Up date on Nebraska safe haven law

OMG!! What is wrong with these people?!!

There was also the guy who dropped off ALL of his kids and the oldest was 17!!!!

I guess the crazy part to me was that she drove 10 hours to get here. What do you talk about in the care.

And Maybe the kid was out of contol, but why push him off on to someone else? She created the monster let her keep him in Detroit and be a problem there.

Like I said before the law was intended for infants, but they didn't put the age limit on it so they are trying to get that changed, but maybe the first part they need to get changed is that it is only avaliable to Nebraska citizens. We are so over loaded with foster kids and a complete lack of foster parents.

I agre with most of you.

I have 3 teenage daughters and they are 18 16 and 14 my oldest has moved out and still is home everyday asking fo rstuff I can't give most of the time. My 14 year old is home with me

Now about my 16 year old daughter; She was always running away and people woudl say well you must not be doing something right if she keeps running away well what I was doing was I was not letting her go out everynight and hang out with the kids that I felt were a bad influence.

Well one day she decided to skip school ( I could not keep her in school) and she got in the car of a friends boyfriend she had only met the biy a few times and had no idea how old he was. she was 15 at the time and her friend was 15 also. well he decided that he did not want to bring her home after a night of joy riding my daughter was gone for 3 weeks I had no idea where she was she would not answer her phone. I was so scared I even had her on the missing and exploited childrens website and she had a poster posted in the local wal-mart. It was the scarest thing to ever happen to me. Not to mention what it did to her. She was able to get away from this MAN found out later he was 27) she sent me a message on her MYSPACE i checked that daily and she told me she was in Hollywood california we live in fort worth texas.

It was not "kidnapping" even though she said she did not want to go with them to california becasue she go tin the car voluntary

The police were no help they kept her in a juvinile detention center for over a week because i could not come get her due to money issues the judge ordered a plane ticket home for her and she came home

we tried to press kidnapping charges on this man and NO STATE WOULD help us Texas NOPE california NOPE new mexico NOPE arizona NOPE


Any way to get to the point of the law we are talking about I had to do something with this out of control kid I loved her so much I had to do something. I called her father and sent her to him He lives in Alabama and that was the hardest thing I had to do in my life was to give up a child I had raised for 15 years and gave birth to

But it was to saave her life.. so the moral of this is .......................

sometimes you have to give them up for their own sake..

yes this is all true!!!!!

From my point of view it is so hard on those kids. I was put up for adoption when I was 6 yrs old and I was adopted when I was 8. I was in and out of foster homes since I was a little baby. My birth mother kept my brother and gave my sister and me up. Her excuse was she didnt think anyone would take him because he was mixed. I have had to deal with abandonment issues my whole life. I think just these past 2 years have I been feeling a little better about myself. I also think that is why I am finally able to take control of my weight now. At least try. All these kids will feel like they are not worthy of anyones love. It will be years upon years for them to get over this. I cant believe this.

Connie

I hope me sending my daughter does not feel like I abandoned her, Seeing you say that now I am scared.
I do however talk to her daily and tell her I love her all the time and tell her how proud i am of her change and I send her things when she gets good grades and i just don't want her to feel like i don't love her and we talk about why she is there at her fathers and she sayss she knows but she will be coming home next summer for 2 weeks so we can be together.

Here's the deal. No good parent would ever permanitly give up there child after living with them for a number of years

Oh and by the way I have a 16 old daughter at times I'd love to drive to Nebraska and drop off - except it's too far :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

From my point of view it is so hard on those kids. I was put up for adoption when I was 6 yrs old and I was adopted when I was 8. I was in and out of foster homes since I was a little baby. My birth mother kept my brother and gave my sister and me up. Her excuse was she didnt think anyone would take him because he was mixed. I have had to deal with abandonment issues my whole life. I think just these past 2 years have I been feeling a little better about myself. I also think that is why I am finally able to take control of my weight now. At least try. All these kids will feel like they are not worthy of anyones love. It will be years upon years for them to get over this. I cant believe this.

Connie

I hope me sending my daughter does not feel like I abandoned her, Seeing you say that now I am scared.
I do however talk to her daily and tell her I love her all the time and tell her how proud i am of her change and I send her things when she gets good grades and i just don't want her to feel like i don't love her and we talk about why she is there at her fathers and she sayss she knows but she will be coming home next summer for 2 weeks so we can be together.

I think that is a different situation. My mother just gave us up and we didnt know why or anything. You tend to think that things are your fault. You at least talk to your daughter. After I was given up we didnt have any contact with our mother, all we knew was that she didnt want us anymore. I think you and your daughter now have a good relationship. I actually had a great relationship with my adoptive mom as I grew older. I would call her almost everyday. I miss her... she died of breast cancer in dec of 06.

Connie

I shouldn't have read this thread. You guys have me crying. :sad:

I guess since I cannot fathom giving away my child, no matter the circumstance, I try to believe that all these parents are good parents. I know that is a naive thought, stupid and utterly ridiculous, but it's the only way I can begin to process how parents could dump their kids off and leave. They must all be good parents doing what was best for their kid's sake, not just worthless parents who were sick of their kids. People-- the young and the old -- have become disposable these days. Ditch the kids anyway you can, and park your aging parents in a nursing home. It's deplorable.:brokenheart:

Monica, sending your daughter to live with her father does NOT qualify as abandoning her. I can only imagine how hard that was for you. You did what was best for her... It reminds me of parents who have to put their kids in military schools, in hopes they can straighten out the kid. You are still responsible for her, have a relationship with her, talk to her often, support her, love her. You didn't throw her away, you did what was right by her, for her safety. That took love. That is respectable.

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