Which battle is more important to you

I do think it helps when you start to have your head in the right place, however, you WILL have days where your head is definitely NOT in the right place, you feel like quitting, you feel disgusted and tired of all the logging, you just want to eat whatever and however much you want without having to weigh it, etc. On those days you just have to do it anyway, and even if you don't, you just get up the next day and start logging and doing it right again. Because some people will fall off and just say oh well might as well just eat whatever now the rest of the day, week or whatever. It's about how we eat and exercise MOST of the time. If you are consistent and persistent most of the time you will get results. You just hope to have a lot more good days than bad because a lot of bad days will set you back. I used to try logging and then kind of just go off of my calorie limits here and there, and think it was okay, but it wasn't because my calories were consistently over the limit and that did me no good to do it halfway. I still have the philosophy of eating what I like, not depriving myself of anything and just planning for it, portioning it or whatever to fit it into my calories. I do try to limit the junk, don't get me wrong, but I don't ban it either.

In any case, yes I think you need to start with a positive mindset and then hopefully getting results will be the reinforcement you need most of the time to stick with it, even when you just don't feel like it.

Depends on what you mean by "being in the right place". My brain isn't ever going to be in "the right place", even with medication. Is my brain in line with me losing weight? Most of the time, I can deal with wanting to eat all the time. Occasionally, I eat something totally pointless and over calories.

Because I'm a nitpicker, the egg came first. There have been creatures laying eggs long before the evolution of chickens. :P

Hang ou t with more positive people. You would be shocked how negative people can make you feel worse. Also I had to start looking at things and being a little more grateful and celebrate the small victories.

Misslove36 wrote: »

Thanks all, i have been waiting for my head to be in the right place, or have i been using that as an excuse
I know i dont want to give up all the goodies that i have, but i also know that i want to lose weight...i also keep thinking that one day i will wake up and be the virtue of goodness and will from there on forward eat and drink only healthy stuff and exercise like the good girl i believe i will be!!!!!!!!!!!
I will also get to have a couple of hours of bed wrestling with Ryan Reynolds hahahaha

You haven't been reading here long if you think you need to give up ALL of your "goodies."

I think losing the weight happens when your head is in the right place. I've been going through a lot lately and am working on that part. It has been difficult because the stress leads to a lot of emotional eating. But I just have to keep reminding myself -- going to the gym is part of the therapy, too.

Getting your head in the right place. The weight will start falling off once you have the willpower to drag yourself off the bed into the gym and saying no to that free cookie at work.

Mind over body.

I think it's an iterative process. You get your head in line - in some fashion - and that kicks off the weight loss efforts. But then at some point you get to where you can't improve any more physically without make some more changes mentally. Or else you fall off the wagon because something in the system was not quite in place and it got out of control. Then you get back on with your head a little bit closer to where it needs to be than it was last time.