You re etting too thin

Tanie98
Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
in Motivation and Support


Someone at work told me that I need to slow down with the gym because I am getting too thin. That kind of offended me because being too thin is just as bad as being overweight. Anyways I don't think I am anywhere near being too thin as I still find myself still curvey.Does anyone get the same thing ?
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  • jillianash
    jillianash Posts: 97 Member
    You should try not to take offhand comments to heart.
    You look good to me if you want an opinion, but just know that its your body and its up to you to decide if/when you are fit as you want to be.
  • feisty_bucket
    feisty_bucket Posts: 1,047 Member
    "Essential fat" levels for women are at 10-13%. People at that level and up are not "too thin." You're fine. Person at work is delusional.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_fat_percentage
  • dopeysmelly
    dopeysmelly Posts: 1,390 Member
    feisty_bucket wrote: »
    "Essential fat" levels for women are at 10-13%. People at that level and up are not "too thin." You're fine. Person at work is delusional.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_fat_percentage

    ^^This. Can the person at work see your weight on the scale? Did they sit down and calculate your BMI, waist circumference, waist/height ratio or body fat %, or other well-known markers for weight/size? No? Then their opinion is worthless.

  • Dawmelvan
    Dawmelvan Posts: 133 Member
    You look lovely! Brush that comment off.
  • JustSomeEm
    JustSomeEm Posts: 20,267 MFP Moderator
    I had a recent comment from my mother (I'm 35, grown, and support myself and family... been making my own decisions for almost 20 years now...) regarding being potentially anorexic because I've started to lift weights. Sometimes people's concern can be pretty damn insulting. But I think they're coming from a place of love - even if their concern is misplaced. I wish they had been so concerned for my health and well-being when i was obese!

    Honey - you look great. Keep up the excellent work.
  • MrsPrior
    MrsPrior Posts: 14 Member
    They're probably just jealous. When I started losing several 'friends' told me I was getting too skinny or wasting away, in quite a hurtful way, even though according to all conventional measurements (waist measurement, weight, BMI, body fat %, even clothes size) I was still unhealthy - they were jealous, and abandoned me when I was no longer the 'fat girl'.
  • Ldbg289
    Ldbg289 Posts: 236 Member
    I got something similar last September from my grandfather. He basically asked if I was ill because I'd lost so much weigh since I'd seen him last(I've lost even more since then). Anyway, I told this to my uncle a few months back because after all that time it still bugged me. He told me not to worry about it.
  • ucabucca
    ucabucca Posts: 606 Member
    You do look great and I agree it is hard to hear comments either direction but you have to learn to take it with a grain of salt and know what makes you feel good and healthy
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    First of all they are upset because you are achieving something they probably can't, and second I LOVE you bra! Where did you get it? I've been looking a bra with ribbed support for ages!
  • fitby2012
    fitby2012 Posts: 167 Member
    I call jealously from the coworker. Just do what's best for you. You look great!
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    Aren't you always telling people not to care about what anyone thinks of them?
  • feisty_bucket
    feisty_bucket Posts: 1,047 Member
    BFDeal wrote: »
    I need compliments! Look at me!

    BFDeal, you are a SEXY BEAST and your hair is stunning. Are you a model?
  • jeepskate
    jeepskate Posts: 16 Member
    Fortunately, my coworkers are supportive. You look stunning, ignore them and do your thing!
  • NoelFigart1
    NoelFigart1 Posts: 1,276 Member
    Tanie98 wrote: »

    Someone at work told me that I need to slow down with the gym because I am getting too thin.

    You look quite lovely. I wouldn't not say too thin, but neither would I say too heavy.
  • JazzFischer1989
    JazzFischer1989 Posts: 531 Member
    edited November 2014
    BFDeal wrote: »
    I need compliments! Look at me!

    Yeah... I sense some fishing.

