Going to Quit???

kathott
kathott Posts: 72 Member
edited September 25 in Motivation and Support
I dont normally write on these boards but today I am so frustrated....actually been frustrated for awhile now. I think I am going to quit
I cannot do anything more than what I have been doing. I am not losing weight and in fact seem to have gained some! i did fine till
I hit 10 lbs and then its been a struggle to get past there. Due to my disability, I cannot do anything more than walking which i have faithfully done everyday. I struggle to actually "eat enough" ....always have calories left at the end of the day.
My body hurts and my spirit is broken. I hate my body right now. I hate the person who caused my injury/disability.

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  • missie21
    missie21 Posts: 103 Member
    Don't quit.... you are just in a rut........maybe you could take a closer look at what your diet consists of...may be you are eating but not the right things ......try to switch things up and maybe for a week..... if you don't mind me asking what is your disability? and at least you are walking... pleas keep your head up.....
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    Don't give up! Sounds like you need to talk to your Doctor. Sometimes medication can cause weight gain. If you
    take things for pain or depression, maybe he or she can change them. If it is just a plateau, he or she can make suggestions
    to help you get over the hump. Good luck!
  • tammyquinnlmt
    tammyquinnlmt Posts: 680 Member
    Keep an eye on your sodium. I know its tough, but processed food, while convienent, can really ruin a diet due to all the sodium. Maybe you need to raise or drop your calories? I hope you don't quit. This journey is a difficult and frustrating one at times. Hang in there...and friend me if you want positive support!
  • porterbaby38
    porterbaby38 Posts: 1,401
    please don't give up, walking is a great way to lose weight, just take one day at a time. that's all my sister likes to do,is walk. try reviving up your walking, like using very light weights, or get a friend to go walking with you or a family member. just don't give up.
  • dlaplume2
    dlaplume2 Posts: 1,658 Member
    Don't quit. You are doing good and in the big picture you are down 10lbs. For someone with a diabilty that has trouble exercising 10lb is good. I don't know how much you weigh, but look at percentages too.

    I can't say I kow how you feel, having not been diabled, but it can always be worse. You are able to walk. Some people with back injuries can't walk. You are going through some major life changes that are results of actions beyond your control. You used to be a nurse, what kind of advise would you give to a patient that came in feeling the way you do?

    I wish you the best of luck.
  • JanerZzz
    JanerZzz Posts: 276
    Don't give up! It would just make you feel even more discouraged. See if there are changes you can make to your diet, may be seek a nutritionist advice :) But Don't Give Up! You've come so far and this is just a little speed bump. :flowerforyou:
  • How about not quit but take a break. Switch your goal over to "maintaining" and not losing. That way you won't waste the progress you made and you can take a few weeks break for your mind and soul to re-evaluate your strategy. Do research as to what exercises you can do. You may be surprised at what you find you have the ability to do when the pressure is off. Don't give up - don't let the person that caused your injury take even more from you. You got this :happy:
  • miqisha
    miqisha Posts: 1,534 Member
    Don't quit, get that thought out of your mind. You will be worst off if you give up, because you will gain all you have lost plus some.

    Everyone goes through the plateau process, however forget that you aren't losing (I know it's easier said than done), but think about how much healthier your body is getting, by staying in shape.

    Continue doing what you are doing, probably change up your eating habits abit, ensure you aren't taking in more than 2500mg sodium daily, stay closer to 1500mg if possible. Ensure you are drinking atleast 64 oz of water daily.

    Just stick it out girl. You can do this. I was in a plateau for a couple months, I just kept at it, and I have since started losing, just keep at it

    Goodluck
  • smilebhappy
    smilebhappy Posts: 811 Member
    We all go through a period where we get frustrated....:flowerforyou:
    Don't quit.......you can get over this hump
    Have you taken a look at your diet....maybe you just need alittle tweeking
    Are you drinking enough water throughout the day??
    That's great you have been walking ;) Do you do walking videos??
    Leslie Sansone has some great low impact walking video's
    Can you use weights when you walk??
    If you'd like extra support I'd be glad to be your friend.

