Too Thin?

Its all about how you feel. I know that when I lost almost 40lbs (got down to 135lbs) during army training I felt great but got several comments about how I looked hollowed out. I think it was because I have very pronouced cheek bones and when I loss weight they aren't covered in fat anymore.

Like I said before as long as you are healthy go with how you feel.

I think sometimes people get uncomfortable around a friend or family member who is losing weight. It makes them think, "If he can do it why can't I?" or "I'm supposed to be the skinny one, who does he think he is?" People don't like to confront uncomfortable thoughts so they say the first thing that pops in the head - you're too skinny!

Other people really believe they are complimenting you by those statements. I waited patiently for the comment about looking sick and I savored it for days!!!! I've had a set back weight-wise, but am working towards hearing it again. ;->

Jhethro,

The easiest place to upload a picture is in your profile.

As for the topic of this thread, I do think someone can be TOO skinny. For example, Lindsay Lohan was much hotter before she got crazy skinny. I do think some people get addicted to losing weight and being skinny and get obsessive to the point where their returns on their "attractiveness" are diminishing or negative. BUT, I'm not saying that's the case with you.

Also I would say that there is a term on this website called skinny-fat. Where someone loses a bunch of weight, but since they don't keep up with a strength training routine they end up just looking flabby skinny at their goal weight instead of what they had in mind. I don't think this is the case for you either, because you've been doing the P90X.

I think in your case, people just probably aren't used to seeing you so skinny so it looks weird to them.

Nah, you are doing well. This has happened to me and a friend of mine, and I am sure to many, many others! As some of you mentioned, people just don't get used to our new self.

Today, I am 131.5 from probably 210 pounds two and a half years ago. On the lower side of my BMI, but still not underweight. I left my family behind to pursue my dreams in NYC, and they see me but once a year. They really think I am starving myself! I am so happy with myself, though, and that's what matters. Plus I look and feel good and healthy. And certainly, I am not anorexic as some in my family think. :P All my work has paid off, and am now working to be fitter, and gain muscle weight.

People will always have something bad to say, but often, they do mean well if they were used to you being bigger. Don't let it get to you, and keep working towards your goal, as long as you are having a healthy lifestyle.

I think 77 pounds in 90 days is way more then most people can possibly accomplish regarding weightloss. In general, its recommended to lose 1-2 pounds a week, so your average is triple the norm. That being said, I don't know what weight you started at, what you did to lose it, so I can't possibly comment on any of that. Plus I don't even know you, so I can't say whether you look any worse or not.

But I did have some thoughts I wanted to share...

So my first thought is that since skin takes longer to tighten up perhaps your skin is sagging a bit and may make you look more unhealthy then before? If this is the case, drinking lots of water and using lotions will help the skin to tighten up again. I've been told it can take a long time, but if that's what's going on, then it should just keep improving.

My second thougth I wanted to share...
I've known 2 people who lost weight super fast, and yes they both looked sick. But to be fair -they were sick. They were both doing the Dr. Bernstein's diet and were starving themselves. They both had significant hair loss due to a lack of nutrition, and their skin was dull and had a sickly pallour in colour. Both had dizzy spells and fainting spells, trouble concentrating, and were perpetually in a bad mood the smaller they got. One even loss feeling in patches of her skin due to nutrition defiencies.

In general I believe that what you do is your own business and not anyone else's place to comment., but I believe that close loved ones having heart-to-heart talks with this women about their concerns helped the women to realize that they were slowly killing themselves. (they both previously believed since its a "doctor's" clinic that it was safe)

That was many years ago. Both have gained the weight back and then some. Both look healthier then they did although the hairloss and lack of feeling in the skin patches turned out to be permenant.

So I guess what I'm saying is that in general people should mind their own business, but if you are finding that people who truly love you keep expressing concern for your health, perhaps it wouldn't hurt to re-evaluate what you are doing.

OK, so on the other end of the spectrum: I'll be the first to admit that I've done this before...maybe part of it does stem of jealousy, but honestly, I've only said it to a handful of friends who look great just the way they are!! To me, I was trying to reassure them that losing weight doesn't appear to be that critical for them! And yeah, I'll admit that it bugs me when my skinny friends complain about wanting to lose a few pounds to ME, who needs to lose a lot more than a few! :laugh: so I don't know, I guess it depends on who is saying the comments and how close you are because I wouldn't dare make harsh judgments about someone I'm not close with... but at the end of the day, you can just ignore the comments and do what you want to do (as long as it's healthy!).

I personally think that some people who lose a lot of weight especially in the face tend to look older and "drawn out!" My husband is one of them! He has lost 100lbs and keeps losing and his face to me has really aged with it and the skin is loser, not sure how to explain it, lol, but I look back at pictures when he was 40lbs heavier and I think he looks better in the face! Also a friend of mine has lost a huge amount of weight too and I also think she has really aged in her face with it! Her body looks awesome, but her face is really drawn out and old looking with a lot of lose skin as well! Just my opinion! Doesn't mean you should stop losing or gain back, your much better off at a healthy weight!