How do people treat you now?

cwolfman13 wrote: »

In my experience, the way people treat you and view you has far more to do with how you treat and view yourself...i.e. regardless of weight, if you're a confident and outgoing person, people respond in kind.

I think people think that losing weight is some kind of magic pill to happiness...it's not...if you're not happy with yourself and confident in yourself to begin with, it's likely that losing weight alone isn't going to change that.

That is very well said +1 ^^

Absolutely treated differently. When I lost nearly 60lbs and started a new job in a new city, I was treated much differently than I had been before at new jobs. People wanted to have lunch with me, for example (few people invited me to lunch when I was a size 18). My coworkers threw "welcome night out" parties for me--that had never happened before. I was the same person (pretty fun and funny, imo) but suddenly I was someone that others wanted to be seen with. Also, men volunteered to help me all the damn time. If I was reaching for something, some knight in shining shopping cart would swoop over to get it. If I had a question, salesdude #1 would elbow #2 out of his way to come around the counter to help me, even saleswomen would offer more information. More of my smiles were returned. When I was a size 6, no one could "believe" I'd been an 18--but once I gained some of it back, and my 10s were getting snug... suddenly they are all believers.

People are nicer to "regular" sized people. It's sh%^$y and rude and etc, but true.

I don't think that I am treated differently. I know for sure that my family/friends treat me the same. As for strangers, I don't notice anything different but I could be missing it. I'm pretty introverted and very quiet when it comes to people I don't know. When I'm out and about, I see people but I don't really engage with them unless I know them or have a specific need to talk to them (e.g., servers, store clerks, etc.) so I don't really notice any difference. I'm not antisocial but I seem to have a knack for attracting weirdos so I try to keep to my own little bubble whenever I can. (This is why I don't really get the "people are staring at me at the gym" posts. I have no idea if anybody looks at me because I'm not looking at them.)

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MsHarryWinston wrote: »

I can honestly say that at my lightest, heaviest (now) and every weight in between I have never been treated any differently by friends or strangers. But also no matter my weight I'm super friendly, flirt like a fiend, and carry myself like a powerful sexy b*tch goddess. I also don't know the meaning of the word shy. So I'm never treated like anything other than a super friendly sexy b*tch.
I've always found that people treat you the way you demand to be treated. Weight means nothing, it's all in your baring.

Yes, yes, yes.

I was never treated differently as a fat girl, because I never expected to be treated differently.

The only difference is now I get checked out more.

seltzermint wrote: »

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- indie guys in their 20's don't stop and flirt/talk to me about my shoes, music taste, etc, like they used to (all of the time) when I was much larger.
- men in their 30's, 40's, and 50's check me out a LOT more, and it's very obvious.
- a couple of plus size ladies I have long considered friends are cold/weird to me now.
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This has been the same for me. I'm 22, and people my age don't check me out anymore. However, older men are very, very interested. Awkwardly so.

I definitely feel left out by my heavier friends, and people food push so much now. I'm still on the heavier side of a healthy BMI, but people are constantly talking about what and how much I'm eating. People never seemed interested in what I was eating when I was 40 pounds heavier, but now I rarely make it through a meal without someone commenting on how little I eat. I eat between 1600 and 1800 calories a day, so I'm not starving by any means, but I think my friends and family still remember the massive portions I used to eat.