I'm on a downward spiral

Find other stores to shop in! I don't mean that to seem trite but instead of using your outing as an excuse to revert to your unhealthy eating habits, use it instead as a spur to lose more weight/inches so you can shop anywhere you want to!

Try checking out on-line stores - that's what I do, because I hate shopping in the actual stores. Don't give up! You've done sooo well!:flowerforyou:

Here's what motivated me to my first goal:

I had a pair of pants that I bought a long time ago for wicked cheap (1.99 on clearance). I loved these pants and they didn't quite fit. Then I got pregnant and it got even worse. yikes.

I just recently got those pants on, and it feels so GREAT! I can finally wear them and love them ON-not just in my closet.

Last night, I bought a beautiful shirt that is just a bit too small. It's my next goal to be able to wear comfortably.

Hi there Cery
Here are my thoughts on this (keep in mind I a guy so what do I know:). Part of me fully understands your frustration. You want to feel "normal", go where the some of the other ladies go and pick out your favourite clothes, just to find that most stores still subscribe to the "Our clothes are only for the skinny, undernourished folks" philosophy. Instead, it feels like you are being sent to the back of the bus, with the other rounder kids. So, I sympathize. But and it is a big BUT:) let us not forget a few things:
First of all, somehow, maybe through exercising, through healthier eating, through changing how much you eat, YOU managed to lose a LOT of weight and with that came of alot of inches no doubt. SO, BE PROUD!. Give yourself another year or two or even five and keep going the way you have and you too shall arrive one day. Imagine yourself as two people. The one that keeps going (as you have) and in five years floats in and out of any store she desires, maybe even with a backpack, running shoes, cruising down the aisles. That will be you. And then imagine the other you, that gives up, eats her way back into depression and then 5 years from now once again longingly looks into the stores. Now imagine meeting your other self and being amazed and getting the courage to ask: How did you do it? The reply would be: Simple, I just kept going, I refused to listen to that voice of frustration, sadness and instead took it one day at a time.
Lastly, I want you to remember back to the time you learned how to walk (seeing that I see that toddler picture as your profile). When you first learned how to walk, you fell down many times, hurt your knees, got frustrated BUT most of all you got up again and tried and tried again. NOT ONCE, even as a toddler, did you say to yourself: "I give up" I will never walk, I guess I jsut keep crawling the rest of my life.
I suggest you find that toddler attitude again:) Be well. Life is good.

I know it is for me to say we love you just the way you are but I know how much you really want this. Just remember the shopping spree you been promised when you hit goal and being the skinny maid of honour for me. I don't care what size you are on our wedding day but I want you to be happy.

Your right it must be so annoying but you have done so well and we can all see the difference, just think you'll be out running monkey before you know it.

I am so proud of you and you are my BIGGEST inspiration - love ya x

I like the way you think. :flowerforyou:

Hi there Cery
Here are my thoughts on this (keep in mind I a guy so what do I know:). Part of me fully understands your frustration. You want to feel "normal", go where the some of the other ladies go and pick out your favourite clothes, just to find that most stores still subscribe to the "Our clothes are only for the skinny, undernourished folks" philosophy. Instead, it feels like you are being sent to the back of the bus, with the other rounder kids. So, I sympathize. But and it is a big BUT:) let us not forget a few things:
First of all, somehow, maybe through exercising, through healthier eating, through changing how much you eat, YOU managed to lose a LOT of weight and with that came of alot of inches no doubt. SO, BE PROUD!. Give yourself another year or two or even five and keep going the way you have and you too shall arrive one day. Imagine yourself as two people. The one that keeps going (as you have) and in five years floats in and out of any store she desires, maybe even with a backpack, running shoes, cruising down the aisles. That will be you. And then imagine the other you, that gives up, eats her way back into depression and then 5 years from now once again longingly looks into the stores. Now imagine meeting your other self and being amazed and getting the courage to ask: How did you do it? The reply would be: Simple, I just kept going, I refused to listen to that voice of frustration, sadness and instead took it one day at a time.
Lastly, I want you to remember back to the time you learned how to walk (seeing that I see that toddler picture as your profile). When you first learned how to walk, you fell down many times, hurt your knees, got frustrated BUT most of all you got up again and tried and tried again. NOT ONCE, even as a toddler, did you say to yourself: "I give up" I will never walk, I guess I jsut keep crawling the rest of my life.
I suggest you find that toddler attitude again:) Be well. Life is good.

I second this idea..... sometimes a shopping day just turns out crummy because as we diet we end up between sizes. Give it a few more pounds (I;m in the usa) and give it a go again. Find some slacks that are a close fit and find a tailor. Waists can be taken in cheaply (I hope so there too) . I hope that works for you.