Why is he trying to stop me from losing weigh

Have you tried sitting down with him and letting him know exactly how you feel? I can only imagine how hard it must be for you. I see a similar situation with my sister and her husband. Everytime she is doing really well he brings her down. I'm glad you have realized that you need support, but before calling it quits you should explain to him that you need to do this for each other...to make sure you are around for many many years. Best of luck with this. Stay motivated and concentrate on your goals.

sounds like a lot to handle. My best advice would be to to have a frank talk with him. Let him know how you feel about his relationship with food. also make him understand that you have your own weight loss goals which you are pursuing as well. Tell him how his not supporting you affects your relationship and the fact that at the end of the day, your goals is to be happy with your weight and relationship. This is assuming this talk hasnt already happened and that you are interested in salvaging your relationship.

On the whole, i cant tell you what to do, but definitely talk to him first. Good luck and all the best in making a decision

I kind of know how you feel. My husband isn't overweight, never has been. But every time I tried to diet he'd say let's go out to dinner and I love to eat out. And I would go. And I would eat too much then start my diet again the following Sunday. I don't think my husband was consciously trying to sabotage my diets but I realized that regardless I was going to have to do it on my own. Now that he knows I'm soooo serious, he's very supportive. Maybe your fiance doesn't realize he's doing it. Or maybe he doesn't want to diet so he doesn't want you to. Just stay on here, keep doing what you're doing and you will have all of the support and encouragement you need to lose the weight you want. The support on here is AMAZING! We can easily out number him =]. And you can do it, with or w/o his support. Good luck hon.

Well, I don't really knw what to say! I do think that maybe you should sit down with him and tell him exactly what you are trying to achieve and why you would like to wchieve it! Reassure him that it has nothing to do with him and that nothing negative will come from it! Maybe even try to understand WHY he's doing the things he is and find out his thoughts behind it! I hope everything works out ok for you in the end! Don't give up!

I didn't know if anyone else had this problem but I guess it happens in many relationships. My boyfriend is the cook in the relationship & we are both trying to loose weight (he's lost 15 pounds and I have no clue how), and sometimes he'll come home with junk food or plans to make a very fattening high calorie meal. When I have time to cook I try to make it light yet still filling. Then he acts like I'm hurting his feelings by not wanting to eat it, but the temptation is there!

I can only imagine how yo umust feel. You were there and supported him during his weight loss and now that you need him he is not doing the same. I would suggest writing him a letter because sometimes conversations can get heated or if he is open to it maybe a couple therapist may help. Good luck. I hope everything works out for you.

It is important (from a psychological standpoint) to get down to the why of your overeating. If he lost the weight and did not do that step he is most likely either dealing with emotions and feelings from his past or has guilt for not sticking with it after losing the weight. Anyone can change their lifestyle of eating at least short-term, but if he was doing it for the wrong reasons (such as to please you) then that could explain why he did not continue on his journey.

As for what he is doing to you...when one person in a relationship works to change themselves for the better and the other is not doing the same it causes distention in the relationship. He is seeing that you are making changes and is intimidated by it and fears that you will judge him. It is common for one person to sabotage another persons efforts in dieting when it is only of you doing it.

What I would suggest is talking to him as a loving fiance, not as a dieter that is pissed off. And evaluate if 3 years is worth throwing away or worth working at. If he loves you he will listen to what your concerns are. I don't accept the excuse guys are guys because that is just a cop-out that allows them to make excuses.

Sorry for all the psychological aspects. I am a Psychology student and this is part of why I am finally able to be successful in my own weight loss journey. My husband is extremely supportive of my emotionally, but he eats anything and everything he wants and cooks wonderful meals that I do not partake of. It is hard, but I know what I want and am utilizing the support on this site to get through it.

Best wishes and I hope things go well for you.