Who are you to judge my goal?

UGH I cant stand that! poeple tell me all the time. YOUR SKINNY why are you on a diet? Why do you work out? seriously SHUTUP! They dont know me well enough to say that or even think that way! Just because Im skinnier then THEY are doesnt make me "skinny" I have a tummy from having my boys they dont see. That doesnt make me "skinny" People need to get a grip!

You know your body better than anyone. Do I think that's extreme, sure, but that's my opinion. Just remember that muscle weighs more so 115 may not be realistic with the muscle tone you want. It's all a learning process. You need to figure out what is best for you and be what YOU think is right! I'm sure your friends are just concerned that's all.

Ok so here's the deal. Some people are being critical of the goal I have. I am 5 foot 6 inches tall and I currently weigh 130.2lbs. My goal is to be 115lbs. I have been told several times by many different friends that this is too small or too skinny.. HELLO in high school I was the same height and I barely weighed 100lbs and had the nickname bones!

I don’t think that 115 is too skinny. I want muscle on my body too not just bones!

Does this sound unrealistic to you? OR are my critics just being jerks?

It sounds as though it would be on the very low end of healthy, depending on your body type, and well below healthy for many of your height (though not all). I'm an inch taller than you are and if I get under 130, people invariably ask me if I am tired, ill, etc.

I've gone there when I was younger and had a 'number' fixated in my head. But I'll tell you that for me it was not good. I was wan and pale for the first time in my life and I was eating very poorly and insufficiently while working out like a maniac. Again, that's me. For my build, 132-142 while eating well and being active keeps me in a size 4-6. Below that I look and feel unwell. However, I have some freinds who are healthy and active at higher and lower weights for the same height.

I guess the real question comes down to WHY do you want to be 115? What's the reasoning behind that? It may be good or it may be flawed.

As long as you feel good and good about it screw everyone else

I am almost as tall as you and used to weigh less than that when I was a teenager, but you said it yourself in your post, you were called BONES...that is not a good thing!! I think you might be too thin at that weight for someone of your height, I would ask a Dr to give you a better idea of the healthy weight range for your height and frame, this might be around 125 at the lowest if I remember correctly

if you want muscle then 115 is a bit two low, muscle weighs more than fat by volume remmeber

I think everyone's "ideal" weight is different based on their body type. i can't even imagine wanting to be 115 pounds at 5'4" - way too thin for me, but I know others who strife for it.

At your height and 115 though - you are right on the edge of being considered underweight by BMI standards. So, I would definitely consult with your doctor before setting this goal. Being underweight is just a big of health risk as being overweight. 130 is a perfectly healthy weight at your height and even on the low side of a healthy BMI.

This old dog likes a little meat on the bones.

Just my opinion, 115 sounds a little small to me, but everyone is built differently. I'm 5'7" and 125 is my goal, I may be built a little bitter than you and I know I can't pull off any less than 125. If your built really small framed then 115 might work for you. Measure yourself as well as weighing in on the scale and look at yourself in the mirror, You'll know when to stop. Good luck

I don't think you can necessarily judge this by BMI since it is so close to the underweight category. I've had a BMI of 20 but had a fat mass that was dangerously low.

Obviously, it's a difficult situation to judge. I do have to say though, that when my friends (well, the few brave enough to say so) were telling me that I was working out too much and didn't need to lose any more weight - they were right. I look at the photos now and think I was disgustingly thin but at the time I still thought I was fat. Our perception of ourselves isn't always the most accurate.

I've lost a lot of weight in the past 2 years...more than what my ticker here says. I'm constantly being asked if I'm at my weight goal and when I say no I want to lose another 20-30 pounds people flip out! They go on and on about how I've lost enough weight and if I lose more I'll look sickly...they are just use to me being 150 pounds overweight!!

We each have our own goals and it's no one else's business!! I do agree that your friends are just concerned, but you aren't alone in getting frustrated!! I'd go by how you feel, that's what I'm going to do.

Take care!!!

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got to say this a one stage I lost a lot of weight and thought I was ok but was still unhappy with my tummy area, recently I looked at some pictures of me on holiday and the sun had caught me and to tell you the truth I was so freaked out I was a bag of bones and where the sun had caught me well it made me feel sick. Take phots as you go and remember to refer and scrutinise them as you would a stranger if it looks good ok but if it makes you feel that it's too far change your goals, good luck to you.

Ok so here's the deal. Some people are being critical of the goal I have. I am 5 foot 6 inches tall and I currently weigh 130.2lbs. My goal is to be 115lbs. I have been told several times by many different friends that this is too small or too skinny.. HELLO in high school I was the same height and I barely weighed 100lbs and had the nickname bones!

I don’t think that 115 is too skinny. I want muscle on my body too not just bones!

Does this sound unrealistic to you? OR are my critics just being jerks?

It sounds as though it would be on the very low end of healthy, depending on your body type, and well below healthy for many of your height (though not all). I'm an inch taller than you are and if I get under 130, people invariably ask me if I am tired, ill, etc.

I've gone there when I was younger and had a 'number' fixated in my head. But I'll tell you that for me it was not good. I was wan and pale for the first time in my life and I was eating very poorly and insufficiently while working out like a maniac. Again, that's me. For my build, 132-142 while eating well and being active keeps me in a size 4-6. Below that I look and feel unwell. However, I have some freinds who are healthy and active at higher and lower weights for the same height.

I guess the real question comes down to WHY do you want to be 115? What's the reasoning behind that? It may be good or it may be flawed.

I spoke to my doctor about this goal and she said that a healthy lowest weight for my size is 118 I would be happy with that. She has also been my Dr, since I was a child so for her to see me at this weight she even began to worry about gaining too much weight. I have a very small frame so I do not carry this extra 10-15 very well. Even though my BMI is in the healthy range right now I know just by looking at my body that I am not healthy!

So my reasoning behind it is not really the number it is the FAT on my body that I am thinking weighs that extra 10-15! The flubber on my tummy and the extra thighs Im carrying around....

If you are more concerned about your shape and level of toning than a number on the scale (which I do agree is a better motivation than a number), there are a few ways you can go here.

One, up the exercise. More cardio and do some weight training (trust, it will not bulk you up).

Two, try to eat healthier. And by healthier, I don't necessarily mean 'less'. Fewer processed foods, more foods in their natural state, more attention to simple carbs (which you'd want to cut down).

It sounds as though with your slight frame, you'd be likely to still be healthy in the 118-125 range. But you may find that working on your overall fitness, rather than fighting with the scale, would produce better results for your ultimate goal of being firmer and more shapely. Simply losing weight without any training will not get you the result you seek.

Should have mentioned this before, but your friends are not necessarily trying to be 'jerks'. They may be genuinely concerned for you and your well-being. Try not to assume that their motivation is bad.

to Chryssy;

I think we all have critics in our lives. Some are just that way, unhappy people who criticize others to make themselves feel better, others are family/friends who think they have the right to express their opinions to us just because they are family/friend. I suggest smile while they offer, or brush them off, you and your goals are important to only you.

Even though you are starting at 130 # just remember, when you start working out to slim down or tone down, the type of exercise is what will determine the final outlook. Keeping an ideal weight number in your head is great, because it clarifies your goals. But if all you want to do is tone up or build muscle, remember that muscle tissue weighs more than fat. Keep that in mind, decide what YOU want to look like when you are done. You may weigh 115 or you may weigh 120, or somewhere in between. You have to decide what is right and best for you.

With all my support and respect;

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