Seriously I'm that big???
Daisy_May
Posts: 505 Member
I've always known I'm bigger then my friends but usually I think of it as a size or two. This weekend I was out with a friend who has recently lost weight(she looks great!) and she informed me she is now 151lbs. OH MY GOD I weigh almost 100 lbs (actually exactly 100lbs from where I started)more then her???? This was a shocker, it's not that I don't know I'm big I just didn't think I was THAT big!
IT makes me so sad to relaize she lost 40lbs and now is at a weight I don't even dream of hitting, yet when I've lost 40lbs I'll still be over 200lbs!!!!
HOw did I never see how big I was? Heck I thought I'd be looking good if I'm down under 200lbs by my wedding, how did I kid myself?
IT makes me so sad to relaize she lost 40lbs and now is at a weight I don't even dream of hitting, yet when I've lost 40lbs I'll still be over 200lbs!!!!
HOw did I never see how big I was? Heck I thought I'd be looking good if I'm down under 200lbs by my wedding, how did I kid myself?
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Try not to be too hard on yourself! I always have felt the same way and looking at pics I don't think I look as much as I weigh even compared to my much thinner friends. Everyone carries weight differently also. Focus on the progress that YOU are going to make! Keep your head up, you can do it!!:bigsmile:0
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I've felt this way before, too. It's hard to reach an accurate self-realization. But it's possible.
Do not feel discouraged, however. Everyone wear their weight a little differently.
Great job on your loss so far, keep it up and enjoy the journey! It's a beautiful one
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Dont' be so hard on yourself, sweetie! Weight looks different on everyone!! You're a beautiful lady & I'm sure you rock whatever weight you are now AND in the future!! 0
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Don't get discouraged!!!! View this as encouragement and a reason to push yourself even harder to accomplish your goals. Please don't compare yourself to her, you aren't her; you're unique and so your struggles and strengths are different from hers. Keep your chin up!0
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Do NOT let yourself tell you that!!!!! I started out over 300 pounds, and let me tell you, I also never thought I was 'that big'. Do you know why exactly that is? It's because I never really SAW myself. Yeah, sure...I saw myself in the mirror every day, but it was when I started looking at pictures of myself next to my friends that I realized JUST how big I was.
One thing you need to tell yourself is that yes, you may be 'big', but you are beautiful! Seriously, start looking at yourself and pick out your best features, and you'll start to see that damn, you're gorgeous
So seriously, do NOT let yourself be so harsh! 0 -
Gaining weight doesnt happen overnight. Losing weight doesnt either. It takes a commitment to changing how u eat and being more active. The weight will come off. Set little goals that are attainable and have a healthy reward for yourself at the end of it. This will help keep u motivated. If you look at the amount as a whole, it adds stress and makes it easy to rationalize that u will never get there...But, u will through hard work and dedication. Stick to it and u will be surprised at the changes your body makes and the improvements to your life as a whole.0
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I think we all have been in your shoes at some point in our life. It hurts like crap when it finally hits us. Just be proud of what you have lost when your weeding gets here. It really isn't good to compare our bodies to other people. We all lose it differently.0
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You are such a beautiful girl! Enjoy the progress that you have already had and keep doing what you're doing. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage - keep focusing on the positive!! XOXO0
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It;s so easy to believe that we are not as big as other people see us. I have felt exactly the same.
You will be looking good each day and week that you lose the weight, I started at a similiar weight o you and having lost 14 lbs so far, I feel so much better inside and out. I know I must be looking better as my clothes fit better and I can fit into some jeans I bought in January. You should notice these changes too.
Keep going! Motivation is the key, no matter how much you lose by the time you get married you will definitley feel better than you do now. Don't be disheartened.
IT WILL be soooo worth it!!
Good Luck!
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Don't be so hard on yourself! You made decision already to make a change and that is really great. Small goals will make you feel like you can achieve anything, start with getting out of the 200 and then take it from there. I bet you are going to be unstopable at that point. Its a miracle how we can get motivated by little success'. I often asked myself that same question, you wonder how you could have let it get this bad..... the answer is sometimes pretty clear and sometimes it takes us a while to own what we did to our own bodies. I know you can do this, you just need to tell yourself enough is enough " I want me back!"
