This Feels Impossible

Is your husband a big man? I went through this with my husband who travels with his job and I think he was a little jealous when I started losing weight. He tells me all the time he loves me the way I am , so after careful thinking I asked him if he thought when I lost all I wanted if he thought I was going to cheat on him or something. He admitted he didn't want other men looking at me. Also if you travel get a Wii Fit and take it with you, can use it in motel rooms and easy to set up.

You know I feel the same way a lot. I've lost 40 some pounds but, it's take 3 years and only 6 of it has happened within the last year. It's frustrating and overwhelming at times because I feel like I'm pretty faithful. Not flawless but, definitely faithful. I feel like I keep knocking into the same wall with no victory.

I have to keep going and I have to believe that something will make a difference. I have started eating on a diabetics diet which definitely helps the way that I feel but, hasn't knocked it off. But, we must keep going. Try High Intensity Training. It's a shorter work out but, is designed to break up your insulin and burn a little more effectively. Make sure you read on it though as you don't want to get into a danger zone. Also, I've heard that weight training with lighter weights will do a good burn and I'm telling you, after I do my Sprint Intervals as High Intensity and start doing some weight training, I go from kind of sweating to it pouring off me so, I know it's doing something.

Stay the course. i'd love to walk with you. I was a Myfitnesspal for a long time and it's been a month or so since I've been active but, i need to start watching things again. Keep it up. It will pay off at some point.

All i know is when i eat RIGHT ( three meals and several snacks ) I am never hungry. Its when I eat poorly that I end up feeling starved.

First of all, have a frank discussion with your husband in regards to why he is sabotaging your efforts. It could well be that he means well in encouraging you to enjoy your life and does not realize he is sabotaging you. If it is deliberate, it is most likely due to insecurity. Is he overweight as well?

Secondly, you do have choices when you travel. Avoid fast food restaurants at all costs. These restaurants will cause you to slip, or even rationalize why it is ok to eat their food. Chains like Appleby's and Cheddars offer menu items that are specifically designed so that the weight conscious person can eat out without blowing their day. See if you can find a copy of the book "Eat this, Not that". It shows you smarter choices for eating out.

Thirdly, ensure that the hotels you stay at always have a gym in them. Make a point of getting up earlier than you normally would to allow time for a work out. Increase your workout days. You are working out three days a week, which is really "maintenance" level in exercise.

Third, don't beat yourself up if you slip. Although I do not subscribe to the theory of a "cheat day", an occasional special treat in the form of a meal won't hurt your bottom line. You have lost weight before, so you know what you should be doing to succeed. Reapply those principals to your life. I started my program a few weeks ago. My family was not joining me, so it required seperate preparation for my food. However, I determined that improving my health (and me) was a good enough reason. I am worth the extra effort. Since then, my husband has been told by his doctor to reduce his sugar intake. He has since joined me on my journey.

Fourth, hook up with people here who can encourage you and help you through if you're feeling stuck. You can do this. You are worth the effort. Tell your husband that by engaging in a healthier lifestyle, you ARE living the good life. Best wishes in your journey.

I'm sorry to hear about your struggles. I understand your husband's motto of "enjoy life." There is some truth to that. Counting calories and constantly worrying about what you eat is stressful. It can be depressing and isolating, which is why I always encourage people to make less drastic goals.

For you, if you feel hungry, you should change your weight loss goals. Drop it down to 1 lb a week or even 1/2 lb a week. You don't have to keep it there. You can always decrease your calories as you go, as your appetite adjusts. It's better to work yourself into this as gradually as possible. It puts less stress on the body and the mind.

I've discovered that I enjoy life more if there's moderation. I eat in moderation, and I diet in moderation. I think both you and your husband may find life more enjoyable using this motto.

Hi, I just wanted to tell you I really relate to everything you are saying. I am also short, so there is nowhere for the weight to go when I gain it. I am frustrated and feel like if I even look at something sweet, I will gain weight. I know that is an exaggeration but I am frustrated and it sounds like you could use some support. I could too! I am starting to make changes in my lifestyle, but it feels overwhelming and like an uphill battle. The only thing I can suggest is to ask your husband to support you in whatever way he can? I am sure it is difficult when you travel so much, I think it is awesome that you at least make an effort to work out while on the road. I also find that I am most successful when I break down my goals into smaller increments. So instead of saying "I want to lose 50 pounds" (which is my overall goal) think of losing 1-2 pounds per week. When you lose that 1 pound, celebrate, buy yourself a pedicure/massage/new outfit! Also, I am trying to make small tweaks in my eating, instead of going on a major diet change in a matter of days. Oh, one other thing, have you had your thyroid tested? Lots of women have a thyroid problem, which can contribute to weight gain. Something to look into if you haven't already. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone and I can empathize with everything you are saying, but I am proud of you, whoever you are, for doing it anyway.
YAY!!!!!

Watch out for sugars in "real food" this is really hard when you have to eat out all the time. But sugar increases your appettite and once I started tracking it I found a lot of it in a lot of hidden places. Lean cuisine meals, spaghetti sauce.

I have a sweet tooth and rather have a snack the use up all my sugar for the day (or 2) from hidden sources