Ups & Downs

I was in the same boat after my divorce after 15 years (highschool sweeties) I have taken that last 3 years to relearn who I am and what I want in life. I felt the same way, crying when it happened, but again feel it was a blessing in disquise as well. I am the opposite though, most of my friends were male so it is females I have trouble relating to. Just take your time during this adjustment period to learn who you are before you look for another partner, otherwise you will lose yourself again. Good luck in your journey !

Hey Manda,

I can't say I know what its like to feel the hurt of divorce and the changes that comes with it. But I have felt the same as you towards women. I was a pretty shy guy growing up, had friends, even girl friends but... i never could relate to Girls like the guys i hung out with did (lack of confidence and self esteem on my part) and...Ya i know... I am awesome, but it really is true... it took me til I was 30 before I met my wife and got married and I can say without hesitation that I am Happily married to an Amazing woman...

I can tell just by being your friend for a couple weeks, by reading the uplifting comments, leaving the words of encouragement to every one that you are an Awesome person, and even without truly knowing you more just by seeing how you are to all your friends here on MFP it would be really hard to find a reason to NOT want you as a friend. Your constant encouragement to all your friends, the way you uplift everyone you come around is truly a Godsend, I'm sure that most anyone that is your friend would agree that you are a great part of what motivates every day we log in.

That God has a plan for you is a given, what that is He only knows! Just trust that He will reveal it in the right time. As far as the relating goes I was always told to never go looking for it, that when the time was right it will find you. Does that help you now, I don't know. depends on the guys you hang around with. Wanting a relationship, being with someone its human nature. If you feel that your ready to try, go for it, If you feel that at anytime its not the right time or the right person, be honest with yourself and the person and step back. With your Divorce and your newfound confidence, you will Know if its right or not. Any guy would be lucky to have you, only the right one will Truly LoVE you for you. just my 3 cents

I listen to almost all types of music, last year I was in a bit of a funk and trying to find my way out i would listen to more uplifting music and heard this one. its from a Band called MercyMe (if its not your type of music, no biggie, but it helps me out when i feel a little blue, lyrics are below too.)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7C2o0jHNRuU

The days will come when you don't have the strength, When all you hear is you're not worth anything, Wondering if you ever could be loved, And if they truly saw your heart they'd see too much

You're beautiful, You're beautiful, You are made so much more than all of this, You're beautiful, You're beautiful, You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His, You're beautiful

I'm praying that you have the heart to find, Because you are more than what is hurting you tonight, For all the lies you've held inside so long, And they are nothing in the shadow of the cross

You're beautiful, You're beautiful, You are made so much more than all of this, You're beautiful, You're beautiful, You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His, You're beautiful

Before you ever took a breath, Long before the world began, Of all the wonders He possessed, There was one more precious,
Of all the earth and skies above, You're the one He madly loves, Enough to die

You're beautiful, You're beautiful, In His eyes

You're beautiful, You were meant for so much more than all of this, You're beautiful, You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His, You're beautiful, You're beautiful, You're meant for so much more than all of this, You're beautiful, You're beautiful
You are treasured, You are sacred, You are His

Manda

I have been where you have been with ups and downs. I'm still at my age, trying to figure out what I want in life and love. Growing up, I was heavy and shy and most of my friends were guys who thought of me as one of them. I was a tomboy growing up and was pretty much an athlete (chubby one at that). I played all the sports and related to guys more so then girls.

I have been married and divorced twice. I dated my daughters father for 6 years and married for two then when she was 2, got divorced. I remarried a couple of years later to the wrong man for the wrong reasons. Almost five years later, I still have not really dated or have been in a relationship. I know what I would like in a man and what kind of relationship I would love to have but, my own thoughts are because of my age. I do get very lonley and miss having someone to share with but, it is what it is.

You on the other hand, have everthing to look forward too. You are on the right track and God has so much in store for you. He is leading you down the path he wants you to go. It is us who tends to vere from that path because we think we know what is best for us. God always puts us back on track and his plans for you are so AMAZING. We just have to remember it's in Gods time and not ours. You keep doing what you are doing and keep descovering who you are and what you want and when you least expect it, the man God has for you will appear n your life.

You are such an Amazing woman! You are so kind and sweet. I have been truely been blessed to have met you. I have no doubt that you will have everything you want out of life. You keep being that awesome wonderful person we all know you to be and it will come. Just remember, we are here for you because we are your friends.