55 year old mama finally deciding to take care of herself

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Hi. I'm Kathleen.

I've always struggled with my weight. I weighed 142# in 1981 when I married at age 22. (I thought I was fat then - ha! What I'd give to be in that place again. :o ) 15 years later I was at 200#. In 2001, I lost down to 172 and stayed there for a couple of years. 5 years ago, my life got crazy with a very rebellious teen daughter that was out of control.

All that to say that I have ballooned up to 235, and I am miserable. My clothes don't fit, I am out of shape, and I am shocked at the person I see looking at me from the mirror.

Our daughter, who is now 18, moved out this weekend, and I resolved that I am finally going to start taking care of myself -- for my sake and the sake of the children I still have at home.

I began with a one mile walk this morning and I am logging my meals. My first goal is to lose 70 pounds at a rate of 1.5# per week. That will most likely take almost a year. After achieving that goal, I plan to go after the last 20#.

I appreciate any encouragement, advice, and prayers. I am a Christian, and I know all things are possible through Christ who strengthens me.

I look forward to traveling this journey with the rest of you.

Kathleen

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  • pinksafyre
    pinksafyre Posts: 13 Member
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    Hi Kathleen! You sound like you have your head on straight...the only thing I might question is your goals. "My first goal is to lose 70# a rate of 1.5/wk" I think you need shorter term goals. Like: my INITIAL goal is to lose X; once I ACHIEVE that, I will set a new goal for Y. " etc. Not to say your total cannot be 70 . Kwim? That's just me but..I read a lot online and "They" say to set goals in stages to keep you motivated.
    Good walk this morning! BTW: I am 53, a mom also, a nurse, and I started on :MFP in Feb , but barely used it til about 6 wks ago. I also go to the gym and do various stuff. I am only 5'ft 3 " and weigh....well never mind. But I weigh about 12# LESS than I did in Feb and march! :)
  • rterilynn
    rterilynn Posts: 28 Member
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    Hi! Feel free to add me. 44 and on same mission. My daughter moved out four years ago (college). My turn...four years late in recognizing this.
  • KimberlyLBergman
    KimberlyLBergman Posts: 39 Member
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    Kathleen, you can add me too. I just recently made up my mind to take care of me, also. Still have college age kids at home but they are very supportive of my efforts. I also have been walking.

  • kterri58
    kterri58 Posts: 2 Member
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    Hi Kathleen.
    I will be 57 this coming Feb. My husband and I work together and have been runnig and operating a small dental lab for 30 years. My son & daughter are grown and married, so they are no longer living at home. I have always struggled with weight. I didn't realize that I wasn't fat when I was young. (I only thought I was fat) I shattered my tibia August of 2013 and was not able to put weight on it till January 2014. Needless to say the weight I lost during this time came back plus 10 extra pounds. So in October I started researching the ketogenic diet and decided to begin on January 2015. Here I am! My weight was 195 in November 2014 and I'm now at 182. I still think I have allot to learn about this diet and any help & support would be greatly appreciated. I now need the start thinking about an exercise regiment that I can live with. I'm thinking--biking, walking & some target strength training. My balance has been off and needs improvement. You can add me to your group.
    Terri
  • ellie0213
    ellie0213 Posts: 562 Member
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    Hey Kathleen! I'm 52 (53 in Feb) Also a Christian. Happy to lend support, advice and prayer and will appreciate the same. Friend request sent.
  • britzers19
    britzers19 Posts: 2 Member
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    Hi Kathleen, your message is very true for a lot of people. I'm only 25 and my mother is or has been going through the same thing. She was originally 133 and now 25 years later she's 218. My younger sister caused a lot of stress for her too with a teen pregnancy and no father to boot.

