Debating over Right vs Wrong Dieting

The only thing you can do is be an example. Show her that by losing weight slowly with healthy eating and exercise, you can keep the weight off. Eventually she will get tired of her yo yo lifestyle...if not, there isn't anything you can do about it! Stay true to your path and don't let her derail you! Good luck! :bigsmile:

Wow! I have known many family memebers like your sister. You are doing good by taking care of yourself and even though your weight loss may be slower than hers, it will be gone for good, as long as you continue. Focus on yourself. Obviously, talking to her is not doing yourself any good, show her.

Everyone that Ive heard that has done that diet has gaind all thier weight back when they are done.

Some people only care about the number on the scale.

Explain that she won't be losing fat, she will be losing muscle mass. That will cause her metabolism to slow down and she will stop burning fat altogether. And then if she does get to where she wants to be she will start eating normally again and because she has screwed up her metabolism and lost so much lean muscle mass all that food will be turned to fat by her body and she will gain it all back and then some.

Research the Minnesota Starvation Diet. It shows what a starvation diet can do to your organs, functions, your brain, etc. Because 500 calories a day is a starvation diet.

You can print out some of the links from this site: "links in MFP you want to read again and again..." this is in my signature. There is one in there called 700 calories a day and not losing.

What your sister is doing is the hCg diet. That's what I tried before coming to MFP. I thought I was going to DIE on that 500 cal diet! That's when I came to MFP and I feel great now. I don't think there is much you can do to convince your sister to try this but just try to give her some advice and encouragement.

Also, I think you are leading by example already!

I've lost almost 65 lbs. since having my son....and I've done it the natural, slow, healthy eating combined with excercise way. I must say I am very proud of myself. My sister, on the other hand, went on the same diet as your sister and lost 35 lbs. in six or seven weeks. Contrary to what most people say...not everyone gains it all back. My sister hasn't gained any weight back and she's been off the diet for six months. However, she eats healthy to maintain her current weight. When I found out my sister was going on her diet I was a little jealous she was going to be able to lose her weight so quickly and I was worried about how the diet worked; however, I supported her in whatever she wanted to do because it's her body, she's going to do whatever she wants anyway, and I want her to be happy. To me, it wasn't about debating...wrong way versus right...it was more about supporting my sister because that's what she would do for me. Throughout her weight loss I realized my sister had very much noticed my healthy habits....she calls me for advice about eating and exercise to this day. I'm very proud of her!!! We may not have chosen the same weight loss path, but I found being supportive of her instead of debating right versus wrong (where no one will really win) brought us closer together and eventually on the same path. As much as we love someone and want them to do things the healthier way...people are different and make different choices. If she won't join you on your path try to accept hers and be supportive. Worked for me....just my story. Best wishes!

I've lost almost 65 lbs. since having my son....and I've done it the natural, slow, healthy eating combined with excercise way. I must say I am very proud of myself. My sister, on the other hand, went on the same diet as your sister and lost 35 lbs. in six or seven weeks. Contrary to what most people say...not everyone gains it all back. My sister hasn't gained any weight back and she's been off the diet for six months. However, she eats healthy to maintain her current weight. When I found out my sister was going on her diet I was a little jealous she was going to be able to lose her weight so quickly and I was worried about how the diet worked; however, I supported her in whatever she wanted to do because it's her body, she's going to do whatever she wants anyway, and I want her to be happy. To me, it wasn't about debating...wrong way versus right...it was more about supporting my sister because that's what she would do for me. Throughout her weight loss I realized my sister had very much noticed my healthy habits....she calls me for advice about eating and exercise to this day. I'm very proud of her!!! We may not have chosen the same weight loss path, but I found being supportive of her instead of debating right versus wrong (where no one will really win) brought us closer together and eventually on the same path. As much as we love someone and want them to do things the healthier way...people are different and make different choices. If she won't join you on your path try to accept hers and be supportive. Worked for me....just my story. Best wishes!

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yeah, what she is doing is crazy!! But you keep setting the example..of someone that is doing it the right way...Just another fad diet it sounds like to only end up right back in the same place. Gotta change your thinking before you change your actions. keep up the good work, girl!