Just getting started on my new life!

Welcome! You have come to a great place!

GOOOO YOU! This website has been really inspiring and helpful to me in just TWO DAYS!
Good luck with everything!

I also love this web site! It helps just keeping track of my food and exercise.

I think I might start telling my grandmother this lesson when she asks why I'm not married.. "If I'm too happy and cooking for a man all the time, I'll gain weight. It's in my best interest to stay healthy, fit and single." Haha.

I wrote a blog entry about this just yesterday - about how no matter how good the intentions are, when someone tells you you're beautiful and attractive at a weight and fitness level that you're not happy about, it can be just as counterproductive as it is supportive. Your husband sounds like a great guy who is going to supportive no matter what!

Good luck as you start your journey back to premarital fitness!

I agree! My husband was like this with me, and I was just confused, why he would say these things, or lie, often I accused him of being delusional, in fun but really I was hurting. How could I be beautiful.

I watched a show recently, with a sex and relationship therapist, it was a two woman couple both had been over weight, one the more male "her own description" and stronger of the two had a gastric by pass surgery. She then felt very insecure and all. And the other woman was feeling very insecure because she is still over weight and all. So the therapist had the two pose separately in front of each other, taking three min to look at each other. Then they met with a sketch artist, who drew what each of the girls described about themselves, and their partner. When they were all done they compared the four sketches. They each saw themselves much worse than they looked, and they each saw each other more beautiful then they looked.

So it made me think that really maybe my husband see's me as beautiful no matter what. I have felt a lot better since. And am very much more open to him telling me so.

Welcome. I'm on day 10 and it has been great. People are genuinely supportive and helpful here. I like having a group of people who are going through what I'm going through and celebrating the mini victories with me. They are right ... losing weighr with firends is easier.

Your story sounds a lot like mine. I had a hard time finding a picture of me for my profile. If you are looking for a friend to motivate you, please feel free to add me. Good journey to the new you!