I stopped for 10 days and now I'm depressed...

You have to work in real time. What's done is done and there's nothing you can do about it. So just start making the choices you know you want to make to reach your goals.

A lot of us suffer from this sort of all-or-nothing thinking: I had three cookies so now I've ruined everything and I'm just going to have food bender and hate myself because I suck.

We'd be better off saying, "Well, I had 3 cookies but from this second on I can treat myself better and make better decisions. Not tomorrow, not in a week, but RIGHT NOW I can choose to treat myself better by staying on plan."

This is a process. We're all going to make some poor choices now and then and those choices don't have to derail us. What matters is what you do today.

You can't avoid these things 100% of the time. It's not realistic to think that your "normal" life won't include some lapses in food and exercise so it's possible to have them now. Just get back on track, log everything and do what you know you have to do. If you don't want to get on the scale now, wait a week or 2. Nobody says you have to weigh in every week! Good luck and good job recognizing the problem and getting back on track! :bigsmile:

We are so quick to be so hard on ourselves!!!
We have to be realistic- we will have bad days, we will have days that are so good, we HAVE to reward ourselves - we can punish ourselves for every mistake because that makes our brains associate healthy living with punishment and negativity! Use the motivation for good!!!
I know it's hard when we disappoint ourselves - but look at where you are know - and remember all the hard work you've already done!!!!
GO GO!

You have to work in real time. What's done is done and there's nothing you can do about it. So just start making the choices you know you want to make to reach your goals.

A lot of us suffer from this sort of all-or-nothing thinking: I had three cookies so now I've ruined everything and I'm just going to have food bender and hate myself because I suck.

We'd be better off saying, "Well, I had 3 cookies but from this second on I can treat myself better and make better decisions. Not tomorrow, not in a week, but RIGHT NOW I can choose to treat myself better by staying on plan."

This is a process. We're all going to make some poor choices now and then and those choices don't have to derail us. What matters is what you do today.

Excellent answer.

I posted this on my status yesterday: "Failure doesn't mean you won't succeed; it just means you've taken a detour. Rather than focus on past mistakes, which you can't change, put your energy into shaping your response, which you can change."

Well I can't tell you how to avoid it, but I can tell you based on personal experience that being depressed about it isn't going to help you at all. All you can do is get back to it. Put the past behind you or use it as a catalyst for the future. Good Luck!

I feel the same way but I took off for about 2 months and lucky I go back and forth with my last weigh-in and a couple of lbs. I can't seem to get back on the wagon. I know I can do it because I have lost 20 but I do pretty good with the week days but the weekends kill me.

good luck and hope both of us can do what the person above said...bush ourselves off and get back on the horse.

just don't weigh yourself . . . get yourself back to doing the right thing and check your weight somewhere down the line

I would call that a boo boo!!! You have survived many of those in your life and girl, you can do this!! Us girls, we are tougher than we get credit for and you are already making progress. I say all of this because I too fell off about a week ago and today it will not happen again. I worked too hard and made to much progress to go back to the mood swings and the sugar binges....life is good and you have me and a whole group of peeps that will back you every step of the way!! Hang on and here we go... Best wishes and you can do this!

I can bet you that EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US has experience the same thing--I know I have--just recently--like Sunday! So, I don't really think that you'll find a way to avoid it, maybe anticipate the likelihood of it happening and just have a game plan...mine was to go ahead and eat BUT to log every single thing I ate. It was embarrassing and enlightening and very educational. It allowed me to indulge in my former way of dealing with stress while giving me enough distance to see how I felt--how it felt to be that full--how it felt to let it all go. I felt accountable in some way while learning that it wasn't all that great to be back at the place I hated---and I remembered why and how much I hated it. In some ways, it made my committment even stronger and clearer.

It was hard to come back--it was tempting to have just "one more day off"---but that was how I did things BEFORE. Now, I can choose what comes next, even if it's diffficult. And every time I make a choice that makes me feel better, it's easier to remind myself the next time that choice comes around again. I'm also learning that in spite of everything, I'm STILL going to default to the old way of eating, of being. And not beating myself up about it has become an even better lesson than the loose pants and smaller numbers on the scale.

Good luck to you!! Don't look backwards--it's too easy to trip. Just box it up, put it away and start again!!

You can't change a single thing you ate before this moment. If you are feeling awful about weighing yourself, don't. Hide the scales for a couple of weeks & get right back into the swing of things.

I have soo been in your position many times over, but with all the support on here, I've only had little slip ups, I think (fingers crossed), ive learned that a wrong food choice here or there doesnt have to be the end of it.

If I know Im going to be in a position where I cant control the food, I get up early and go on the wii fit, or do an exercise dvd, or go to the gym later in the day.

I am going away for a long weekend and I know there is going to be cake and wine. So Im taking the wii console with me and Ive already told my Sister that she will be waking at 6am with me to do a 45 min walk before everyone else gets up. So a walk in the morning, another walk in the afternoon & maybe getting the family to do just dance on the wii means I can eat cake and drink wine!!!

Planning is so important. Sometimes I have to give myself a good talking to too!!!!

Good luck hun

Emma
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The fact that you stopped is not the important thing here - it's the fact that you restarted. I have taken months off at a time and started and restarted more times than I can count. Have I gained? Yep. I did. But amazingly the damage wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

So here's the deal... remember that you've committed to change your life. Because this is your new life - you can't really cheat or fall off the wagon or quit... it's life, and it goes on. So you made some bad choices for a while - in your new life you take that knowledge and you move on. In my new life I will exercise more and eat better - but there will always have to be room in my new life for indulgences. I recently went to Hawaii for a once in a lifetime vacation... I ate what I wanted, drank way more than I ever have in my life and I had a great time! Did I gain a couple pounds - sure did... and ya know what? It was worth every pound. I wouldn't have missed one lava flow, one piece of pineapple, one moment of that vacation... I enjoyed it all. And I came home and I got on my treadmill and resolved that the next time I have my butt on a beach drinking Mai Tai's - I'll be wearing a bikini - not a skirted bathing suit!