Keep it to yourself :)

I hope that this isn't about a post that I responded to today, because if it is I feel horrible. I don't want people to dislike me, I love this website. If I am the guilty party I'm really sorry. If I'm not, please disregard.

Not at all Helen, I didn't see any of your posts or response. I always post stuff like this to remind everyone that giving up is not an option, even when the world might seem to be against us. There will always be obstacles and people who will do anything in their power to see us fail, but I like to share what I use for myself as motivation with others here.

I agree, I believe the more you talk about your weight problem the more you feel like you've done something about it, when all you've done is talk. Then when you feel like you;ve got a handle on it and your're starting to work a program and feel confident, maybe have even lost a couple of pounds, the minute I share that with someone, I feel like I've lost my power. I think the key is keeping it to yourself or knowing who is safe to share your journey with.

Jane B

Exactly, but I think is a matter of mentality due to the education most people get. When you get things how you want them because you b*tch and cry and complain, you're basically being spoiled and don't value what you get because of lack of effort. When you have to work hard to get what you want, that's when you really value what you get. People complain a lot and all they're doing is using their energy trying to make themselves look as victims, and by the end of it they'll be drained and won't have the strength to keep working for what they want. If instead they would use that energy and manifest it as hard work and motivation, their achievements would be beyond beliefs.

I agree. People came to this site for encouragement and help not to be put down or criticized.

There will always be those who prefer to associate with the ones who are fit and not with those who want to get fit. Is alright, there are plenty of other people who will help the ones wanting to get fit because they want to see them raise and succeed.

Thanks for your encouraging words! I read a thread recently where the comments were harsh. I thought to myself, geez I don't know that I would ever post a question for fear that someone might respond to me like that. Having said that, most MFP'ers do seem like they genuinely want to help but all it takes is that one negative person to deflate someone's morale.

You're welcome and yes, unfortunately that's what it takes, one person. I've posted few threads and in some, those who disagree make it look like I'm completely wrong. Why have I taken my time to actually reply to their answers? Because everybody is free to disagree, but not everybody do, and for those who think my posts are helpful, reading a comment from someone who disagrees might actually affect the way they have interpreted the original post, which is why I reply so no one gets discouraged by any disagreement from users here.

What for for some, won't work for others. Just be open and if it doesn't apply to you, move on and ignore it