Why people are mean?
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You're grown.
Your profile says you're 38 years old.
Stand strong & don't cave to peer pressure, which in & of itself is a very odd thing to have to deal if you're not a tween or teenager.
It really is an odd thing to deal with if you aren't of school age, but its sad that we do still deal with it in our adult lives.0 -
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Wow. You must have very thin skin. I give crap and take it from my friends all the time. It is all in good fun. Like Rick's bowl of sadness that he eats all of the time.0
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Just because someone comments about a muffin or a dessert doesn't mean they are jealous, insecure or being rude. It could literally just be a off hand comment that you're taking to heart.
I've never had any of my friends "pressure" me or make comments in a negative way about my weight loss. It's probably because I don't expect them to.
If you expect people to be jerks, they will always be jerks, because that it how you interpret every single one of their actions.
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I don't think anyone was being intentionally mean. Some of it was light teasing, which can be irritating, but may not have some deep dark jealousy underlying it. Same with the woman who offered dessert. Maybe she was trying to undermine you, maybe not, but it would be helpful to develop a bit of a teflon skin. Just let it roll off of you if it bothers you. These just seem like incredibly small moments, and it would help you, I think, to work on being impervious to them.0
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One thing I had to learn in this process was how not to give in to people trying to get me off my plan, or who didn't understand my plan. People naturally react to anything other than the status quo, so sometimes it got me attention I didn't want, usually in the form of good-natured ribbing. I didn't always love it, but I realize it's just part of the process.0
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I lost more than 60 lbs gradually within 8 months and now size 2-4 and I was size 16. My boss told me yesterday that I look 20 years younger after this weight loss ( nice because he does not compliment in every corner and sounded genuine )... I did it mostly by weighing my food and religiously not eating any pastries or sugary or junk food. The girl at work pressured me to eat a small amount of muffin and spread the roumor that I ate some. Now other people are rediculing me that I should have a day off diet, or it's a slippery slope... I am mad at my friend telling people about me eating that muffin and laughing at me. How should I approach the subject with my friend? I am not rediculing her bad eating habits... Also at the party one of the friends came to me when I just entered and said that she cooked special desert and I must eat some... How to answer that too!? I said there is too much obligations right off the bat, but thank you for thinking about me. I think women are mad at me that I lost so much weight. How to cope with this jellousy?
Tell them that policing your body and eating is offensive, and it's offensive when they do it to anyone -- fat or thin. That they're participating in their own mistreatment when they do it.0 -
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It sounds light-hearted. Now that you are slender, people will joke about your slenderness. People have been doing that my whole life. And they will do this either by making jokes about how slim you are (If I hold up a pencil in front of you, you disappear), or "Oh no, don't gain weight". Or by making jokes that contrast your slimness, such as that you are going to eat all the cake, etc. Or they will call you fat.0
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Who cares what they have to say! You ate a piece of muffin? OH NO!!!!! You may be going to HELL!!!! Seriously, who effin' cares what other people think.0
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Omg they sound like horrible people. How terrible you have to deal with "those" people. Or something.0
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I have been through food bullying at work too. I laugh it off and keep walking. Stick to your guns, they are simply jealous. I have also tried not talking too much about my workouts and weight loss unless someone asks.0
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Me too, I am not discussing food and exercise at work either, unless someone approaches me. I think they are all good people, I just have to say something back rather than rant here. I guess anyone could say something rude without realizing. I will have to tell them that it bothers me and this most likely will solve the problem. Just interesting to observe how friendships disappear and people are becoming not very nice if you lose weight. Well, I will find new friends.0
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Smile and say, thanks but I just ate.0
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Their comments are more about themselves than about you even though the comments are directed towards you. They certainly aren't going to point out their own faults so they point out other people's faults. So what you had a muffin, you can afford to have one because you have worked hard to get where you are now and one muffin isn't going to make or break that work.0
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I'm all too familiar with this behavior. It happens with other life changes as well. She is not your friend. Keep your eating and exercise habits to yourself. Change the subject when people want to talk about it. Say "no thank you" when offered food. They should accept that, if they don't they are pressuring you. You call the shots.0
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