I need accountability!

what you need is a lifelong commitment to make your changes permanent, I do that by constantly changing my goals, I had started at 198, with a goal of 175, hit that then changed it to 170, hit that now its 10% bodyfat or 158 pounds, whichever comes first. Once I have hit that goal then it is onto muscle building to get to a place that I like. Doing this is about perfecting yourself and making new challenges. I have formed a group and post weekly challenges on my blog, if that motivates you and makes you accountable then feel free to add me and join in.

I just joined. I too yo-yo diet. Maybe we can do a small challange together like walking just 90 minutes that week or something. I just sent you a friend request. Let me know if you are interested in challenges, or anyone else who would like to.

I have a hard time believing that a website such as this or WW or any other weight loss program can give you accountability. The definition of accountability is the willingness to accept responsibiltity for one's actions.

I do believe that this website will give you the tools to help you succeed, lots of motivation as well as fitness tips, information, etc. But at the end of the day, you have free will, you make the choice to eat healthy or unhealthy. No one is going to stand there and force you to eat a candy bar or drink a soda and no one will force you to eat veggies, fresh fruit or healthy meats.

In my opinion it's a matter of how bad do you want this. It's easy to sit around in yoga pants and big t-shirts, it's hard to get up and exercise and it's too easy to say I need accountability. When what we should be saying is I am accountable for my choices and actions.

I don't mean any of this to be negative, just giving you my perspective/opinion. Good luck to you and I hope you find the success you strive for.

I have also found that having friends on here has really helped me. I have just sent a request

Some great advice so far. One point stands out. This website is a tool, and an excellent one at that. BUT, you will be alone. The calories will be lurking. The chocolate, pizza, (fill in your favorite fat builder here) are going to call your name. But only for a little while, you'll get past it.

But, to be accountable, you've got to make changes deeper than this website. Why do you want to lose the weight and get in shape? I challenge you to go deeper than what you have listed on your profile page. You don't need to make them public, but go deeper. Why do you eat? I know I ate because it let me feel 'relaxed' and 'unstressed'. Or so I thought. I looked at myself more, and realized that was BS...I ate because it tasted good and gave me pleasure. Nothing more. I simply couldn't deal with delaying gratification...now I do. And why? Because I realized that what I received for delaying that gratification was 10x more powerful than the feeling of food going into my system.

Go deeper. Eat clean. Teach your kids to eat cleanly. Yep, that's right. No twinkies. No cupcakes. Get rid of the processed stuff. Ditch the soda. It won't be easy, but it's worth it to you for your goals, and it will start them off right - and give them a fighting chance. Every notice severely overweight kids...what do their parents look like? It's not often you see two very fit parents with obese kids. Sure there are exceptions, but not many.

So, dig deeper, make the changes, know why you're making the changes, and do it hardcore. But know that in the end, YOU are responsible. You've got no one else to blame for falling off the wagon...only you. Life gets tough, but that's not an excuse. Get in shape, add years to your life, and give your kids a shot, too. Best of luck, and for encouragement and information, find someone you trust. Not someone who will tell you what you want to hear, but someone who will kick you squarely in the *kitten* if you make excuses.

There my blithering 2 cents worth. Now go workout.

I hear ya! I know how hard it is to stay committed and focused and also know what its like to not have clothes fit you quite the way you wish you would! I think you have gotten some great advice and would love to add you as a friend so that we can motivate each other!