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hi angela! this is a great site, and you will find tons of support here. i would suggest looking through the success stories for the *many* people that have lost 100 or more pounds - incredibly inspirational! friend those people, and they will be happy to tell you what worked for them. everyone here is super supportive, but if you're looking for people in your boat, that's what i would do. chin up and good luck!

Hate to say it, but you need to get back into an exercise routine. Exercising burns calories, changes your metabolic weight, and just plain makes you feel better. Sounds like you might be depressed and could be emotionally eating. Engage your family in your venture. If you have to pull a Jillian Micheals and have the family help you throw away all the junk in the house, then do it. Family support is what will get you through. Once your spouse sees the progress and changes, they will be willing to join or at least encourage you in your journey. Yesterday was only day one, Angela. Don't beat yourself up. Today is a new day. Great luck on your journey.

First of all....you need more than 1000 cal per day. You should eat at least 1200.
Another thing to remember is to forgive yourself for past transgressions. What has happened has happened. It is over. Now congratulate yourself for starting new. Make sure you congratulate yourself everyday and with every good choice. This will not happen overnight. Gaining the weight didn't either (although it may feel like it did). Don't look at the 100 lbs, but at the one pound right now.
Make sure to move everyday. Don't kill yourself, but don't take the easy road all the time either. Also acknowledge you will want something outside your 'diet'. That is okay, but only once in a while. After a while you will find that they are too sweet or you crave something more healthy. It will shock the pants right off of you. It did to me!! LOL. Make sure to log your food everyday along with your exercise and water. Most important.....you need to be accountable to yourself and no one else. If you are....you will succeed. It will have nothing to do with anyone asking what you did or did not eat. You will love yourself for this.
I started on 1/1/11 and as of yesterday lost 15 lbs. I am so proud of that it is not even funny. My co-workers are so tired of hearing how much I lost, but too bad. I am smaller and proud!! Good Luck To You.

This might be hard for you to do but, I started going to the gym. This has been a great motivator for me. Right now I am trying to get back to where I was over a year ago because I fell off the wagon as well. I also started riding my bike more outsid ewhen it is warm. Don't give up!!!!!! You can do this!!!

I also had a hard time not eating everything in sight when I got home at night. I started eating 5-6 small meals a day (including my post-work out protein shake) and I have really seen a difference in my hunger, which helps me keep from overeating. I also started eating Borden Kid Builder Mozzarella Sticks with a handful of Almonds as a snack and WOW, it really keeps me satisfied.

Good luck!

I have to fight the same urges except mine are with salty things - chips, etc. Here is the best advice I can give you - if I'm wrong on anything, no biggie - maybe if it does not help you it will help someone.

The best thing to do is write down your three meals and all planned healthy snacks - apple, granola bar, whatever you want - in the morning first thing. Cross each item off as you eat, and keep your food log online as current as you can. It sometimes helps to plan your day in front of the food log on MFP so you can see how you are doing and staying in your calorie guidelines. (Sometimes I go over on protien but I really don't stress about that as long as calories are in line)

The evening snacking is probably because you are not eating enough calories during the day and you have reached a point you feel you are starving. Spread out your calories during the day and eat a good breakfast. A good sweet snack is a small apple, sliced, heated in microwave, then dusted with cinnamon. you can find lots of healthy "sweets" that will keep you satisfied but you have to make an effort to do that and leave the cupcakes alone. My substitute for salty is 28 almonds.

If you do all of the above, you CAN ignore the sweets. Now it comes down to willpower, since your body is being fed properly, you have to get your head in the game too. Get rid of sweets at home. You can't eat what you don't have on hand. The kids can survive without them as well. I have a horrible time at night sometimes. It seems like we put our brains in a fog so we can do whatever we want, then turn our brains on again after we are done eating. Obviously, because we feel bad after, but why don't we feel bad enought to STOP? And you probably don't eat one candy bar and stop, or you wouldn't be 1000 calories over. And I don't eat one potato chip and stop. So we have to just stay away. Turn the brain back on. When you are reaching for something, don't go into the fog. Stop, and make yourself give 5 reasons why it is healthy. Drink 16 oz. of water as quickly as possible, and get out of the kitchen and go clean a closet. If necessary, repeat and repeat till you run out of closets. Then mop the floor.

The biggest thing is get your head out of the fog when you are deciding what to eat. Make yourself accountable. Have a friend review your food log. Purchase food for a full week at a time. Have fresh veggies and salad stuff and chicken/fish and fruit in the house and ready to eat. If you are trying to eat healthy without healthy food in the house it won't work very well.

Good luck...

Hello, as I was reading your post and I felt as if I was reading some of the things I have been thru. 3 yrs ago after my divorce I dropped 50lbs but gained it back, and then last year I lost 30 and eventually gained it back. I am only 32 and have 2 lil girls and I want to not only be here for them but want to be active in their lives. My biggest issue is motivation as well, I can sit here on my couch and tell myself I need to get up and exercise but I don't . I can tell myself I dont need that brownie or extra portion but I eat it anyway.... I need to loose about 90 lbs too but want to eat anything and everything. I love food!!! I love to cook it, taste it , eat it..... I need someone to help with motivation as well..... I wish I had someone local who would make me accountable for my actions but unfortunatly all my friends live at a distance. So if you are looking for someone who can understand I completely do. Maybe we can become buddies and help keep each other accountable for their actions... if you are interested!