I feel like I look SO much bigger than other women my age, h

you look great.. dont go overboard stressing about your weight.. if i was you id only be working on maintaining it!

When I was at the weight I am trying to get back to now I was at the pool with my daughters. My oldest needed to use the restroom so we walked over to the building to a glass door. I saw this woman through the glass door and thought how amazing she looked. How I would love to look like that in a bikini but with my built I would never be so small and fit.

Then I realized I was looking at a reflection on myself. Seriously had no idea I looked like that until I saw myself "through someone elses eyes". I knew what size I wore and that I looked good, just never saw myself in the way I did in that reflection.

I'm almost 5'9 myself and am really trying to look like you. Although this time I hope to be more comfortable with myself and learn to maintain and not go into a tailspin if I flucuate a few pounds!

Really work on enjoying and appreciating where you were and where you are now, you earned it!

Babe, I'm in a similar situation. When I was a teen then a young wife I thought I was a fattie. When I look back at pictures of those times I don't look like a fattie, but I sure thought I was then. As time went on I started to put on weight and it just proved that I was a fattie. I saw a fattie in the mirror at size 22 I saw a fattie in the mirror when I got down to a size 4. I started to put on weight, but my reflection in the mirror stayed the same to me. I have determined to get back to a size 4, but when I look in the mirror all I see is a fattie. Size 8's are getting too big, but I can't see it.

Face it, you'll probably always see yourself as big in comparison to everyone else. If we all wore badges with our weight on them I think we'd be surprised. I was the weight monitor for our recent work weight loss challenge. There was a short one who weighed the least, but thought she was fat. There was a really tall one who weighed the most and thought she was fat. Every woman in the middle of the pack thought she was the fattest and there wasn't 20 pounds separating the weight. It was amazing to me that I didn't weigh a lot more than everyone else.


Judge your size by your clothing size or by your measurements, but not by what you see in the mirror because you suffer from "fattie vision." Love yourself!

I know I'm pretty much repeating everyone else at this point, but you---absolutely truthfully--have a gorgeous figure. It feels weird describing another woman piece by piece, but seriously: thin legs and arms, flat tummy, defined hips and waist without a hint of muffin top...DAMN, girl. This is what I want to look like on the beach this summer, and I'm one of the lucky ones who have had a healthy BMI from the start.

Also want to agree with another poster that grad school is a GREAT time to get some cheap therapy. At least at my pretty typical (large, state) university, the first several initial sessions were free, followed by 10 dollars per session. Just having a space where you do nothing but talk about yourself is...well, discomforting, but also extremely helpful. Especially when you know the person you're talking to has zero expectations. Sucking it up and making an appointment was probably the best decision I made first semester. Best of luck to you!

First off, it is obvious you arent anorexic. You can see the tone in your body. There is definite toning and muscle there and that takes alot of sweat and tears so congrats!!! You are doing soooo well!

Also, being TOTALLY honest and not sugar coating, you look AMAZING. Seriously. When you start a weight loss journey its really hard to get out of the mind set that you arent good enough, you could be better, you could look like that model. But to be honest, some girls have curves. There is NOTHING wrong with that. And not only do you have awesome curves, but you have muscle and a great bikini body! From here, its the mindset and maintaining you are going to struggle with. You have to stop comparing youself to other woman! Every woman has a different body shape and bone structure. Some girls have really really small bone structures which is great for them, but you cant change what you are born with. You have to learn to love that body and see the beauty in it! Except compliments from the people around you, dont let yourself say "well i am not as skinny as ____" That will just make you go crazy! Just learn to love yourself and the body you were born with! It IS beautiful!!!!

Oh my word, you are almost 5-9, you weigh 133 pounds and you have CURVES in all the right places! I think you are fantabulously lucky, and probably other women are looking at you and envying you. Maybe the curves are throwing you; you probably do have to wear different styles than someone who is built like a boy. But this is not a bad thing! Think of the styles they could never pull off that you can really wear!

If I were you, I might invest in a day with a really good clothing person who can show you what styles will flatter your curves. That might make a real difference for you.

Best wishes to you!

We all look in the mirror and see the worst bits of ourselves (I am guilty of that too) but the people around you don't see those bits. I was looking really hard to find something to critize but I think you have a problem with your body shape because it doesn't look like you have wabbly bits.
I think a stylist is a great way to go, they will be able to tell you how to enhance your beauty and let go of the areas you aren't too proud of. Then you will realize that you actually look better than that person that was pointed out to you

I swear this is an honest reply. You look lovely. You have such a nicely defined waist. Your face is gorgeous and I love the color of your hair and eyes. Id pay to look like you and honestly I wouldnt change a thing.