Why people are mean?

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  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
    emdeesea wrote: »
    Don't let these people live rent free in your head.

    I thank you for this quote! Can I use it?
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited October 2014
    It sounds light-hearted. Now that you are slender, people will joke about your slenderness. People have been doing that my whole life. And they will do this either by making jokes about how slim you are (If I hold up a pencil in front of you, you disappear), or "Oh no, don't gain weight". Or by making jokes that contrast your slimness, such as that you are going to eat all the cake, etc. Or they will call you fat.
  • the_arghbowl
    the_arghbowl Posts: 63 Member
    wheird wrote: »
    Wow. You must have very thin skin. I give crap and take it from my friends all the time. It is all in good fun. Like Rick's bowl of sadness that he eats all of the time.

    Mmmm my bowl of disgusting sadness. <3<3<3
  • MzCongeniality70
    MzCongeniality70 Posts: 352 Member
    Who cares what they have to say! You ate a piece of muffin? OH NO!!!!! You may be going to HELL!!!! ;) Seriously, who effin' cares what other people think.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Omg they sound like horrible people. How terrible you have to deal with "those" people. Or something.
  • fitcurves6693
    fitcurves6693 Posts: 3,401 Member
    I have been through food bullying at work too. I laugh it off and keep walking. Stick to your guns, they are simply jealous. I have also tried not talking too much about my workouts and weight loss unless someone asks.
  • gotanda
    gotanda Posts: 26
    Me too, I am not discussing food and exercise at work either, unless someone approaches me. I think they are all good people, I just have to say something back rather than rant here. I guess anyone could say something rude without realizing. I will have to tell them that it bothers me and this most likely will solve the problem. Just interesting to observe how friendships disappear and people are becoming not very nice if you lose weight. Well, I will find new friends.
  • SuninVirgo
    SuninVirgo Posts: 255 Member
    Smile and say, thanks but I just ate.
  • Icandoityayme
    Icandoityayme Posts: 312 Member
    Their comments are more about themselves than about you even though the comments are directed towards you. They certainly aren't going to point out their own faults so they point out other people's faults. So what you had a muffin, you can afford to have one because you have worked hard to get where you are now and one muffin isn't going to make or break that work.
  • VitalStrong
    VitalStrong Posts: 16 Member
    I'm all too familiar with this behavior. It happens with other life changes as well. She is not your friend. Keep your eating and exercise habits to yourself. Change the subject when people want to talk about it. Say "no thank you" when offered food. They should accept that, if they don't they are pressuring you. You call the shots.