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Malani2010
Malani2010 Posts: 245 Member
edited September 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
I just found out that my father is in need of a bone marrow transplant due to cancer. I'm so upset and depressed that I can't eat. I am trying to stay strong for my family but its hard. Every time I eat I get sick to my stomach. (no I'm not pregnant) lol Any advice will be helpful.

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  • foodforfuel
    foodforfuel Posts: 569 Member
    Peace be with you.
  • Mommyof3texans
    Mommyof3texans Posts: 347 Member
    I'm so sorry, I don't have much advice except maybe try to sip some protein shakes or smoothies?
  • monkeybuttsmommy
    monkeybuttsmommy Posts: 343 Member
    My dad was very sick last year. Fealt like my heart was being ripped out. I relied on my friends and family for support and did what I had to to get through. Don't worry about calories, excercise or any of that unless it helps you cope. Be with your family, you will survive it. I did and when it was happening I couldn't imagine a world beyound my current state. Hang in there.
  • vanfox23
    vanfox23 Posts: 110 Member
    Take meltdown time. You will feel better once you let your feelings out to better handle everything else. I've never been in that exact situation, but in other situations I've been in, I've always felt better after I've had my private meltdown. I hope that everything goes well and your father comes through this with flying colors. Huggs to you!
  • dragonbug300
    dragonbug300 Posts: 760 Member
    Be strong! It's an awful experience to have someone so close to you in danger, but I know several people who donate bone marrow regularly. It's not uncommon, and I'm sure that it's only a matter of time before your dad gets some marrow and is sent on his way. Just keep chugging along in life and be grateful for the moments that you're strong and healthy, as well as those those that you can spend with family.

    Good luck to you and your father!
  • jeannas
    jeannas Posts: 109 Member
    I am so sorry for your father and you and your family. I am sure this is a huge shock to you, that is why you can't keep anything down after eating. Just try and eat a little bit, dry toast maybe..a few bitefuls at a time. Once you can hold it down, you can eventually add a little more food. Take a deep breath and have faith (do you believe?). If you do, a favorite saying is "Let Go and Let God".

    Try and get some rest too..take a tylenol pm or something if you can.

    Take care.
  • jvesey
    jvesey Posts: 1 Member
    I know three people who have have bone marrow transplants and they are all doing well. No, it was not an easy journey, but all people are stronger than they ever think they will be. I think it may even been worse on the family. Stay positive...be there for him....pray for him....believe in him. He'll come through this fine.
  • kbanzhaf
    kbanzhaf Posts: 601 Member
    Malani,

    The stress that you are going through with your father's illness can (and probably) will wreck havoc on your body. I agree with a previous post that said to allow yourself to have a meltdown. Find a trusted friend, and pour out your grief (and you are grieving the loss of your father's health), anger, sadness, etc. to that person. Cry, throw things, stomp your feet.....do whatever it takes to get it out. Then, I think your inner strength will allow you to be strong and supportive of your family.

    There will come a time when you can eat.....and when you do, try to keep it healthy. It will be tempting to go back to bad eating habits because you will want to grab something quick and easy.

    Perhaps getting involved with a blood marrow donor drive or something will let you feel like you are doing something to help your father. Have you been tested yourself?

    I will keep your family in my prayers......for strength and peace of mind.
    Kaye

    PS....the Tylenol PM hint? GO FOR IT....I haven't been able to sleep well without since my husband was diagnosed with a brain tumor 12 years ago (and since his death 10 1/2 years ago).
  • 1crazymom
    1crazymom Posts: 434 Member
    Try and eat small meals/snacks. Know it's not easy. Just do it for your children. Take it one day at a time. My kids make a bad day/time better. Their little smiles help me forget for a moment. We've been through alot this year, this is what helped me,one day at a time. Hope it helps. Best of luck to you and your dad!:flowerforyou:
  • anikkim0915
    anikkim0915 Posts: 100 Member
    I am so sorry that your father and family are having to go through this.

    Take care of yourself. Do not worry about eating regular meals. Your body has a way of adjusting.

    When my brother passed away I couldn't eat anything either. But I did make sure to try and eat something, even if it was a piece of fruit.

    Best Wishes to your family and father
  • FitJoani
    FitJoani Posts: 2,173 Member
    first off i am so sorry to hear and big hugs...i find that working out keeps things in perspective, and calms me down, and eat bland safe food like rice and toast maybe some broth...just to get something in your body
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