Living the single life?

scasey1656
scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
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So, I'm recently single after about 10 years. I have no clue how the single life works!!

Anything I should know about dating these days?

To be honest, I'm clueless. Haha.

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  • JTick
    JTick Posts: 2,131 Member
    How single life works: do whatever you want, whenever you want. Repeat.
  • _SantaClause
    _SantaClause Posts: 335 Member
    Don't be in such a hurry.
  • dym123
    dym123 Posts: 1,670 Member
    Enjoy it!!!
  • burning2much
    burning2much Posts: 4,846 Member
    Have fun, don't rush into anything right away.
  • scasey1656
    scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
    I definitely agree, I shouldn't rush into anything. Kind of just trying to keep everything casual right now. I appreciate all of the advice :)
  • mikeshockley
    mikeshockley Posts: 684 Member
    If you've been with the same person since you were 15, then you should definitely take some time for yourself!
  • scasey1656
    scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
    mikeshockley wrote: »
    If you've been with the same person since you were 15, then you should definitely take some time for yourself!

    Agreed! Not ready to rush into anything. The almost 10 year relationship ended in January of this year. I got into a short relationship afterward which was probably too soon I realize.

  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,832 Member
    It's time for you to take care of you! Take some time to do what you've always wanted, treat yourself and be happy! Don't rush into dating! :)
  • Primal_Warrior_
    Primal_Warrior_ Posts: 2,180 Member
    edited October 2014
    Like most have said , no rush! Find yourself again first, enjoy not being accountable to anyone but yourself.

    There is no hard and fast rules to living as a single person. I've been single all my life. I've enjoyed dating women, and I've enjoyed the periods of just being on my own.
  • Misshodge64
    Misshodge64 Posts: 8,588 Member
    Yes, keep your legs close and remain a lady.
  • scasey1656
    scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
    Misshodge64 wrote: »
    Yes, keep your legs close and remain a lady.

    Haha! I love it.
  • Misshodge64
    Misshodge64 Posts: 8,588 Member
    Plus you seem like a lady who is herself, embrace your individualism. You are U, don't let a man shape and mold you. You are who you are, compromise but don't change
  • scasey1656
    scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
    Misshodge64 wrote: »
    Plus you seem like a lady who is herself, embrace your individualism. You are U, don't let a man shape and mold you. You are who you are, compromise but don't change

    Thank you! I appreciate that. :)

    I agree with you, I see too many people changing themselves when they get in a relationship.

    I'm looking forward to the future whatever it brings!
  • Behxo
    Behxo Posts: 1,190 Member
    Don't focus on dating guys, be single for awhile, focus on yourself and HAVE FUN! go out, drank, partyy :p
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
    You have to kiss a LOT of toads to find a prince, no matter who you are.

    Just remember that and don't let it frustrate or get you down. Have fun!
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Finish or work on your education. Establish your career. Enjoy life. Then worry about guys laterz.
  • scasey1656
    scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
    Chaelaz wrote: »
    Finish or work on your education. Establish your career. Enjoy life. Then worry about guys laterz.

    I like that plan! Been slowly making lifestyle changes, trying to better myself. School seems like the next logical step. I need to figure out what I want to do with my life.
  • helenarriaza
    helenarriaza Posts: 517 Member
    Do different things, meet different people, travel.
  • OlyCapitalChick
    OlyCapitalChick Posts: 236 Member
    sending you a FR <3
  • p8liwag
    p8liwag Posts: 919 Member
    edited October 2014
    Its all about me myself and I and I'm loving it ;)
    (I cry myself to sleep :'( )
  • sentaruu
    sentaruu Posts: 2,206 Member
    p8liwag wrote: »
    Its all about me myself and I and I'm loving it ;)
    (I cry myself to sleep :'( )

    someone needs a hug...
  • danielleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
    danielleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Posts: 68
    Sorry to hear about the break up.

    Take some time for yourself, do not rush into something new, wait for the right guy.

    Also, slightly depressing, but generally I've found that people have a lot less respect when it comes to dating than they did ten years ago.
  • NK1112
    NK1112 Posts: 781 Member
    scasey1656 wrote: »
    So, I'm recently single after about 10 years. I have no clue how the single life works!!

    Anything I should know about dating these days?

    To be honest, I'm clueless. Haha.

    I took a look at your profile before answering ... and gotta say that it's great, the changes you have already made in your life and this one that you are working on now.

    Everyone has said it ... yet it's worth repeating ... take your time.

    I know it's lonely and hard to be on your own after you have been with one someone special for a long time ... and that exclusiveness may have resulted in you being more isolated from other people outside of work than you'd like. Working 2 jobs makes it really hard to find time for anything besides eating, sleeping, dressing and getting to and from ... but can you perhaps find some time to get out socially in a group of people? Somewhere public, but not a bar, where you can meet people and make new friends, or attend group functions that are social in nature?
  • 999tigger
    999tigger Posts: 5,235 Member
    Its a real opportunity for you to do all those things you wnated to but never could in a couple. Enjoy being selfish and only having yourself to worry about. Start learning about yourslef who you are, what you stand for and realising you cam do just fine by yourself for a while. It will give you a lot of understanding and appreciation. Worst thing you could do is rush into another relationship.

    You should know when you are ready to move on but be prepared to kiss a lot of frogs.
  • Primal_Warrior_
    Primal_Warrior_ Posts: 2,180 Member
    NK1112 wrote: »
    scasey1656 wrote: »
    So, I'm recently single after about 10 years. I have no clue how the single life works!!

    Anything I should know about dating these days?

    To be honest, I'm clueless. Haha.

    I took a look at your profile before answering ... and gotta say that it's great, the changes you have already made in your life and this one that you are working on now.

    Everyone has said it ... yet it's worth repeating ... take your time.

    I know it's lonely and hard to be on your own after you have been with one someone special for a long time ... and that exclusiveness may have resulted in you being more isolated from other people outside of work than you'd like. Working 2 jobs makes it really hard to find time for anything besides eating, sleeping, dressing and getting to and from ... but can you perhaps find some time to get out socially in a group of people? Somewhere public, but not a bar, where you can meet people and make new friends, or attend group functions that are social in nature?

    ^^^^ this is sound advice
  • scasey1656
    scasey1656 Posts: 89 Member
    Thank you all for the advice! I was feeling a little down there for awhile but I'm feeling a whole lot better. I have definitely learned that I need to keep my distance from the ex in order to heal. Made the mistake of trying the friends thing a little too soon I think. This has been a learning experience for sure.

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