Do people put you off sometimes?

M_lifts · February 2011

I have been on my weight loss journey for over a year now, trying to lose all my baby weight 2 years on! I feel really proud of what i have achieved as its not been easy. but its been coming off so quickly since i joined mfp in january. Anyhoo, im wafflinng now.

My point is I keep getting a lot of comments that I'm getting too skinny that my face looks too bony etc etc. and it is really starting to wind me up. I am about 4-5lbs away from my goal weight now but these comments can be quite hurtful at times. For example- my secretary told me today that my face is getting too skinny and if im not careful i will look ugly! How do u get past this? I mean i know im doing this to get back in shape and get healthier. I am 5'2.5" and currently 130lbs starting weight was 158lbs, my goal is 125-126 but i will see how i feel when i get there. surely this is not too 'skinny'?

ps- my hubby is very supportive of me

Ge0rgiana · February 2011

I'm about your height, and I know exactly what your goal weight looks like on me. It's FINE. I look good, and it's healthy.

With that said, it's sad when people try to bring you down and discourage you, but that seems to be what's happening here. Just remember that you're beautiful and I'm sure your husband thinks you're beautiful, too. This is about YOUR health and happiness. Will 125lbs make you happy? Then that's all that really matters. :flowerforyou:

Oh, and you can always fire that secretary. :laugh:

bbygrl5 · February 2011

I'm supportive of you and I understand where you are coming from. I'm 5'3" and am 9 lbs away from my goal of 130. I have people constantly judging me and saying I need to stop now, but honestly... I'm short!!! When I reach 130, I'll still have plenty of 'meat' on me then even, lol!

I think what bugs me the most is people judging anyone's goals when they're being healthy. I support people who are here for any reason, getting off blood pressure meds, wanting to look like a fashion model, recovering from an eating disorder, wanting to improve overall health and eating habits, etc, etc...

We all have different goals and I think it makes it fun and interesting that we're not all going after exactly the same thing. In any case, the commonality is that we're all trying to better our lives and I don't understand why anyone would ever judge that.... seems like a lot of jealousy to me.

mama_mia3 · February 2011

I think you look fantastic. Some people will never be satisfied to just be happy for you. They will always find fault and cast judgement on others. Some people are jealous that you are actually succeeding where they themselves and most have failed and will ultimately put you down for it. They'll either remark that you're going to extremes or getting too skinny too fast, say you're obsessed with it, wonder if you're suffering from an eating disorder and some will even go as low as calling you ugly. My advice? screw them!! Their oppinion of you doesn't matter...the only one that should is your own, but for what it's worth...I think you are beautiful!

Do people put you off sometimes?

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