    Keep your chin up.....you can do this :bigsmile:
  • Noonoo757
    Noonoo757 Posts: 280 Member
    Stick in there don't quit!!! You owe it to yourself, have a pity party for a day or two and then get yourself back in the swing of things. If you can't get enough calories in have you thought about a protein drink or shake to add some good clean calories. You said all you can do is walk, honey that is a blessing some people can't even do that and wish they could move their limbs so continue to walk, walk maby a lil further a bit faster go up a hill walk backwards up a hill to switch it up.

    Just don't quit, your here right now and we are all here for support so we know what your going through and sympathize. We all fall down but you have to continue to get back up because you are worth it and you deserve to be healthy and happy.
  • sunbead
    sunbead Posts: 9 Member
    Don't quit!!! I don't have an injury but I do have an eating disorder and struggle every day. Last night was very bad for me but today I'm going to dust myself off and start again. Every day is a new day to hold our head high and keep going!
  • irishgal44
    irishgal44 Posts: 1,141 Member
    :( I read your profile and I see you have a career ending back injury. My husband lifted a morbidly obese lady on a cot a couple years ago - (he was an EMT). He ended up hurting his back so badly and it ended his EMT career. Makes me sad reading your profile because I sort of feel your pain through watching him and what he's gone through. Your back would feel so much better if you did lose even 10 more pounds hun. You need support, that's all you need. So...please really, really, really consider not giving up. Take a deep breath and know you're worth that. That person that caused your back to be injured...show them you will not be brought down. You will succeed. You will not only lose that weight, but feel better than ever. You'll decrease your chances of diabetes and you will increase your self worth. By summer, you will be where you need to be and you will be with your daughters looking just as good as they are.

    Here's what I suggest to people on here, and this is all personal preferance, but this is what has worked for me.

    1. Add friends. You don't need to know who we are to get support to succeed. The more support you have, the better you will do. It's like going to a weight watchers meeting on your computer. People do well going to meetings because they have a group of people saying "way to go" or "wow, you are great". It makes you want to keep going - not give up. What I did was go into the community tab and find people that inspired me, who were my same age, had some of my same goals...people who made me want to be a better person.

    2. Make your food diary public to your friends. I did this and I have a hard time with it sometimes but it's also making me lose weight. Someone last night said "watch your fat intake" and it was something I hadn't even noticed until they brought it up. Good find from my MFP friend and something I will make sure to watch today. If I'm not eating enough - people will give me ideas.

    3. Find a form of exercise you can do. Arm band exercises, etc. I'm sure your Physical Therapist has suggested things you can and should be doing to help your back. You can do those. And if you can't or won't, you can still lose weight.

    4. Measure yourself today so when the scale isn't showing a loss, you can measure yourself and see that you have probably lost inches as well. That's just as motivating to me, if not more during those times when the scale is not my friend.

    Hang in there. Keep your chin up and know you're worth it. Let YOU win.
  • harley0269
    harley0269 Posts: 384 Member
    YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!
    YOU CAN SWIM!!! Vary up your walking with swimming. It feels SOooooo good to be weightless in the water.

