boys vs. girls

beautifulnow
beautifulnow Posts: 307
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
so since this is a very..private area (no one actually knows anyone) have any of you delt with domestic violence? What and how did you handle it?

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  • Jonesie1984
    Jonesie1984 Posts: 612 Member
    yup... got out of it and no looking back. The shorter that relationship is the better
  • mrmarius
    mrmarius Posts: 1,802 Member
    indiRectly... Ive dated women who stayed in abusive relationships and its hard because they seem to expect the new nice guy to treat them as awful.as the past bad guy..never stay with someone who trats you like dirt
  • TheMaidOfAstolat
    TheMaidOfAstolat Posts: 3,222 Member
    Yes...and I got out....take a look through my pics....I just added some of what my garage looks like. He trashed it when I left. I was with him for 10 years....4 dating, 6 married. I'm happy I got out.
  • FitJoani
    FitJoani Posts: 2,173 Member
    No. I briefly dated a guy who was showing signs of it though. Telling me who I could have as friends, what I should not wear, stuff like that. I glared at him and said, "I don't take orders" and he got a bit pissed..that didnt last long because I was not gonna go down that road
  • snkeller24
    snkeller24 Posts: 459
    The smart, safe, answer is to leave. Depending on severity it could escalate out of control. Some stay in the relationship because that person is an enabler, they feel they can change, or you say 'it could never happen to me'. Look for the signs. If it's been a long duration and you love the pesron it will probably be a tough ride, but remember, that no one, no matter what, for any reason, should treat another human like that.
  • mom2pne
    mom2pne Posts: 215 Member
    Yes, I have. It was what I knew. My dad was abusive to my step-mom and to me and my brothers. Then in turn my brothers were abusive to each other and me. Then when i started dating I was abused by bf's a lot. I was able to leave my other bf's, but not my dh. I should say I tried to move on, but I always took him back. He'd say he was sorry and he wouldn't do it again. It continued even after we were married. For a long time I felt trapped. That I had to stay with him because I had no where to go. I had no friends and as you saw my family was out of the question.

    How it stopped was I had him arrested and he then realized how horrible of a person he was. We also were apart for nearly a year. Things are so much better between us and have been since that awful Friday in May of 1998.

    My story is a rarity.
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