Not getting support.

Sounds like he is just not taking you seriously with your weight loss goals. I had this with various people for the last 5 years. Some times people don't even realise they are doing anything wrong. They mean it in jest, but the truth is they can actually be discouraging you.

Have you actually told him it bothers you? As in...actually sat down, explained your goals, what makes you happy and that you would like support? If not, I suggest that, otherwise perhaps he is just not looking out for your best interests.

I am sorry to hear that. Does he need to lose some weight also? Sometimes people have a difficult time watching the person they are with make these kinds of changes, because for some reason it makes them insecure. Not trying to psycho analyze it, just think it is a great thing to get into a good healthy lifestyle and it would be great to make that change together. My suggestion is just keep it up, keep strong and do this for you. Good luck!

I agree with ryzola...

I know also that our partners & others can be really threatened when we make life changes. Their not sure what it means for them, if we're gonna force them to eat things they don't want to, if we're going to (as my mother once put it) "leave them in the dust."

Tell him what you need, be specific about what's ok and what is hurtful, and then just do your thing. You are strong - you can do it!

It such a shame that he is being like this. Just walk away and ignore him. He may not know how annoying he is being but could it be he is worried about what will happen if you lose weight. Some men feel threatened when their partners lose weight because we gain so much confidence when we do. My hubby likes it because I feel more sexy (sorry if that is too much info).

Just ignore him; it will be worth it in the end.

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My son makes fun of me weighing my food, counting chips, etc. I just don't let it bother me. I tell him that I gained weight by NOT paying attention to what I was eating, and now I am!

You are doing this for you. Yes, he should not be so selfish and you should tell him how you feel. But remember, you are doing this for you and if you tell yourself that you will not let anyone get in your way, then you can do it!! Maybe he will stop doing it when he sees it doesn't bother you. Best of luck!

I know the mature thing to do is sit and talk about why that kind of behavoir is bothering you, and in most cases I would be completely in favor of the high road. BUT when your partner is being that overtly mean, I say kick him in the shins and tell him to stop being such a douche. Sure there's a lot of guy/girl communication issues esp when it comes to insecurities, but this kind of childish crap is meant to make you feel bad and I think your irritation at it should not be surprising or unexpected.

Awe hun, comming at it from another angle, maybe he is trying to get you so mad that your determination to prove him wrong will overtake you.Rise above it babes, its better if he does support you for your sake, BUT if you want to loose the weight that badly you will do it with or without him. Put yourself first and do what YOU need to do to make you happy and if that means letting him eat the chocolates without you, let him get on with it,. It's his waist line not yours. You go girl. :flowerforyou:

He'll be sorry and jealous when you reach your weight loss goal and he sees everyone admiring your new physique.

Something I have learned in almost 20 years of marriage is that men DO NOT think like women and if you want his support you need to tell him EXACTLY what help and support you need, no hinting, no halfsies you just have to tell him. For examply, my husband and kids have this incredible metabolism, My husband quit smoking and turned to his candy he would keep at least two dozen candy bars in the fridge at any given time and sit down and eat 4 with a giant glass of milk every night. I finally told him that sweets are one of my weaknesses and him keeping all that candy in the house is the same temptation to me as it would be to him if I left a lit cigarette in front of him everyday.....he got it and candy is no longer kept in the house. Besides I pointed out that he doesn't need candy everyday either.

My husband is a chef too and I told him I can't have heavy cream and butter in everything either so knock that crap out, sounds like you may need to do the same with yours, if he wants to send food your way tell him you appreciate it but you really need it to be healthy Otherwise, you have to realize you have a partner that isn't ready or doesn't want to support this and do it on your own, you are your own best support system after all.

Unfortunately guys can just be jerks sometimes. They think they are playfully teasing and it hurts. Keep your chin up and keep coming on here, we will help you feel better about everything. Just because someone holds something by you doesnt mean you arent strong enough to say "Nice try *kitten*" and go about your diet the way YOU feel like doing it.