loss of sex drive?

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genma1987
genma1987 Posts: 43 Member
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I've lost a total of 80 plus pounds over the course of the past year. I don't know if any other of you females out there have a similar problem as me, but it seems like I have no sex drive anymore. I just don't feel like it. I eat healthy, excercise regularly. I am currently maintaining my weight. Is is the weight loss, or the fact that I'll be 40 this December???
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  • genma1987
    genma1987 Posts: 43 Member
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    I've lost a total of 80 plus pounds over the course of the past year. I don't know if any other of you females out there have a similar problem as me, but it seems like I have no sex drive anymore. I just don't feel like it. I eat healthy, excercise regularly. I am currently maintaining my weight. Is is the weight loss, or the fact that I'll be 40 this December???
  • kerrilucko
    kerrilucko Posts: 3,852 Member
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    I actually have found the opposite. I'm much more interested in sex now. I'd be willing to be it's got more to do with either your age or your relationship than it does with the weightloss. Maybe you need a romantic getaway :flowerforyou:
  • msujdak
    msujdak Posts: 141
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    Probably the age factor. I notice a shift when I turned 40 and am now 46. My advice to you is JUST DO IT whether you are driven or not. :blushing: Your hormones will catch up!
  • Ezzie
    Ezzie Posts: 665 Member
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    What meds are you taking?...a bunch of them can wreak havoc with your sex drive. And...sometimes your Doc forgets to say something unless you ask......:huh:

    Was taking zoloft....noticed some differences(ahem) so finally asked Doc....he says "Oh yeah, a lot of porn stars use that to 'slow' things down"......ackkkkkk....would have saved me a lot of wondering what was wrong with ME......:grumble: !!

    Thankfully that chapter of my life has passed.....and so has my relationship( proffessional:angry:thank you... ) with that particular Dr.!!!!
  • songbyrdsweet
    songbyrdsweet Posts: 5,691 Member
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    It could be age, although if you're peri-menopausal your testosterone levels will actually increase while estrogen levels fall, so it would make more sense to have an increased sex drive. I'm in my 20's, and I notice a decreased sex drive when I eat too little, don't take any days to eat maintenance for a couple months, or am under a lot of stress. When the body is under stress , certain processes take the 'back burner'. Or you may be releasing enough endorphins from exercise that you don't have as many cravings for sexual activity.
  • firegirlred
    firegirlred Posts: 674 Member
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    I would so go with the exercise making you tired. I get pretty exhausted by the end of the day.

    Maybe try nookie in the morning?
  • songbyrdsweet
    songbyrdsweet Posts: 5,691 Member
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    I would so go with the exercise making you tired. I get pretty exhausted by the end of the day.

    Maybe try nookie in the morning?

    My upstairs neighbors did that yesterday...:grumble: Woke me up 45 minutes early with their morning nookie, ARGH. I think the girl just visits, so every couple weeks I'm kept awake or woken up prematurely...but what can you do? "Hey guys, could you turn the fun volume down just a bit?" Awkward....:laugh:

    I agree though, at night I'm pretty beat from school/exercise/work. Sometimes you have to kind of schedule some free time when you know you'll be relaxed.
  • fit_amy
    fit_amy Posts: 41
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    My upstairs neighbors did that yesterday...:grumble: Woke me up 45 minutes early with their morning nookie, ARGH. I think the girl just visits, so every couple weeks I'm kept awake or woken up prematurely...but what can you do? "Hey guys, could you turn the fun volume down just a bit?" Awkward....:laugh:

    I actually did have to confront my previous upstairs neighbors about that and YES it was VERY AWKWARD. :embarassed: I am a very non-confrontational person so you can imagine it was pretty ridiculous for me to have to say something.

    Anyhow, there are so many factors it could be! your age, the relationship, your hormones, the weather, stress/finances, etc... i wish it wasn't so complicated. You could try the trial and error approach and see how that works for ya! (ie, try the weekend getaway and if that doesn't help, try another time of day, etc) :flowerforyou:
  • songbyrdsweet
    songbyrdsweet Posts: 5,691 Member
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    My upstairs neighbors did that yesterday...:grumble: Woke me up 45 minutes early with their morning nookie, ARGH. I think the girl just visits, so every couple weeks I'm kept awake or woken up prematurely...but what can you do? "Hey guys, could you turn the fun volume down just a bit?" Awkward....:laugh:

    I actually did have to confront my previous upstairs neighbors about that and YES it was VERY AWKWARD. :embarassed: I am a very non-confrontational person so you can imagine it was pretty ridiculous for me to have to say something.

    Anyhow, there are so many factors it could be! your age, the relationship, your hormones, the weather, stress/finances, etc... i wish it wasn't so complicated. You could try the trial and error approach and see how that works for ya! (ie, try the weekend getaway and if that doesn't help, try another time of day, etc) :flowerforyou:

    LOL Oh gosh, I don't think I could do it! I'd have to be like..."Um, could you turn down the...movie...you were watching...? It sounded like...well it was loud." :embarassed:
  • jamerz3294
    jamerz3294 Posts: 1,824 Member
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    Prolly a combination of age, and all those other factors! I will say that, as a guy, my libido has increased as I lose weight, and have heard the same from gals. But yeah, try to vary your normal routine a bit, different time of day, location, toys, romantic get away, etc. :flowerforyou:
  • lina1131
    lina1131 Posts: 2,246 Member
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    I have found that the more I lose the more bow chicka bow bow I want.
  • Fab140
    Fab140 Posts: 1,976 Member
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    Probably the age factor. I notice a shift when I turned 40 and am now 46. My advice to you is JUST DO IT whether you are driven or not. :blushing: Your hormones will catch up!

    Yup.....I notice that I'll have a dry spell and then I get a :smooched: and then I'm happy as a clam!!
  • Fab140
    Fab140 Posts: 1,976 Member
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    Making a list of everyone who's sex drive has increased.

    Well....Mine has always been high. So I guess I'm staying off your list!!

    (Think Samantha Jones....just not so easy!)
  • Theresa35
    Theresa35 Posts: 1,102
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    Making a list of everyone who's sex drive has increased.

    LOL!!! Psst...you can add my name to the list.....:wink:
  • Theresa35
    Theresa35 Posts: 1,102
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    Making a list of everyone who's sex drive has increased.

    LOL!!! Psst...you can add my name to the list.....:wink:

    Sure. Oh. I'll need your address and phone number.

    Oh, okay...I'll PM you. Now don't go anywhere...just sit and wait...it will be there soon.....:bigsmile:
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
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    Making a list of everyone who's sex drive has increased.

    LOL!!! Psst...you can add my name to the list.....:wink:

    Sure. Oh. I'll need your address and phone number.

    Max...heyyyyy baaaaabyyyyyy

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  • TamTastic
    TamTastic Posts: 19,224 Member
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    I actually have MORE of a sex drive. I am healthy, have more energy, feel better about myself. But that's just me! :wink: :laugh:
  • kellch
    kellch Posts: 7,849 Member
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    Me too! It all as to do with confidence I think....I'm more confident with myself now :bigsmile: :devil: :smokin:

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