I'm way too MOTIVATED..
medlaura
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My running buddy is losing motivation, and i think i'm going to go crazy. I feel like I've texted and facebooked her like a million times today hoping she would join me for a run.
She just responded with a NO + excuse. WHYYYY
I feel like i'm WAY too motivated to workout. She probably thinks i'm crazy begging her to workout with me lol At least she can't say i didn't put an effort in trying to get her come along.
ADD me if you guys would like this type of motivation (the crazy type) lol
Anyway I just felt like venting
She just responded with a NO + excuse. WHYYYY
I feel like i'm WAY too motivated to workout. She probably thinks i'm crazy begging her to workout with me lol At least she can't say i didn't put an effort in trying to get her come along.
ADD me if you guys would like this type of motivation (the crazy type) lol
Anyway I just felt like venting
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like I don't get nagged enough at home0
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Chief_Rocka wrote: »like I don't get nagged enough at home
I just realized how annoying i was being to her, lol Oh well0 -
Kudos on your motivation! Seems like your friend isn't ready to make the type of commitment it takes to make the changes yet. Turn that motivation inward and make it work for you!0
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So if you're so motivated, why aren't you out doing something yourself?
eta: I may have misread. You were going on your own run so you wanted her to come along? OR you were trying to get her to come so that you could go too?
If it's the first, then you're gonna have to accept almost nobody is going to care about working out with you. It's just the honest truth. If you find one person who will stick with it over time (including you!) it's a miracle. Be that one person yourself.0 -
^^^THIS x 1000000000000fivethreeone wrote: »If you find one person who will stick with it over time (including you!) it's a miracle. Be that one person yourself.
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I'm too motivated, too. I don't understand people who always say they lost their motivation! Hopefully your running buddy comes around or you can find another.0
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If you're truly motivated, then you don't need a running buddy to run with you. It would be good to have one but you are perfectly capable of doing it on your own.0
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Motivation and enthusiasm are not required.
My husband and I go the gym together. There are times when one of us will say, "Are we working out tomorrow?" to which the other usually says, "Duh!"
Husband: Goodnight sweetheart. Are we working out in the morning?
Me: Yes, Godammit.
Husband: I need more enthusiasm than that.
Me: No, you don't. You just need me to show up.0 -
And this is why I don't share my efforts at losing weight and working out with my friends IRL. It would drive me crazy. And it would actually kill off any motivation I might have otherwise had.
But if you have that much motivation… obviously you don't need a workout buddy. So, kudos! And enjoy your solo run!0 -
If you will go run regardless of your friend joining you or not, then yaay, good job, keep it up.
If you need her to keep her company or for safety/other reasons, maybe arrange for her to just come and keep your time / watch your stuff / sip a coffee and read a book. She might change her mind once she gets there.0 -
Assuming that this friend agreed to be your running buddy, maybe she's just having a "off" couple of days. If someone was nagging me on a day when I truly didn't feel well or just didn't want to go, yes, I could see where that (constant reminders) would be annoying. A couple of texts should be enough-- tell her when/where you're running in the last one, and that you hope to see her there. Maybe her "excuse" is in place of whatever is really going on that she's not ready to talk about (personal problems, cramps, whatever).
However, if you two have an agreement to motivate each other and do these runs, then I'd ask her and make sure she still wants to do it. If she's cancelling out on you regularly she's not holding up her end of the deal.0 -
pincushion14 wrote: »Kudos on your motivation! Seems like your friend isn't ready to make the type of commitment it takes to make the changes yet. Turn that motivation inward and make it work for you!
She has lost 30-35 pounds this year, she is probably just feeling comfortable at the weight she is in now. I just want to push her a little more to get to her goal weight.
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fivethreeone wrote: »So if you're so motivated, why aren't you out doing something yourself?
eta: I may have misread. You were going on your own run so you wanted her to come along? OR you were trying to get her to come so that you could go too?
If it's the first, then you're gonna have to accept almost nobody is going to care about working out with you. It's just the honest truth. If you find one person who will stick with it over time (including you!) it's a miracle. Be that one person yourself.
I did eventually start doing my workouts alone.
She has been going with me since day 1. She was the one too motivated in the beginning so i followed. I guess she is out of the zone now. (i thinking it might have something to do with this cold Wisconsin weather)0 -
Cortneyrenee04 wrote: »I'm too motivated, too. I don't understand people who always say they lost their motivation! Hopefully your running buddy comes around or you can find another.
