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Are you okay with someone close to you comment on your weight

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  • bradsbaby1996
    bradsbaby1996 Posts: 154 Member
    It's no better on the other end either!! I have lost 114 pounds in the last year and I hear constantly "you're going to blow away"... it makes me so mad!!! Like mad enough that the next person says it is gonna catch it!!! I weigh 150 pounds, I am not gonna freaking blow away!!!
  • blc1971
    blc1971 Posts: 170 Member
    I've actually had more comments about my weight now that I'm thin than when I was obese. I am currenly 5'6" and 139 lbs. I frequently have people tell me not to lose any more weight and "you need to eat something"!! Seriously?? I don't tell you to stop gaining weight and to quit eating. Why is it okay to tell a grown woman she needs to eat. I'm 43 years old...I think I know when I am hungry and what I want/need to eat. I had a few comments about my weight before but nothing like the ones I get now. All that being said, the bulk of the comments I get now are positive and complimentary, so I don't stress the others.
  • lil_lizt
    lil_lizt Posts: 275 Member
    My mum and best friends constantly tell me I'm getting fat, as if I didn't know lol. I was always a UK 4-6 up until my dad dying 3yrs ago and now I'm a UK 14 and I'm only 5' tall. It doesn't help that they've all either lost a lot of weight or naturally thin either. It just makes me want to binge though :(
  • marinabreeze
    marinabreeze Posts: 141 Member
    I don't like it - I already know I'm big, and it's not like telling me is going to be some sort of wake-up call.

    My mom made a comment on it a week ago, saying that she was worried about me and I needed to lose weight. I wasn't angry at her because I know she was concerned (she struggles with her weight too and was recently diagnosed with type II diabetes), but I was upset.

    A couple of weeks ago, she saw me for the first time in several months - I visited her since I live out of state. I didn't want to go because I had gained since the last time I visited her and I didn't want to be judged. However, I am slowly but consistently losing after being at my highest weight ever, and had been into it for a few weeks when she saw me. She didn't know that I was even bigger than I was when she saw me, she just saw that I was bigger than the last time she saw me.

    She said that she thought telling me would get me to get serious about losing it, but she assumed I wasn't trying and she doesn't live with me every day. Because it's my mom and not a stranger, it hurt, and it was enough to almost make me throw in the towel. She didn't see how I had been counting my calories daily to make sure I was within my goal, or doing the DDP yoga program, or that I started walking daily, or anything like that. If it wasn't for my DH talking me off the ledge, I'm sure I would have just given up trying.
  • just_jess7
    just_jess7 Posts: 271 Member
    I'm fortunate in that my close circle is very supportive and would never think to make a negative comment about my weight. My mom and I have talked about my weight, but I always know that she is coming from a place of love and only wants me to be happy and healthy.

    Anytime I've heard anything from people outside my circle (which, shockingly, has been rare), I brush it off - they know nothing about me, my health, or my life.
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    If you're going to gain a crap load of weight and then sit next to me on an airplane, it's no longer a "private" concern.

    Context is everything....
  • kenyainez
    kenyainez Posts: 222 Member
    I can't stand it but I can't stop it; so I re-adjust how I respond to it. Someone will always have something to say about your life when they stand in a state of ridicule and judgement themselves. I don't tell anyone my personal opinion unless it's asked of me. However, the world doesn't move to the beat of my drum so I just be sure to keep my rhythm whether they try to knock me off or not.
  • caimay149
    caimay149 Posts: 65 Member
    bradsbaby1996 wrote: »
    It's no better on the other end either!! I have lost 114 pounds in the last year and I hear constantly "you're going to blow away"... it makes me so mad!!! Like mad enough that the next person says it is gonna catch it!!! I weigh 150 pounds, I am not gonna freaking blow away!!!

    Hahaha, haters gon' hate!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    I find it more of an eye-rolling moment. It's like "REALLY?! I was wondering why I've had to go up a size in clothing..." The worst is my mum making jabs. "I swam this far today", "are you going to eat that?", "I wouldn't be able to fit anymore in if I ate that much", "How long has it been since you did exercise?" its almost like its a competition. Her 'encouragement' isn't encouraging at all
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    MinnieInMaine wrote: »

    I've had some comments that have rubbed me the wrong way but I'm an open book so I give honest answers and usually try to make discussions out of them. If someone has a problem with my food choices, I ask why and discuss. If someone notices I'm not going to the gym as much, I explain. Etc...

    You shouldn't have to explain anything to anyone. Your body, food choices and gym habits are no one else's business, except maybe your husband's. I would be telling people to mind their own business.

  • blossomingbutterfly
    blossomingbutterfly Posts: 743 Member
    I dislike when people do. I am a smart person and they all know it, thus, do they think I'm really that dumb that I don't know what I look like? But I also get sensitive and my feelings get hurt easily so...

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