Good luck:flowerforyou:0 -
Let me start with YOU CAN AND WILL DO THIS!!!!! I was 262lbs when I started and I am now 157lbs, I was right where you are in thought. I never thought I could do this but I had my mind set that this is going to happen and their was nothing that was going to stop me. You will get their it took me almost a year and lots of learning along the way but YOU CAN do it. Keep your head up because you are beautiful and when you believe it everyone else will too no matter your size. I also wanted to say that yes I was the biggest of my friends and now I am the smallest they cannot stand it, they let themselves go over the years and my weight loss has encouraged them to get back up and eat right and exercise. Yah!!!,0
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The one thing to remember is weight is just a number. Everyone carries their weight differently and it sits on everyone different. You put 5 people in a room that all weigh exactly the same and they all look differerent. Just focus on your goals, how you feel, and what makes you happy when you look in the mirror... Dont fret about the rest. Have a great day!0
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I know exactly how you feel. I started this journey at a whopping 183. I'm 5'4" so I don't carry that weight well at all. I remarried in 2007 at a weight I felt really good at. 150ish. I knew I had gained a few "happy" pounds. Didn't realize how much until I looked at my children's baby books. My highest pregnancy weight was 185. I was 3 pounds away from that and NOT pregnant. I looked at pictures of myself and realized I was much bigger then I would admit to myself. Change is hard so we lie to ourselves so we don't have to take that first step to fix it. Don't compare your weight loss to anyone else's. Be proud that you have made the choice to make a life change and run with it. I tease my BFF all the time that were I 6 inches taller, I'd be soooo much skinner then her. We do this diet thing together, which helps. Good luck to you on your journey!!!:happy:0
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I know what you mean.... I packed on so much weight in the last year and I never thought I was that big... until I saw some pictures of myself and saw the difference. Even now that I am losing, I still look in the mirror expecting to see the old me...
Keep working at it and before you know it, everyone else will be commenting at how amazing a transformation you made... just be patient and don't let yourself get down 0 -
Gaining weight doesnt happen overnight. Losing weight doesnt either. It takes a commitment to changing how u eat and being more active. The weight will come off. Set little goals that are attainable and have a healthy reward for yourself at the end of it. This will help keep u motivated. If you look at the amount as a whole, it adds stress and makes it easy to rationalize that u will never get there...But, u will through hard work and dedication. Stick to it and u will be surprised at the changes your body makes and the improvements to your life as a whole.
I completely agree with everyone on here, but especially this reply! Keep up the hard work, and you will get there!0 -
Congratulations on waking up!! It's a tough reality check, no doubt, but such a necessary one if you are ever going to change.
You've come to the right place for support! Welcome!!0 -
WOW Thank you so much everyone for the support! I'm sitting here almost in tears reading all of it :-)0
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Girl, I know but remember that that number on the scale is not as important as the size. Make sure that you are working out and doing toning and strength training exercises to make your body look smaller. I was down to 187 at my lowest in 2008 and didn't think there was much difference but looking back at those pictures now...I can tell! You will be fine and you will look great! Just keep at it! :bigsmile:0
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You probably carry your weight very well. I know for myself that when I am around 190 I start looking pretty good. I know that is still 41 pounds over my goal weight but I CANNOT wait to get to that 190 because I look at pictures of myself at that weight and think "I actually look good". I am still striving for 149 but just appreciate all the little steps because each ever small step is on step closer to your giant goal. YOU CAN DO THIS and you WILL be beautiful at your wedding!!! I am looking at your picture right now and you are already beautiful!!!!0
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You're in good company. It was a "fat picture" of myself that shocked me into reality. I thought I looked pretty decent even though I knew I was overweight. Wow -- nothing like a photo to bring one back to reality.
And now, when I meet new clients, it's an attitude that I encounter every day. The weight comes on so slowly that most of us think we're looking pretty good (even though we're packing a "few" extra pounds). If it had happened overnight, then we'd likely have a different response. When I first learned that I wasn't overweight but OBESE, I was in total denial. But once I accepted reality, I could have a sense of humor and actually celebrate when I was only "overweight." Yep -- we actually had a party! LOL
But we are where we are, when we start. I always remind my clients that it doesn't matter where we're starting at but how we do from this point on. So forge ahead girl, and you'll be on the road toward transforming yourself in no time.:flowerforyou: 0 -
Best thing in the world is to have someone comment that you have lost weight! Mine was my son's best man who I saw in a store last week. I always knew he was a sweetheart.0
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for a starters you are going to look amazing on your wedding day no matter what weight you are and you hubby to be is marrying you for who you are now the beautiful person on the inside where it matters most but also on the outside which I'm guessing you are not seeing you need to gain some confidence and you will the minute you see yourself on your wedding day I did and I was 230lb or there abouts on my wedding day. the point is you are doing something about it and you will get there you seem to have the determination and motivation to succeed in anything and if a complete stranger can see that just imagine what those closer to you believe you can achieve x0
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Daisy May...