    @OP: Your coworkers aren't used to seeing you smaller, hence the "too thin" comments.
  • Kevalicious99
    Kevalicious99 Posts: 1,131 Member
    OP you look just fine. Btw .. being too skinny is not good either. I was there about 6 months ago at 7% body fat .. it was not pretty. It was my MFP journey gone wrong. My friends called me a "Crackhead" cause that is what I looked like. So .. somewhere in between is better. But probably health wise .. yes less is probably better, to a point and not to excess. Just ignore those people .. it is just their jealousy talking.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    davis_em wrote: »
    I had a recent comment from my mother (I'm 35, grown, and support myself and family... been making my own decisions for almost 20 years now...) regarding being potentially anorexic because I've started to lift weights. Sometimes people's concern can be pretty damn insulting. But I think they're coming from a place of love - even if their concern is misplaced. I wish they had been so concerned for my health and well-being when i was obese!

    Honey - you look great. Keep up the excellent work.

    Are you my sister? Sorry you have to deal with that. I know the feeling. Just about every female in my family (close and distant) is over weight and diabetic. I'm the only one who isn't and who actually works out, so yes, my mom tells everyone it's because I have an eating disorder. :(
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    Oh, and OP, people errantly feel the need to make comments about everything. Ignore it!
  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    Thank you everyone for your encouragement.Just to clear things up, I didn't post my pic to fish for compliments.If i wanted that then i woulf posted in success forum .Just wanted other people opinion since I don't see myself as too thin or skinny.I am happy where I am at and my goal was to reach a healthyweight and still keep my womanly curves
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    I am starting to get the "losing too fast" comments, and I just broke under 200 lbs! I fit XL women's! I average one pound a week loss! The problem is that I am thinner than the person who made the comment.

    By the way, I got the same sort of comments from a certain sort of person the last time I lost significant weight. Back then it hurt. I'd been diligent with my diet for over a year, very safe.

    Now I am older, smarter, with thicker skin.
  • rainbowbow
    rainbowbow Posts: 7,490 Member
    It's important to consider these two factors when a friend/coworker/family member says this.


    1.) as the general population gets fatter and fatter it desensitizes us as to how a normal healthy person should look. You generally hear an overweight person commenting on someone being "skinny" and "don't lose more weight" even if that person has an overweight bmi or high level of bodyfat because their perception is skewed.

    2.) nothing brings out the hatred and jealousy in someone like seeing another person succeed in something they aren't. Many people want to be thinner but lack the will, determination, dedication, and consistency to do it. They use the guise of "concern" to neg you down a notch.

    In regards to your picture, you most definitely do not look too thin. You're over 20-23% bodyfat so you shouldn't have to worry.
  • Newcaro4life
    Newcaro4life Posts: 3 Member
    My mother in law told me once that I was too thin, that I should stop loosing weight. And my mom said I looked better with some more weight on me. :neutral_face: as long as I feel good that's all that matters
  • KimofTas
    KimofTas Posts: 48 Member
    You look beautifully curvy in all the right ways and for all the right reasons. It really makes no difference what one other soul thinks - it's what you feel that matters.
  • steff274
    steff274 Posts: 227 Member
    you look absolutely fine probably jealous of what you have achieved!! different body types hold weight differently.. I weigh myself each morning because I am fighting not to drop!! although my bmi is healthy (on the low end) I Look too thin.. was pleased to see I was up 2 pounds this morning am sure this victory will be short lived!! :\
  • taunto
    taunto Posts: 6,420 Member
    OP, based on your picture, you look fit to me. Is there a reason she is concerned? i.e. is she seeing you starving yourself or anything? If not, then just ignore the person. There will always be people who will criticize the way you look etc. and unfortunately, in todays world people feel its somehow acceptable to bash skinny and fit people.
    feisty_bucket wrote: »
    "Essential fat" levels for women are at 10-13%. People at that level and up are not "too thin." You're fine. Person at work is delusional.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_fat_percentage

    Not that I think the OP is too skinny but shouldn't this number have some correlation with the muscle too? I mean don't we see in cases of anorexics that they have higher body fat percentage but very low muscle?
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    it's cute how you covered your face with a heart.
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