What do I do???

mdyoung6309
mdyoung6309 Posts: 26
edited September 25 in Motivation and Support
Today I went to my family's house who isn't verry supportive about my diet goals and plans for weight loss... They make meals that are high in fat and calories and It is rude if I say I don't want any... What can I do to avoid their meal choices and yet still not offend them?

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  • sassylilmama
    sassylilmama Posts: 1,493 Member
    Maybe not completely refuse it but choose small portions?
  • leomom72
    leomom72 Posts: 1,797 Member
    i don't think it's rude at all..it is rude of THEM to not be supportive..yall are all adults, and the situation should be treated that way. it is ok of you to refuse if you don't want any..
  • JenBrown0210
    JenBrown0210 Posts: 985 Member
    I would just do small portions. Sorry they are not supportive! Maybe try to get them to join MFP . Sometimes others need a push!
  • newjmf
    newjmf Posts: 78
    I feel your pain! I went to a family reunion today that I knew would be loaded with BAD, BAD, BAD food choices. It was a pot luck, so we were supposed to bring enough food to feed our own family. I took grilled pork chops, grilled squash, red, orange & yellow bell peppers & grilled asparagus. Everyone RAVED about how good my food was and I would say, "See, healthy does not have to taste bad...it actually tastes better!" They all agreed! I also stayed away from the dessert table...this is how I know I've made a lifestyle change.

    I suggest gracefully declining their meal and bringing a healther alternative. If you can get them to try the healthier and better tasting foods, they may just follow in your foot steps! But do try to explain to them that what you are doing is going to help you live a longer, happier and much more healthy life...

    Don't let them hold you back from making good choices and bettering yourself! Good luck on your journey!
  • chanstriste13
    chanstriste13 Posts: 3,277 Member
    portion what you eat and offer to make a side dish that would be healthy and shared. maybe you'll encourage someone to get on the healthy bandwagon. that's my nice answer.

    bring your own food or eat prior and decline, and don't care if they are offended - if they don't support you, support yourself! that's probably what i would actually do... :tongue:

    i know that's a tricky situation. i have a diva chef of an aunt that makes marvelous food, but goes on about it for years when i don't eat as much as she sees fit. best of luck to you!
  • SugarDiva
    SugarDiva Posts: 403 Member
    I have this issue when I go to my boyfriend's parents. They don't call me rude but they do comment on how I should eat more and there's not enough food on my plate.. blah blah blah.. Anyway, what I do is load my plate full of veggies and salad so I'm eating good AND it looks like there's more on my plate and because I'm vegetarian and they aren't, I take something with me, like a bean side dish or some tofurky. If you take something with you, then you always have something you can have and maybe they'd like to try it too. :wink:
  • summerkissed
    summerkissed Posts: 730 Member
    I have this problem with a lot of prople I train, and I myself also have this problem when visiting friends! They dont understand nor support my goals. So what to do???? These people are toxic to your health but usally they are family and friends that are close, you need to stay strong and remember all things in moderation are ok! When you go to there houses try a small amount of the food and compliment them on how lovely it is, then say but thank you Ive had enough! Then picture in your head 6 months from now at how wonderful, fit and healthy you are going to look, think of all the positive comments you will recieve from all the supportive people you have around you! And im sorry to say that the fitter and healthier I have gotten the more my friends try to push there bad habbits on me! But the stronger I have gotten and the easier it has become to say no thank you!
    You are on the right track, you are on My Fitness Pal you have alot of supportive friends around you on here that will support you!!! You are not the only one in these shoes......but the shoes you are wearing are the ones that will lead you to a long healthy, active and happy life!!!!

    Just one more thing I suggest and it sounds funny but does work.......when you are at home alone, put on your favourite music up loud......Get a plate, sit at the table, and practice pushing it away say no thank you and then do it again and again, whilst listening to your favoutie tunes.....feel good about it, feel the music, feel how you feel saying no, enjoy it!!! Associate the music, the good feelings, the saying "No thank you" I know this sounds funny but then when you are at families houses and you say no you will feel those happy feelings and it makes it easier!!! This has worked for a quite a few of my friends and they now have no trouble saying "No Thank You"

    You are a strong women, people that arnt suppoting you, really are the ones that wish they had the strength to do what you are doing but to them it is easier to pull you down, than for them to rise to you level!

    Good luck xx:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
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