Your bottom or your face?

My mother is 47 and beautiful, plus she has a decent, toned, body and shes at the perfect weight for her height. My grandmother still has a young face with virtually "no" wrinkles for someone who is 65, but she carries weight in her stomach, not so much her legs or arms.

I think it just varies from person to person. There's no way around it

Its true to a point, no one is saying you have to be fat but you may have a tad more than your preferred goal.

My goal is 154 lbs, its the weight I was happy at for 20 years but i've stated several times that now i'm the wrong side of 40 I will stop when my face starts showing it but i'm pretty sure i'll get very close to my goal weight before it starts showing in my face. Also the slower it comes off the better, sudden weight loss is not good for the skin...any skin!

If you lose weight, you lose the pudginess in your face, no matter your age. However, I have noticed (being 46 now), that the more fat you have in your face, the less the wrinkles show. But.....having wrinkly, loose skin is not just a result of being thinner. It's genetics, age related, and related to sun damage. All those play factors in how your face will look later in life. And I am not going to be fat for a few less wrinkles. Outside of just not liking how I look and feel if I'm heavier, as you age, you have to worry more about diabetes, high blood pressure, and a whole host of other ailments that are obesity related. So I'll take the wrinkles and remain healthy. Btw, there's always Botox!

Looking older doesn't bother me (I don't dye my hair and definitely have a good sprinkling of "silver" highlights). Feeling older does.

Have a look round the Success Stories photos. EVERYONE looks younger, don't they? :happy:

My mom is 44 and she is still absolutely gorgeous. She is Italian and has wonderful skin and hair, and no wrinkles. I hope to inherit these things! She struggled with her weight up until about 10 years ago, she has been a stable size 12 since then and I really think she's thriving in her 40s.

Wrinkles are a part of life.....every wrinkle is there as a result of who you are today and what has made you the person you are! whether you are 40, 50 or 90.....or even 16.....we need to realise that each day we ARE getting OLDer......nothing to be ashamed of....in fact it's better than the alternative!..........so I will embrace my wrinkles and lose the weight (even if it reveals more wrinkles) because my aim is to be healthy and happy IN SPITE of aging.

would I prefer to have smooth wrinkle free skin? yes you bet!!!...but not at the cost of my health.

so bum or face??

for me....neither....it this tummy that has to go!! LOL

Haha,I am 42 and I want both.I work on my hiney crazy ridiculous and i use a ton of face products.I know that as I loose weight I get more wrinkles ,less fat to fill them up

Perhaps the idea that a thin/good/attractive body is one with zero fat on it, is part of the problem. Our society is so obsessed with zero fat, that I see teenage girls (where I work) pull out skin on their bellies and claim that they are fat. A little fat does make the face more attractive - and it can also make thighs, butts and arms more attractive too. When I was a teenager, I thought my "fat cheeks" were so ugly that I wouldn't smile too big for fear that it would draw attention to the "fat". Now (at 43) I look at curvy round teens and girls and find their plumped out skin sultry and sexy. I wish I had known what I had and not been embarrassed or ashamed by my sexuality.

I guess it depends on your genetic. I look you and people always thing that I am mid 20. My mom is in her late 50s and people always think she's in her 30s. So I'm hoping that the same happens.