How much weight should I lose? [pic]

Beploveshomer wrote: »

in 23 pounds I will come back to this post and re-post swim suit pics and ask the same question!

I think this statement was meant in lighthearted jesting, but I did want to say: the only person whose opinion about your ideal weight matters is yours and your doctor.

I know you may only be using this thread as a "gut check" to confirm suspicions you already have one way or the other, but it's hard to tell over text, so I just thought I'd throw that out there.

I'm 5'9 and was 204 when I started. I'm now 148 and my goal is 140. If I'm still unhappy there then I'll take it to 135 which is as low as I can go on the BMI scale and still be considered healthy. I still think I look pudgy and awful at 148, so something tells me I will want to go to 135.

Annahasababy wrote: »

Wow you look great for 183. My lord. Where would the weight come off ???? Maybe just shoot for 160 (23 lbs). No clue how or where the weight will come off. You look just like I do (I'm 112 lbs but 5 2) well when not pregnant. Ha

You do look great, we are never happy with our weight. I would strive for 160 as well. Any smaller you will look too skinny and will more than likely not stay there. Just my opinion. I have a sister 5'5" @ 145 about and she looks skinny to me. You will never get to a perfect size because you will continue to change your goal. Just love yourself at any size. Eat right exercise and strive to be healthy.

The only advice I could ever give to this: Just start. Don't worry about the number. Just start. Start and don't stop. Watch your clothes get lose, your body build muscle and become firm. Screw the number! Just make your body happy, and become fit and healthy!

I would say just start with small goals like you have been. If you get to a point where you feel healthy and feel good about yourself, then you know you've met your goal. A number can mean so many different things on different people. I'm 5'9" and when I got married I was 137lbs, which I thought looked great, but I was borderline too skinny in my own opinion. The stress of the wedding made me lose that extra weight. I have always normally been around 145-150lbs and felt great there. After 2 kids, I ended up maxing at 203lbs. I lost 20lbs very gradually over about a year because I didn't change my diet or exercise. I just started Zumba 2 weeks ago and between that and changing my calorie intake I've already lost 3lbs (started at 183, now 180). My first goal is 167, which was my weight before getting pregnant the second time, and is also the very top of a "normal" BMI for me. My 2nd goal is getting around that 150lb mark like I was before kids. Sorry for the book lol, but as long as you are happy with your progress, then a number is far less important. Good luck!

I would like to clarify sorry for the confusion. I didn't mean offense when I told her that going down below 165 would look unhealthy I was only talking to her not anybody else. I was specifically telling her because she looks good at her current weight too shoot for 165 thinking if she went lower it might not look right. Sorry for the confusion.
Lisa

Oh and talk to your doctor.

I'm 5'8.5" and started at 183 so we are very similar and I'm currently 171. I have a medium/large frame I look "slim and healthy" at 154 (which is my goal)

I've got a friend however who is the same height as me but with a v. small frame (tiny wrists, feet, head, hip bones - generally a smaller skeleton) and she looks slim and healthy at 125lbs, whereas for me I start to look skeletal at 140.... if I personally got down to 125lbs considering I can see my hipbones now I would look at death's door!

So don't feel pressured to go any lower than would suit your body! I've learnt from that mistake. Maybe aim for 30lbs and re-adjust? You might find that's even too much! Hope that helps, feel free to add me as we seem to have similar goals.