Not feeling happy about weight loss..

DjBliss05
DjBliss05 Posts: 682
edited September 19 in Motivation and Support
I have lost 12 lbs so far (and am hopeful that a few more will come off soon). I am only 4 lbs above my lowest weight that I can remember in junior year of college. I felt great then! My tummy was smaller, my figure was looking curvey, my face was thinner... I looked good! I remember getting a ton of new attention from men then and totally enjoying it!

This time around I am not at all having the same reaction. I really hit a wall of just feeling really down last week. People weren't noticing and worst of all, I couldn't feel the difference! Instead of noticing that my body has changed, and it has a little, I have just been noticing how much more fat there is to lose. Instead of being glad that my jeans are falling off, I am sad that I can't fit into the next size yet. Losing weight seems to be putting a strain on my relationship, too. I am getting increasingly impatient with him.

I really expected to feel great and I just don't yet. I think maybe I have just decided to reach for bigger goals this time and won't be satisfied until I get there. I am just hoping that eventually I will hit a point when I can be excited about this instead of being angry that I am not already thinner. :brokenheart:

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  • DjBliss05
    DjBliss05 Posts: 682
    I have lost 12 lbs so far (and am hopeful that a few more will come off soon). I am only 4 lbs above my lowest weight that I can remember in junior year of college. I felt great then! My tummy was smaller, my figure was looking curvey, my face was thinner... I looked good! I remember getting a ton of new attention from men then and totally enjoying it!

    This time around I am not at all having the same reaction. I really hit a wall of just feeling really down last week. People weren't noticing and worst of all, I couldn't feel the difference! Instead of noticing that my body has changed, and it has a little, I have just been noticing how much more fat there is to lose. Instead of being glad that my jeans are falling off, I am sad that I can't fit into the next size yet. Losing weight seems to be putting a strain on my relationship, too. I am getting increasingly impatient with him.

    I really expected to feel great and I just don't yet. I think maybe I have just decided to reach for bigger goals this time and won't be satisfied until I get there. I am just hoping that eventually I will hit a point when I can be excited about this instead of being angry that I am not already thinner. :brokenheart:
  • hollymommy
    hollymommy Posts: 7
    I just started this, in fact i just signed up, im hoping to lose weight, i have two kids and i lost alot of weight after my second baby about 50 pounds but i also gained 75 during my second pregnancy plus all the left over weight i didnt lose from my first, but im still no where close to where i was before having children. its really hard and frustrating because society put so much pressure on everyone being thin and beautiful, and you cant flip through 5 channels without seing at least 5 ity-bity girls. But im determined that if we keep at it we will lose it , and i think it takes a toll on our loved ones because they think we are beautiful no matter how much we weigh, but deep down you feel awful about yourself and its a viscious cycle.
    Hang in there!! im excited to get going on losing my weight. just look forward to the end and how great you'll feel then instead of worrying about the now, if your already losing than your that much closer to achieving! :heart:
  • EvilPIB
    EvilPIB Posts: 334 Member
    I can understand how you feel. I was very active when I was younger with the six packs ab's and all. After my third child I didn't snap back into my size 7 and that destroyed me. I found out that they only way I will every have a flat tummy is to get a tummy tuck. So much damage was done to my muscles during my last pregnancy due to carrying very low. My son weighed almost 11 lbs and I gained close to 100 and not from over eating. That was 14 years ago and I'm still struggling. I gave up on my appreance and social life all at once. To make things worse I got divorced when my son was two. In the past 10 years I have sabotage two relationships because of my appreance and how I felt. They didn't care but I did. Don't do this!!!!. You can never go back, you can only go forward. I made a decision to change the way I feel from the inside out not the outside in. If you look good but don't feel good nothing is accomplished. So far I have lost 8 lbs and I feel good about them. I have been utilizing this site for close to one month now and it has been very helpful. There are so many women & men out there feeling the same way we are. Don't give up!!!. You might want to sit down and re-evaluate your goals. Some times, we women, expected things to happen quickly and when they don't we get depressed; we are our own worst enemy. I love the attention I used to get from men but like you I don't get that anymore. A male friend told me a while ago that I'm very pretty and dont' look my age and he wished I could see it. Sometime we look so hard for the women we were that we don't see the women we have become. Good Luck to you.
  • Gator4RTR
    Gator4RTR Posts: 119 Member
    Hang in there DJ...the weight will come off and you will be back in form in no time. :wink:

    Just figure out whats not working...whether it is your diet plan or your workout. Find what the roadblocks are and work your way around them and pretty soon the weight will be melting off.

    We are here for you when ya need to vent! :flowerforyou:
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