    We are Christians as well and only faith and prayer have kept us from going absolutely insane. I too have started to gain weight. My lowest weight was 152 and I looked great but now after my marriage and stress I've gained more than I ever have. I'm 206 lbs now and feel just like you. No clothes fit, and no matter how much shopping I do I feel like I never have anything comfortable to wear. My weight has forced me into a life of sweats and Tshirts :(

    I'd love to be your friend and we can motivate each other to a healthier tomorrow, one day at a time. My goal is to weigh 165 so I'm looking at 40lbs to lose. I hope we will both reach our goal!

    God bless
  • lisaab27
    lisaab27 Posts: 56 Member
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    Hi I'm Lisa. I am here because I screwed up. I have type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure and I damaged my heart from my crummy diet. I even had to start taking insulin a few years ago even though I am a type 2diabetic which usually doesn't have to take insulin. Back then I was taking 2 blood pressure pills a day and heart medicine for irregular heart beat caused by the damage my heart suffered. Back then I weighed 327 lbs. and after being rushed to the ER, I vowed to eat healthy and I lost 130 lbs. I started swimming laps at my local outdoor pool (I am a crummy swimmer but I found that I enjoyed it and it didn't matter how slow I go, I didn't care), and I got off insulin. In the winter I was walking, only a mile a day, but it's hilly around my house and my blood pressure was great and the doctor cut my medicine down to only 1/2 pill a day. I broke the 200 lb. mark and I felt good. Then I hurt my knee again and went to PT. (Walking is still more difficult.) I still watched my diet but I decided not to continue to be as strict, I was going to "maintain" for awhile. I still had weight to lose but I wanted a little break from the discipline. Then I started getting sick, my BP was climbing so I cut back on salt really strong and it came back down. In the summer I started swimming again and then I could eat more carbs and burn them off,still eating smaller portions, lower salt, lower carb. I just indulged myself on weekends but compared to how I used to eat, I thought I was doing great and I was still swimming. I started slipping gradually over these 18 months. Constant knee problems made it hard to walk and though I still watch my salt I did allow more carbs into my diet. Right now, I haven't swam since the summer. Anyway, I had vowed I was not going to allow myself to regain all my weight back so here I am. I weighed myself yesterday and I have gained back almost 50 lbs over the last 2 years! I thought I gained back about 25. How we live in denial! I almost hit the floor. So here I am back in the saddle, "no more excuses". The diet I followed last time was a medical diet, it is a diabetic diet to help control my sugars. So I count carbs, not calories. Most diabetics can have a bit more protein then I can on this diet, because it is also to lose weight. I must eat 5 meals a day: breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner, snack. The meals are only 45 carbs at breakfast, lunch and dinner, plus 2 ounces protein at lunch, 3 ounces protein at dinner. Snacks are only 15 carbs allowed. I have to measure everything. I have a little scale and I have some measuring cups that I use. If you eyeball it, you will give yourself more. It is a 1800 calorie diet, if you count calories. One of the ways I messed up is that I started allowing myself to go out to eat on the weekends. Good on diet all week, go out to eat on Sunday after church. Then it was Saturday and Sunday. When I was losing weight the first time I didn't go out to eat very often. And when I did, I cut my portions in half before I took my first bite. I had stopped doing that also. Anyway, to help me kick off my diet again, I told my husband no going out to eat for at least 3 months (New Year's resolution). It's hardest the first few weekends. I've been planning special meals for the weekend, so my husband and daughter don't feel cheated. At least I hope they don't. So right now I'm trying to figure out how to work the myfitnessplan stuff. I can only have 3 ounces of protein at dinner, but the diary has lowest amount as 4 ounces. Is there a way of changing that? I kept a food diary in a notebook when I lost weight last time, but my husband bought me a Fitbit and it links to myfitnesspal and he thinks this will be better so I'm going to give it a go. (Fitbit won't let you count carbs while myfitnesspal will.) I'm hoping that having friends who understand what I'm trying to do, will help. I am a Christian also, I know the only reason I lost weight before is because of Him. My self-control is pretty bad and I've found if I stop and pray, God will help me not to cheat. I also know that I have to pray each and every time I'm tempted. If you add me as a friend I hope we can help each other and pray for each other.