I'm losing it.

Awwwww sounds like you need friends who encourage you! We're all here for you!

You've done so well, don't let this stop you. Tomorrow go back to the things that helped you get the first 14 off. Sleep deprivation hinders weight loss, so get more sleep, drink more water, start exercising again and start eating right. I know it's hard and it's a long process but it's worth it and you CAN do this.

As for your family -- I would guess if they didn't say anything that they are jealous. Use it as your motivation to show them how awesome you can look!

If you want to friend me, I will talk to you anytime! Don't be sad!

Some people, family included, only focus on the negative, which is really unfortuante. I'm nowhere near loosing 14kg, so I envy you!

I've been in a bit of a slump lately about my whole lack of fitness/poor eating habits, and I can empathize in that regard. It sucks to be stuck in a funk.

Why don't you treat yourself to something like a manicure or a pedicure, so you feel a little better, and then re-start? Everybody has hiccups now and then, the point is that you get back on track. To err is to be human :-)

I have the same issues. My husband is very against me losing weight so when he is home, he literally will try to sabotage me by wanting to eat out all 3 days that he is home. Friend me and we can support each other if you wish. We got this!!

Aww, I'm so sorry you've hit a rough patch. But just remember why you're doing this. You're doing it for a better you. I know it's tough when you don't have the "real life" support you want.And it sucks even more when you've dropped weight, but no one seems to notice. But, you're doing an amazing job! My family is not supportive at all. Thankfully, I have the wonderful people here on MFP to get me through the tough times.

So tomorrow, remember that you're on this journey for YOU and no one else. You're on the journey to be the best person you can be. And you know what, the journey will be worth it. I know it's a bit different with friends online as it's nice to have "real life" support, but if you need a friend, please feel free to add me. I have faith in you and know you can do it! Look at what you've accomplished already. You should be SO proud of yourself.

Tomorrow is a new day, a clean slate. So when that waggon comes back around tomorrow, jump on it! We're all on that waggon waiting for you to return.

I know it's hard to look at the positive when you are feeling so sad but this is the most important time to do just that. You have lost 14kg!!!! What an accomplishment that is! Try and focus on the good things and your mood should follow. I am here if you need any support. I am going to add you right now....hang in there because this too shall pass my friend.

We are here for you if you remember to do as you have and share. You can do this. Lack of support is hard, but that is why you are here with us. Take one thing and do it better tomorrow. Turn on the music and dance. You are doing this for you not anyone else! Keep up the good job!

Sleep deprivation = BAD BAD BAD BAD for weight loss. I recently got this e-mail from my gym that explains the importance of sleep..

"Hit that snooze button and sleep in a little later. It's one of the best kept secrets to weight loss success. According to research, getting enough sleep (8 or more hours every single night) helps your body burn more fat when you're dieting.

In a study, getting less than the optimal amount of sleep each night had detrimental effects on a group of dieters. After two weeks, the dieters who had spent a mere 5.5 hours sleeping each night lost 55 percent less body fat compared with the dieters who spent 8.5 hours snoozing nightly. And here's the really big surprise: Not only did the light sleepers burn less body fat, but their weight loss efforts carved away substantially more lean body mass compared to similar efforts by the good sleepers. Not good, because muscle helps keep your metabolism fired up, so you naturally burn more calories throughout the day.

The short-duration sleepers also had higher levels of ghrelin in their system - a hormone that induces hunger. And it seems that extra ghrelin triggers an energy-starved body to retain fat and calories rather than burn them. Interestingly, both groups of dieters lost the same amount of weight, but given the difference in muscle loss and appetite hormones as well as in calorie burning, it's easy to speculate that the good sleepers are better set up for long-term weight loss success."

Don't give up! No one said this was going to be easy, but by no means is it impossible. We all have weeks where we don't lose, we all have weeks where we gain, but the ones who push through the ups and downs are the ones who will achieve their goals. I wish you the best!

I understand it is hard, but anything worth having is! Take a moment, breathe. You have done an AMAZING job, 14kg is the average weight of a toddler - look at that, you've lost a little person!

Focus on the basics again - getting enough sleep, eating regularly, watching portion sizes, getting some exercise etc, take it step by step and you'll be on your way again before you know it.

I agree with a previous poster - This is about YOU, it's all about YOU! Do it for yourself first and forget about what anyone else says (or doesn't say).

Hugs!

I feel for u as well, its so hard when you put yourself out there and no one even sees your hard work. It took a while for ppl to finally say I loss weight, at around 35lbs of loss. I have done this since Oct.'10 and I have now done as you and put myself in a stand still. I just dont know if I can get back on the treadmill and walk no wheres for hours again. I so feel your pain, I hate water now, LOL, But you know we have to get back up and we have to look forward to tomorrow. We need to tell the voice in side us that we are worth this, we can do this! We have worked so hard to get the lbs. off and we cant turn back now! You and I need to get out of the mud and remember why we started this to begin with. Its not going to be easy, we are going to fall but we have to get back up, pat the dirt off our knees and suck it up! We can over come this food addiction, the junk food that makes us so unhappy anyway! We need to stand up for our selves and do this! Dont let another day go by without fighting for u! I am here and i have more bad days then good but it works cause i get back in the game! Okay thats all the pep talk I have, LOL, I am done I hope This helps or at least stop you from eating while u read this, We are in this together, its not easy, I am doing it everyday kicking and screaming! :0)

Bella, I'm so glad you posted here instead of holding all that sadness inside and unspoken. When I read your post, I thought about a meditation practice that is ridiculously simple and can be done anywhere, any time - no candle or incense needed. It's called tonglen, and part of it has to do with recognizing that in a world of billions of people, at any given time, millions of others are feeling exactly like you - struggling with feeling alone, sadness, weight loss, you name it, we've all got it at one time or another.

Check out this link, it's a really simple practice and VERY effective.

http://www.shambhala.org/teachers/pema/tonglen1.php

peace to you.

Get back on track and you'll start to feel much better. I exercise alone and honestly, I prefer it. I can focus on what I'm doing and can make sure I get the most out of my workouts. I have a lot of friends on this site that help keep me motivated even when I'm not losing. It's hard for us all, we all face plateaus. It's something we have to overcome ourselves but support from other people here helps keeps the spirits up.

Oh gosh I remember the sleep deprivation all too well. *shudder* Any reason why the baby wakes up so much?