A Rant from a "Skinny *****"

I appreciated your "rant". I personally have a lot of weight to lose but my BFF is thin {my perception is that she is thin} and yet she is always trying to lose 10 - 15 pounds. It's hard for me not to look at her an think that on my best day my body has never looked like hers and I wonder why some days she is so hard on herself. My friend and I have talked openly about this very topic. She uses MFP too. Your message was a reminder to me to not be too self absorbed and only focus on my own goals. Thanks :flowerforyou:

Not jealous, not angry and in no way hate or even care when someone smaller than me complains they need to lose weight. If you think you do, you probably do. What you do with your body is of no concern to me. I hope you don't think that EVERYONE who is larger than a size 6 thinks that way because really, it just isn't so.

I guess I can understand. Please understand from a fat person's point of view....We think you are beautiful and we would give ANYTHING to look like you. When you tell us that you are overweight, it feels to us as if you are saying that we are HUGE! See, if a small beautiful person is "fat", then what does that make us?? Beyond hope?? Worthless?? Grotesque?? The sword cuts both ways. Good luck to you. :flowerforyou:

Thank you for posting this!!! I was reading some posts lately that really got me irritated about this subject, but you put it much more eloquently than I could have. Let's all respect each other for what we're doing here, trying to be the best us!

I guess I can understand. Please understand from a fat person's point of view....We think you are beautiful and we would give ANYTHING to look like you. When you tell us that you are overweight, it feels to us as if you are saying that we are HUGE! See, if a small beautiful person is "fat", then what does that make us?? Beyond hope?? Worthless?? Grotesque?? The sword cuts both ways. Good luck to you. :flowerforyou:

I appreciate and understand your point of view. Thanks.

We all have goals that we need to achieve; regardless of our image or whatever one is trying to achieve. I do believe that it is unfair for anyone to judge another, unless you life in that persons body and life. I really wish this whole hollywood stereotype would just go away, I prefer to associate with someone because of something in common, a sense of humor, intelligent conversation or because we are in the same place at the same moment.

If we could all just spread one thing, it should be living a healthy and wellness oriented lifestyle. Don't get me wrong, I love an occasional beer & buffalo wings or salad and water, but not every day - moderation is key and my hardest part to learn.

Your thoughts are well received by most, and most won't respond; but good luck to you and everyone.

Excellent posts girls!!! It's health that is important whether it's weight loss, or maybe a person may want to gain some weight, and many more things. Beauty isn't just on the surface of you....it's what you are inside. I've met many people in my lifetime who are beautiful on the surface but the inside is reeeeeaaaalllly dark.

Been there... Done that... (been skinny and obese)

At one time in my life I was a skinny little thing, I even won beauty pageants and made a good deal of money modeling. I was very thin, but not happy. At another time I was over 100 pounds overweight, and still not happy, but really no more "unhappy" than I had always been. But at least I had an excuse. Now, I am no longer unhappy. It was a choice, and still is a choice I make each day.

We all know that self-esteem should come from within... not what we look like. Heavens, we could be in a car wreck, lose a leg, mess up our face, and then what??? Did we lose our value? No, we are still the person we molded by our decisions.

It's all a matter of respecting each other.

Some people who are "obese" or "overweight" still find themselves attractive.. but they have to lose weight for health reasons. Their self-esteem isn't wrapped up in their shape or size, but rather in who they are. If a person who clearly has no weight issue focuses on their weight as if it were a reason for them not to feel good about themselves, you can imagine how that would come across.... very self-centered, immature and perhaps cold. If they are seeking comfort from someone who they would consider to be "fatter then they are"... well , it seems like they might be wanting to make themselves feel better by comparing their sorrows from an advantage.

Anyway, we are all here for a reason, and we all have a lot to offer one another. We all want to be liked, respected and treated with dignity. I have no problem helping someone who is "skinny" any more than I have a problem helping someone who is not "skinny". I think most people on this site would feel that way. It is hard though to take advice from someone who hasn't been there. And it's hard to give advice if one doesn't understand the others issue.

I hope that no one ever feels excluded, irritated or saddened... just realize that this site (this whole world) is full of hurting people, both thin and heavy... And sometimes written messages may come across hurtful unintentionally.

I am not sure if this is the right forum, but here goes.

I am one of those so called "skinny *****es". Well, truth be told, I am not all that "skinny" because I am quite short. But I've read enough blogs & comments to know that I am probably well hated. You see, I am currently a Petite size 6. My so-called "skinny" clothes are 2's and 4's. So because I am smaller, I should "shut up and stop whining."

True, I've never had a large amount of weight to lose, and true, I've never suffered the torment & humiliation that so many overweight people endure.

With that said, self image or self esteem issues are not limited to only the overweight. No doubt an anorexic or bulimic feels a lot of emotional pain, for example. Eyeglasses, braces, freckles, shortness, tallness, skinny, fat, funny clothes. There a many reasons people are made to feel horrible about themselves.

I had hoped when I joined MFP, the community would be different. Whether we are trying to lose weight, gain weight, overcome an eating disorder, get stronger, overcome physical pain by getting stronger, rock a bikini, climb a mountain or just be able to do ordinary everyday activities with more joy, aren't we all here for the same reason, to feel and look as great as we can?

Please, I hope just one person reads this and understands that when a slim friend complains about her weight, it may not be about the weight so much at all. And if someone is trying to lose a relatively small amount in comparison to another, that does not mean their journey is any less important. To tell me to "stop whining" is belittling, like I don't matter. It matters to me! Does this make sense to anyone?

Good luck to each and every one of you no matter what your personal goals are! :flowerforyou:

I was told once, that it does not matter if you have 200 pounds to loose or 2, it all feels the same, You are right, regardless of our stories we all have one... I for one hope you get exactly what you need, and accomplish everything you are setting out to do. IF you ever need a friend...Don't hesitate....

It's all a matter of respecting each other.

This says it all.