can give you is to not let those 5 lbs turn into 10, keep on top of your health/weight, do what ever it takes to stay in your healthy range."

Best of luck to you!:bigsmile:

Most people that have not made an effort to analyze or really consider how many calories they are consuming or what they are eating would have a reaction to the 1600 calorie number. Even if you're the type that goes around reading nutritional labels often you might be thinking constantly that '2000' is the magic number for any living adult vs those people that really focus on finding out a lot of details about nutrition etc.
Also as you mention you want to lose 10 lbs- they might think you're being extreme. Or they might just not even care? People like to be entertained on FB by funny or unusual drama and make jokes and argue.
One of the reasons why MFP is so awesome is that we're all trying to do the same thing relatively speaking. So it's easier for the MFP crew you have on here to focus on that AND have fun (at least, for me, in my case, and my friends) and throw around caloric and GW encouragement.

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I don't want my RL friends and family (with the exception of my husband) knowing all of the details of my ups and downs and how many calories I'm taking in and if I work out or not. This is just the way I am, not an explanation of how anyone else should view their own journey.
Then again- I dislike FB and don't use it with the same intensity that others do. Even when I see people in my family IRL, I don't talk about this process at all. I'll just know I have all of the support I'll ever need when they see me in a miniskirt.

I used to have my MFP linked to FB too and unlinked it! I got all kinds of weird comments too. :huh: I just chalked it up to the fact that I must be making some people feel lazy :laugh: ! Luckily I have a very supportive family and, of course, my MFP family that just rocks beyond words!! You just do what you need to do for yourself and keep up the good work! There are a lot more benefits to this than losing pounds. A person can be "skinny" and unhealthy. Kudos to you wanting to be healthy! :drinker: