How do people treat you now?

The people who know and love me treat me exactly the same. And strangers are about as oblivious or friendly to me as they were before. I have only seen a few instances I would consider judgement, but I shrug. I switched out the rare "she's fat, why is she wearing that" judgment to the "skinny girl doesn't get it" judgement.

Cancels out, really.

But I walk into stores in the mall and I get a lot of attention from employees working the floor. However, now that I am a size 6/8 as opposed to a 14/16, I put way more into my physical appearance and I like how clothing fits on my body, and that full package comes across in a big way. And they just feel since I am pulled together I will spend more money in their stores.

Most of all, I find I treat MYSELF differently.

People treat attractive individuals differently than they treat unattractive individuals. I have found that to be true from 118 lbs right up to 249. What makes you "attractive" varies by person, but there does seem to be more opportunity to fall into the attractive category when one is not overweight.

But a well put together overweight person is probably going to generally be treated better than a trashy looking thin person (having been both from time to time )

People definitely treat you differently when you're overweight as opposed to the opposite, especially the opposite sex.

I am a pretty decently outgoing person when I'm around crowds. I don't find it hard to make new acquaintances, and I've never had an issue finding a girlfriend even though about half of those relationships came from online. But, about 10 years ago, I was around the same weight I am now, i.e. way too fat, and I put the effort in to lose 90lbs in only a few months.

Let me tell you, the attention I got from just women alone skyrocketed to a place I never even imagined to be possible for myself. For those couple of years when I was at a much healthier weight, I had women chasing me instead of the other way around. Then, as I started gaining the weight back, the amount with which the opposite sex was interested in me was directly proportional to the number on the scale. It was an extremely stark contrast.

I like to lie to myself, and say that it had to do with confidence, but I don't find myself acting any differently than then. Honestly, the only variable in that equation is my weight.

Obviously, I can't speak from a women's perspective on the differences of treatment by the same sex, but I didn't notice anything different in the way guys treated me.

I've noticed the difference first-hand. At my highest weight ever of 220 in middle school, I was treated terribly by students and even teachers would make comments and laugh a little. Then in high school, I got myself down to my lowest weight ever of around 145-150 (extremely normal at my height) and then guys who used to make fun of me wanted to flirt with me, teachers saw the difference (lost the majority of the weight in my later high school years...got down to about 200 by junior year of high school, then dropped the rest by late junior year-early senior year), and even my parents started treating me better. I even got a good job right after graduation and then had to deal with perverted men in the workplace and after that ended, got a job based on my ahem...upper assets (perverted manager). After some stuff happened and I gained some weight back (back up to weighing 190 lbs), I was being treated kinda bad again. Was told on blind dates that I was "too big", had a now ex-bf tell me I'd be sexy if I'd "only lose 20 lbs", and dealt with a LOT of cheating and such. However, I found a good guy finally and he found me beautiful. He overlooked my weight and supported me in my goals in life. Now, in total, I've lost 20 lbs and have made it down to 170 (and I keep going). We have now been together 10 months and each day, he has told me I'm beautiful and continues to do so. I've also been at a good job for about 7 months and they have noticed a difference and tell me that they don't want me to get too skinny lol. I am around 20-25 lbs from my goal and am determined to get there within the next few months.

Sorry for the long reply...just posting my personal experience with the issue...

In my experience, the way people treat you and view you has far more to do with how you treat and view yourself...i.e. regardless of weight, if you're a confident and outgoing person, people respond in kind.

I think people think that losing weight is some kind of magic pill to happiness...it's not...if you're not happy with yourself and confident in yourself to begin with, it's likely that losing weight alone isn't going to change that.

Hipsters give me more attention, but otherwise no difference.

Haven't noticed a difference myself. But I was the type to stay inside when I was in really bad shape, so that might've had something to do with it.

Well, I haven't always been overweight. Before I gained weight, everyone from friends to family would make comments about me needing to eat more and my family would liked to call me a twig. I was 5'4 and my weight fluctuated around 130lbs.
When I gained weight and got to 260lbs, well the comments stopped. In fact, everyone avoided the subject of my weight.
Now, I'm losing weight and my friends are happy for me. My mom asks me for advice to help her with weight loss. My grandmother is very supportive and even paid for a subscription of Cooking Light magazine as a surprise for me. Some of my other family members however, told me at 181lbs I needed to stop losing weight. Now, I do know that a few of my friends would tease me if they knew I was calorie counting. Calorie counting seems to have an awful stigma attached to it.

ccmzone2013 wrote: »

It's a sad world! When I was pushing 400lbs, now I'm 192 I was always the center of the 'fat' jokes, picked on! Couldn't stand it anymore...
Now, the attention is annoying sometimes! Look @ the weight you lost, but you know what? If I didn't have the motivation, determination, I would of never completed my goals!
#NeverGiveUp

Had a look at your profile. Crazy good work, man. Genuinely impressed.

My family and friends treat me the same, as always, because my personality hasn't changed. The frequency I've gotten hit on hasn't changed. My BMI is now low, and I'm underweight, so I'm trying to gradually increase my calorie intake, but what scares me, is the only change I've witnessed so far: women's comments towards me. So many girls and women have come up to me to tell me that they'd love to have a body like mine, because I am "so skinny"! I was in the Dior boutique with my dad, and he was getting me a Lady Dior bag. I wanted the large size, because I believe in practical bags, that will allow me to place all my essentials inside comfortably, rather than just carrying a bag for accessories sake. The salesgirl attending to me immediately told me to get the small or medium sized bag, because of my skinny frame. My dad then told her, "Don't worry. My daughter is slowly working her way up to gaining some weight again, so let her get the size she wants." The salesgirl then gasped loudly and said, "Why gain weight?! People would die to have a skinny body like hers! I wish I was as skinny as her!" It really saddens me, because random women have been coming up to me to compliment me on my body, when this is a weight even I didn't intend to get down to. When I was overweight, I never cared much about aesthetics, and I sought to lose weight, to hopefully minimise health complications in the future. Losing weight has opened my eyes to the reality of the "ideal" body type that is pursued by many, because of some stereotypes that the beauty industry propagates.