Hi Everyone! I'd like to ask for your help and support

I'm almost 55 and having a hard time losing 20 lbs. I cannot stay motivated. The older I get the harder it is to lose weight yet I do not want to cave in and will keep trying. I've not hit menopause yet and refuse to take hormone replacement therapy to help with mood swings, lack of sleep, etc. I'm not telling you this to feel sorry for me. Far from it - I'm telling you so you understand where I am right now. I want to feel good about myself again and be proud of what shape I hope to be in for my age! I look forward to corresponding with you all. Thank you!