    Hi Kat!
    Im Wendy.
    Im disabled too!!. L4-L5, S1 (lamenectomy, discectomy, & spinal fussion) carple tunnel R&L (going on round 2 with that now), narrowing discs in the neck, permanent nueropothy throught my body & right eye, prediabetic, & some other issues, like ocd & bouts of deppression. My starting weight was 225. I started MFP at 213. Today Im 198. Still have a LONG way to go to get back down to 125 (which is what I was before I hurt my back 10 yrs ago).
    I sound a mess on paper & I am. But today Im meds free, walking a few days a week, logging my food, eating healthy & feeling happy about my life. When I started here I could not even stand at the stove to cook a bowl of oatmeal. Now I can cook 1-minute oats on the stove! Thats a big victory for me. My life will never be the same like it was, & thats ok now. My priorities changed. My life is slower now & sometimes that is good, becuse Im not going to miss the important stuff. Being disabled is a challenge. The mind is willing but the body isnt. Doing regular tasks, like wiping your own butt is difficult, I know. (even sex has changed) But dont let it get you down! Look at all the wonderful things this disability brought. Like awareness of healthy eating, & exercising. A slower life style now which is perfect for spending time with grandkids. Less strenous activities you didnt even know you liked (for me its no more hunting, but hello fishing!) Dont dwell on the stuff you cant do. but celebrate the things you CAN do! Its a whole new world & you get to explore it! (exploring new sex posistions was hard but fun) ~no pun intended. lol
    Today is a good day. Today you woke up, took a breath, & made a concious effort to ask for help. Today you will learn new things (like how to do things, & new things about yourself).
    And tomorrow is another day. Tomorrow is a chance to learn, to grow, & to teach someone else that is struggling, what you have learned.
    So dont give up. You are here for a reason. You are an angel.
    You can do this & you dont have to do it alone!
  • kathott
    kathott Posts: 72 Member
    Hi Wendy. Thank very much for taking the time to write to me. its nice to hear from someone who is sorta in the same
    situation as I. I pretty much am the same "mess" as you. haha. Recently I have been told about some unnerving findings in
    my bloodwork. Its just like...WTF...isn't it enough already?? Maybe that explains why i am so opposed with doing well. I am terrified that the pain medications are going to kill me early and that I wont see my daughters married with children.
    My one daughter told me not to worry so much about it but I haven't told her about the bloodwork issues.

    anyway, thanks for listening and for the support. I appreciate it immensely. Would you like to friend each other so we can keep
    track of each other.
    I hope you are doing ok..please feel free to call upon me if you ever need support.
    take good care of yourself.
    Kathleen
  • kathott
    kathott Posts: 72 Member
    Thanks everyone for all the support and suggestions. I promise I wont give up. Just a really bad morning but
    though some of your comments brought me to tears ...they were good tears knowing that there are kind people
    out there in this world, willing to take the time to help out a total stranger.

    I am going to explore some of the suggestions....but mostly just want to say THANKS right now - you are ALL
    very KIND!!!

    Kathleen
  • harley0269
    harley0269 Posts: 384 Member
    Hi Wendy. Thank very much for taking the time to write to me. its nice to hear from someone who is sorta in the same
    situation as I. I pretty much am the same "mess" as you. haha. Recently I have been told about some unnerving findings in
    my bloodwork. Its just like...WTF...isn't it enough already?? Maybe that explains why i am so opposed with doing well. I am terrified that the pain medications are going to kill me early and that I wont see my daughters married with children.
    My one daughter told me not to worry so much about it but I haven't told her about the bloodwork issues.

    anyway, thanks for listening and for the support. I appreciate it immensely. Would you like to friend each other so we can keep
    track of each other.
    I hope you are doing ok..please feel free to call upon me if you ever need support.
    take good care of yourself.
    Kathleen
  • harley0269
    harley0269 Posts: 384 Member
    Welcome Friend :flowerforyou:

    Gosh I can relate to what your saying & going thru. So if you ever need an ear, Im only a click away.
  • kathott
    kathott Posts: 72 Member
    You as well Wendy
  • SLIM195
    SLIM195 Posts: 133 Member
    I just read some of the treads where they said they hit a plateau. What they did was increased their water intake. One said 96 oz a day try it , it might help you. They say, " nothing beats a Try but a Failure" 
  • pinkgigi
    pinkgigi Posts: 693 Member
    Kat

    You have done really really well so far, own that and love yourself, you are worth it!

    BTW I have had festering unhappiness and anger in my life also, please focus on forgiveness and being happy every day, it will unburden you and help with the healing.

    Hugs

    GG
  • nissafull
    nissafull Posts: 48
    Hang in there kiddo. This is one of the hardest things in life to do. I am feel such a spirit of love and caring from those that have posted. I know you have gotten a lot of suggestions.... are you drinking at least 8 glasses of water? Also. what has helped me was going to eating small meals about 2.5 to 3 hours apart.. this seems to speed up your metabolism. I have heard it this way... to get a fire started you don't pile big logs on. you start with small pieces. That is how our metabolism is,. this also keeps your blood sugars at a level plane, which requires less insulin to enter your bloodstream. Insulin, a hormone, makes us gain and hold onto weight. A lot of information, but I hope it will help out.... Glad it was a bad day and glad your got a cheering section behind ya!
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