Too Thin?

Some people just don't want others to succeed with controlling their weight. This may be part of what is happening.

What is your BMI? If you don't know, you can get a rough cut at it with the calculator on the tools page here. As long as you are over about 19 on your BMI, you are fine.

my friends [who happen to be heavier than me.] yell at me all the time about weight loss. i know i get a little crazy with it, but i am by no means too thin. im on the brink of being over weight again and my goal really is a healthy one for my height. i think they just get annoyed by me talking about health and working out and eating well too often. but DEF all the time i get nagged about it.

Whenever my sister, who was heavy most of her life, loses weight, my mom accuses her of being anorexic. She may think this is some kind of compliment, I don't know, but I think it's incredibly rude. She's a size 6 and looks fantastic.

I think most people who make comments like that are jealous, really. You don't sound like you are too thin - unless you're 7 feet tall or something.

It may also just be the shock of seeing the huge change in you. You could respond with something equally rude like "Uh, thanks! You look like you haven't slept in days!" Or something wittier...I'm still waking up :laugh:

Go by with how YOU feel. Also take into consideration what your height is, your body fat %, and your BMI.. if all of these are resonable and you want to still drop a few pounds, you have every right to do so.

I think people are just accustomed to you looking like you did before and wont think out of the box. You are almost 100lbs lighter then you were. I think it will just take them some time to get use to the new you. Congrats!!!

I agree. Congrats! That's a huge accomplishment and very inspiring.

This can be a touchy subject.

My fiance has similar issues. He's 6'3" and he's not small framed by any means. He's steady at 216 (which looks good on him), but he would like to get down to the 205-210 area. His mom is constantly telling him that he looks too skinny at that weight. He was 206 once before and all she can ever talk about is how horrible he looked. I've never seen him at his lowest weight. He's always been around his current weight or he's been up around 250 since we started dating. I can't tell him what I think because I haven't seen him at 205. I certainly don't want to tell him not to if he's happier at a lower weight. I want to be thin and healthy just as much as he does, and I wouldn't want him telling me to stop losing weight when I only want to lose 10 more lbs.

I think that people are afraid when you lose a lot of weight, because there are so many overweight people now that it looks abnormal to be thin. When you were heavier, people didn't think twice about it, but when you start losing they comment about "how tiny you are" or "how you'll look weird if you lose any more". But you know deep down that you would be happier a little lighter. You know your own limits and eventually everyone around you will get used to seeing your new leaner body and won't think twice about it.

My future brother in law told me that I shouldn't lose any more weight because I'd look weird. I was 152 for 8 years throughout high school and the first few years of college. I didn't look "weird". If I lose 5 more lbs and get down to that weight, I will be at my ideal weight. I won't "look weird". But since he met me at my heaviest (220), he just needs time to get used to the new me.

Lose the weight if it makes you happy. Just be healthy about it, and there's no reason that other people won't accept you once they see that you're happy and healthy.

Are you healthy? In a health weight range for your health? Are you eating properly and not starving yourself? If you answered, yes, yes, and yes, then I would not be concerned with what others think. For as much as it sucks, people do not like to see other people accomplish things they cannot do. You have lost an outstanding amount of weight, probably look FANTASTIC, and are happy. That sort of happiness and success is rough for other people to handle. In my opinion, rock on. Be healthy and fit and love yourself, because in the end, thats all that matters.

Don't worry about what other people think or say. Only you can decide if you are happy where you are, or if you feel you need to lose more weight. The most important thing above anything else is that you are getting fit and healthy. With such a large amount of weight lost, I'm sure you look very different to what people are used to so of course you will get a lot of comments, some of them negative. Stay focused and concentrate on what you know to be the right weight/fitness level for yourself and don't worry about what anyone else thinks!

How tall are you?

When older people i.e. 40-60's lose weight 90% of the time (depending on the amount of weight) their face does look more 'sickly' and there isn’t anything you can do about it.

At 29 that really should be a problem for you especially since you may have been overweight but not morbidly obese therefore it's not like you lost 10lbs from your face.

Without photos I really can’t tell you. Be confidant about your weight loss, that’s the most important part. A lot of people get comments no matter what the truth is b/c others are jealous and don’t have the same will power or dedication as you. As to looking too thin or sickly in the face, let us tell you that is false - but put a photo up to prove it

Sickly!

People always used to tell me that I was too thin until I pointed out that it is rude to comment on people's weight at all.

People take offence when you call them "too fat" but people don't seem to realise that the reverse is also true.

I will be as thin as *I* want to be.

I don't think that it is up to them. If you feel great and you are healthy then that is all that matters. Keep up the good work

When older people i.e. 40-60's lose weight 90% of the time (depending on the amount of weight) their face does look more 'sickly' and there isn’t anything you can do about it.

At 29 that really should be a problem for you especially since you may have been overweight but not morbidly obese therefore it's not like you lost 10lbs from your face.

Without photos I really can’t tell you. Be confidant about your weight loss, that’s the most important part. A lot of people get comments no matter what the truth is b/c others are jealous and don’t have the same will power or dedication as you. As to looking too thin or sickly in the face, let us tell you that is false - but put a photo up to prove it

well I hope I'm not part of that 90%

As to the OP don't listen to them. There are always those that want to bring you down. You've done a great job!!

I got that too a few years ago when I had lost weight. once I gained it back some people said "oh well, you looked too skinny at that weight anyway". I don't think that is really true at all. I was at 140 and 5'9", which is completely in the range of a healthy body mass. That is what i'm going for again. It's a good weight for me, and I think it's partially just that people are used to be with a little more meat on me. That's too bad for them!

People take offence when you call them "too fat" but people don't seem to realise that the reverse is also true.

This is so true. I struggled a lot with this in Highschool. The group I hung with, were mostly overweight and they often gave me a lot of crap for being skinny. I felt like the odd girl out being skinny.

A few months ago I was in the line at the grocery store, the clerk was chattin up a storm with the lady she was helping, and she was going on and on about people who watch what they eat. And other things about skinny people. I really took offense to it and had to say something. I told her that it can be just as hurtful for people to say things about those of us who are skinny, as those who are fat, (having been both I know this). It's a lot of work to keep the weight off, and having a cow because I want to watch what I eat is ridiculous. I mean she made fun of people eating half an order of food at the restaurant and all. Just going on and on about it.