Don't you dare get discouraged! I spent my younger years ALWAYS having tiny little friends. I was the biggest cheerleader on the squad...but hey! I was STILL on the squad right? So, girls like us...we will never be 115 lbs, and that is okay, because even Marilyn Monroe was a curvy girl and gorgeous at a size 12/14. It was her self-confidence that did it for her...now I am not saying that we need to look at her as our role model, I am saying that it will be okay for us to reach our 165 lb goal and still have hips! It will be okay for us to slide into a dress and have boobs and hips and a butt and be svelty and sexy and beautiful! You are really a beautiful woman, an what is good for your friend is good for your friend. My best and oldest girlfriend...just got her new modeling shots back...she is stunning, but I am never going to be a size 6 like her! Not realistic, however, me, you and I are going to be Size 10's or 12's and when we slide in under 200 lbs...for us that will be a HUGE accomplishment! We will have the willpower and self-confidence to know that just being in a "L" instead of an "XL" is enough for us!! You are a ROCKSTAR! You keep going, because you have come so far! Let them be little...but give us boobs & booty! LOL!!0 -
Let your girlfriend's weight INSPIRE you... not DISCOURAGE you. You are most definitely beautiful, no matter what weight. You saw in your friend something that you wanted and don't tell yourself for ONE SECOND that you CAN'T do that... because you can!! Even if you had been 400 lbs! And all it takes is continual good choices for YOU (doesn't have anything to do with anybody else). A fast-paced walk here... a salad with chicken there... you WILL get there. You might be looking at your numbers all wrong too. You said she's 100 lbs. from where you started. Forget that started place. You aren't there anymore!! And think about the new you in two weeks. Let it motivate you. This is a journey. Be proud of EVERY step you make toward the healthier you!0
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I know exactly how you feel. All of my friends are in the low 100's and I never realized I was 100+ lbs bigger than them until I'd see myself in photos next to them or see their pants and realize I wouldn't be able to fit a thigh where their waist is.
It wasn't until I watched my wedding video( I got married last February) when I was like "Holy Cow" I am a beast. I guess it means our friends love us no matter what! That really is what we should take away from that!0 -
Don't go there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Every "body" is different!! You already look gorgeous in your profile pic, and you will no doubt make a STUNNING bride!! Do not compare yourself to you friend!! I grew up with a tiny best friend who was Asian. I was 5'8 in the 7th grade and remember sitting next to her comparing my thighs to hers! Do you know how delusional that was?? She had (and still has) a TINY FRAME!!! Me = not tiny, never will be tiny!! How unhealthy of me to compare my body to hers!! You have to find your own "healthy," and if that is 190 or 210, so be it!! The healthiest I've EVER been was one summer at a size 22 (220 lbs) working at a camp. I was running up and down hills by the end of the summer and my skinny girlfriends would have passed out trying to do that!! Find your own healthy, and give yourself a break!! :flowerforyou:0
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You can absolutely hit 150 if you want. My heaviest weight was 235 lbs about 5 years ago. Now I'm usually around 150-160. I was in a similar boat as you. I thought I was destined to always be big and never EVER thought I'd be 150. It took about two years to really lose the weight. I was stuck at 180 for the longest time. Now I'm trying to get down to my ultimate dream weight of 135.0
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Don’t get me wrong I have been 150lbs before, that's kind of why I know I can't get there again, it wasn't healthy for me.
I was on Dr. Bernstein’s and literally passing out because I was so malnourished, I want to be thin but I don't want to ever be in that situation again!0 -
Daisy May, (original poster), dont do that to yourself ........I used to, it does no good.......Listen, they are havinga 712 lb lady on Dr Oz today.........again, Im not judging that poor lady, I keep her in my thoughts, but how do you think she feels......
she can barely move, in horrible health, near death, and in a race to save her life........Google Dr Oz, and find his show, and then find the episode of the 700 lb lady.......shes such a nice lady, just has about 3 years of work ahead of her...........You dont ,you have 6 - 8 months of staying focused, youre in decent health, you are so much ahead of her
again, Im not trying to rag on the 700 lb lady, but sometimes when you see what challenges others have, you appreciate what you have........
I gurantee this time next year you will look back and never return to where you were...........Stay focused..........Lloyd0 -
I've always known I'm bigger then my friends but usually I think of it as a size or two. This weekend I was out with a friend who has recently lost weight(she looks great!) and she informed me she is now 151lbs. OH MY GOD I weigh almost 100 lbs (actually exactly 100lbs from where I started)more then her???? This was a shocker, it's not that I don't know I'm big I just didn't think I was THAT big!
IT makes me so sad to relaize she lost 40lbs and now is at a weight I don't even dream of hitting, yet when I've lost 40lbs I'll still be over 200lbs!!!!
HOw did I never see how big I was? Heck I thought I'd be looking good if I'm down under 200lbs by my wedding, how did I kid myself?
Look at it this way...clearly you have great self esteem!! We look at ourselves every day and we just don't see it. It sounds like you were comfortable in your own skin and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I was the same way. It's just time to move onto an even better you!!
I'm kind of saddened by reading some of these responses and the reactions some of you had when you realized that you had some weight to lose. My wake up call was a picture, and my incentive was to maintain good health, but I have never, nor would I ever allow myself to feel bad about the situation!! No one should make you feel bad about yourself, least of all you!!0
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