Anyone have advice?

lilviotch
lilviotch Posts: 9
edited September 26 in Health and Weight Loss
Ok so heres the deal my boss is seriously over weight (over 450 at 5'10") bmi is of the charts and I'm afraid for his life!!! For the last 4 years I've been trying to encourage him with no luck!! Here at work we have a biggest loser contest he has attempted twice but only weighed in once both times than gave up.....:( His best friend (in the same boat) is diabetic has lost some toes which supposedly made him think about changing his lifestyle but I haven't seen anything yet! My question is what do I do I know if he carries on this way he will die or become seriously sick how do you encourage someone to lose weight I want to help so bad cause i'm really worried but I feel like everytime I do he shuts the door on me! Advice anyone please help??

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  • melsinct
    melsinct Posts: 3,512 Member
    You can't make the choice for him. Much like anyone with a bad habit- smokers, drug addicts, obese people...you can't make the choice they need to make. I know it sucks but all you can do is gently (and I mean gently, not nag) encourage him to join you for a short walk and other healthy activities.
  • ramseyrose
    ramseyrose Posts: 421 Member
    Its hard but he has to be ready to do it himself. A friends boss died a few weeks ago aged 47. He was overweight, got pneumonia and couldnt fight it.. He left 5 children. There is not a lot you can do really.
  • lilviotch
    lilviotch Posts: 9
    Yeah I know and Ive tried but no luck the last year I have giving up completly on trying to help..... What makes it worse is everyone around here in the office enables him by bringing breakfast and taking him to get fast food for lunch!! I feel like I'm the only one that cares!!!
  • amandalc980
    amandalc980 Posts: 383 Member
    My dad has had numerous heart attacks and has been told he needs to quit smoking. Every so often he goes into the ICU and we are told the man has months left. He has COPD and get pneumonia like its a hobby. He can't go out in the woods like he wants to and has trouble breating just walking to answer the phone. My dads diet consists of bacon, beer and cigarettes. We have tried to get him to see reason, tried to get him to quit smoking at least. His answer, "If I can't enjoy the things i like in life than what is the point." Aparently the man enjoys his pack of cigarettes more than he enjoys fishing and running with the grandkids.

    Sometimes there is no reasoning with people. They know what they are doing is killing them, but they chose to ignore it. We can stress it and let it upset us or we can (and i know this sounds horrible) ignore it, too. At some point you have to give up and just enjoy the person while they are here and functional enough to be enjoyed.
  • alifer
    alifer Posts: 387 Member
    He is the only one that can decide when/if he is ready. I would venture to guess that some people aren't ready until it is too late.

    I would love to see my husband lose weight also. (He's over 300). Same situation, if I nag he will rebel further. I only hope that as I get healthier and he notices the changes in me he will be ready to take charge of his body also. Right now he is full of excuses, although he is on board with healthier cooking (to an extent) to help me stay in my calories.

    My dad was also very overweight until he went in for a check up and the doctor asked him if he would prefer to have a heart attack or a stroke. His answer was neither. The doctor said then you need to make some changes. My dad took that as a challenge and lost 50 lbs before the next checkup and kept it going until he lost all the excess. Now his doc wants him to gain 10 lbs.
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