I'm sure she will come around. She isn't a quitter
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I think "work out buddies" are overrated. Plan to workout alone and if someone wants to join you great, if not, then you are still doing it anyway. It is too inconvenient to plan around someone else.0
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pincushion14 wrote: »Kudos on your motivation! Seems like your friend isn't ready to make the type of commitment it takes to make the changes yet. Turn that motivation inward and make it work for you!
She has lost 30-35 pounds this year, she is probably just feeling comfortable at the weight she is in now. I just want to push her a little more to get to her goal weight.
Don't push unless she asks. The last thing she probably wants is to be bombarded with support for something you believe she needs, when she may not want or need it for herself.
Weight loss and maintenance is a personal mission. Let her do it on her own, but jump on board to help when she asks specifically for it.
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pincushion14 wrote: »Kudos on your motivation! Seems like your friend isn't ready to make the type of commitment it takes to make the changes yet. Turn that motivation inward and make it work for you!
She has lost 30-35 pounds this year, she is probably just feeling comfortable at the weight she is in now. I just want to push her a little more to get to her goal weight.
That's not your job.
If you want to go run, go run. You don't need her to hold your hand and she can run if she wants....or not if she doesn't want to.
Having a friend to workout with is great, but you can't let your entire routine be tied up in another person.0 -
pincushion14 wrote: »Kudos on your motivation! Seems like your friend isn't ready to make the type of commitment it takes to make the changes yet. Turn that motivation inward and make it work for you!
She has lost 30-35 pounds this year, she is probably just feeling comfortable at the weight she is in now. I just want to push her a little more to get to her goal weight.
That's not your job.
If you want to go run, go run. You don't need her to hold your hand and she can run if she wants....or not if she doesn't want to.
Having a friend to workout with is great, but you can't let your entire routine be tied up in another person.
No, it isn't my job. And i've now just realized that. It is up to her if she was to come along or not.
But its ok, I'll stop and just do me Focus on just myself and MY GOALS! 0 -
missiontofitness wrote: »pincushion14 wrote: »Kudos on your motivation! Seems like your friend isn't ready to make the type of commitment it takes to make the changes yet. Turn that motivation inward and make it work for you!
She has lost 30-35 pounds this year, she is probably just feeling comfortable at the weight she is in now. I just want to push her a little more to get to her goal weight.
Don't push unless she asks. The last thing she probably wants is to be bombarded with support for something you believe she needs, when she may not want or need it for herself.
Weight loss and maintenance is a personal mission. Let her do it on her own, but jump on board to help when she asks specifically for it.
You are right.0 -
YAAAAAAAAAY!pincushion14 wrote: »Kudos on your motivation! Seems like your friend isn't ready to make the type of commitment it takes to make the changes yet. Turn that motivation inward and make it work for you!
She has lost 30-35 pounds this year, she is probably just feeling comfortable at the weight she is in now. I just want to push her a little more to get to her goal weight.
That's not your job.
If you want to go run, go run. You don't need her to hold your hand and she can run if she wants....or not if she doesn't want to.
Having a friend to workout with is great, but you can't let your entire routine be tied up in another person.
No, it isn't my job. And i've now just realized that. It is up to her if she was to come along or not.
But its ok, I'll stop and just do me Focus on just myself and MY GOALS!
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i feel like i lose motivation or go with other peoples excuses if i find a running buddy....it's too easy for me to quit if their motivation wanes so i like to do it on my own. Great job for sticking with it even if she doesn't. 0
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One word: stalker.0
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headofphat wrote: »One word: stalker.
I don't think Stalking is the right word (its not like i'm really following her everywhere she goes begging her to workout with me),I might have exaggerated when i said i've tried reaching her a million times lol, but i see where you are heading with this..0 -
Medlaura, You can drag me out any time you want, I wish I had a friend like you.0
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andysport1 wrote: »Medlaura, You can drag me out any time you want, I wish I had a friend like you.
Lol, YESS
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Medlaura don't suppose you live in Exeter uk ?0
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I am usually the one bugging people to work out with me. Now I got a guy who wants me to run with him and I'm always stuck at work when he's ready to go.0
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veganbettie wrote: »i feel like i lose motivation or go with other peoples excuses if i find a running buddy....it's too easy for me to quit if their motivation wanes so i like to do it on my own. Great job for sticking with it even if she doesn't.
this is so me. I quit asking my husband to walk with me because when he says no, which was most of the time before I finally stopped asking, it was just too easy to brush it off or say "I'll go later" and then not go at all.0 -
^ word. that's why I had so many failed gym memberships...now I just count on myself....granted sometimes my two year old manages to kill my plans... but he is cute so it works out.0
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